Anti-Asian violence and hate speech are on the rise across the nation.
One single look at the news will show growing tensions between the Asian-American/Pacific Islander communities and the populace of the United States, as elderly Asian people continue to be assaulted in public in broad daylight and Asian-owned businesses become the target of cruel pranks and harassment.
Reddit user Silver-Pizza-2059 was the target of some anti-Asian rhetoric while she was minding her own business.
Unclear if she’d done something wrong, she went to the popular subReddit “Am I The A**hole?” or “AITA” for feedback.
“AITA for reporting two teens for their behaviour?”
Our original poster, or OP, was minding her own business when these people verbally targeted her.
“Apologies this is on mobile so sorry for the format.”
“I (20F[emale]) was walking to the grocery store where two teens (13-14M[ale]) walked by me and made a comment about my race. They muttered ‘ching chong thanks for the virus.’”
“For reference I’m Korean and live in a predominantly white city.”
OP was not about to let them get away with this.
“I was absolutely appalled and asked them to repeat themselves. They said they were shocked I spoke english so well and then proceeded to stretch their eyes thin and ‘pretend to be Asian.’”
“They walked off laughing but I realized they were wearing their soccer jerseys with their numbers on them.”
“I made a mental note of the jersey colour and the numbers and went home to look up the league.”
“I live in a small city so there’s not many soccer leagues so it was pretty easy to figure out what league they belonged to.”
OP made sure they suffered consequences for their racist and inappropriate behavior.
“I ended up emailing their coach and basically filled him in on the behaviour of his players. I also made sure to state that this behaviour is unacceptable and that I would assume he wouldn’t want his team to be represented like this.”
“He emailed me back today and apologized profusely. He said he talked to the boys and that they would not be playing on the team for the remaining games.”
“The boys also sent me an email apologizing for their behaviour.”
“I felt pretty proud about calling out this racist behaviour so I told my brother (16M) about how the boys were punished.”
OP’s brother did not at all respond the way she thought he would.
“He basically called me a ‘Karen’ and how I ruined these boys’ summer because they would not be playing on the team.”
“He also said that since they were young and apologized, they probably didn’t mean it.”
“I personally think that 13 is old enough to know better and act like a decent human being but my brother seems to disagree.”
“Now I keep overthinking and think I might have overreacted. So Reddit, AITA?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors think OP did exactly the right thing by reporting the boys.
“NTA. Better to teach them that lacking basic human decency has consequences now than when this behaviour of theirs escalates to a point where the authorities may need to get involved.”
“I agree with you that 13 is old enough to understand right and wrong and act like a decent human being. You did the right thing by standing up for yourself. I’m sorry you went through this experience.”~Feestje94
“NTA. Things would’ve been much worse for them if you had caught them on your cell phone and uploaded the footage to the Interwebs.”
“Older teens have had their college acceptance rescinded for less, so missing a few games ain’t no big deal.”
“As teenagers, they knew what they were doing, and they knew the risks. Jungkook solo-traveled to Los Angeles for dance lessons at that age.”~Bubbly-Caterpillar35
“That and, Karen actually has a meaning or rather is specific in its container.”
“Part of the container of a Karen is that they experience privilege/power that others in the situation do not (a Karen is generally someone with power who feels powerless and so takes it out in those under her).”
“By that definition OP can’t possibly be a Karen as they had no power or privilege in this dynamic.”
“The whole point of the term Karen is not to say that you complain, but that you use legitimate paths of complaint – designed to prevent harm – to throw your power around over those who have less power than you.”
“It’s a very specific form of bullying. NTA.”~LimitlessMegan
“I’m hijacking your comment in the hope that OP sees this. I have a 14 year old and a 12 year old (and two younger kids).”
“If my two elder kids racially abused (or were just assholes) to anyone, their punishment would be unbelievably harsh.”