Accidents are devastating not just for the person hurt, but also for their loved ones. While some families draw closer together, others let anger and resentment cloud their judgment.
A woman is dealing with that after their boyfriend was injured in a jet skiing accident. She turned to the Relationship Advice subReddit for help.
The 22-year-old Redditor posted:
“My boyfriend was in an accident and his parents are making my life hell!”
“I need kind words and/or advice please.”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I’ve been contemplating if I should write this but I don’t have anyone to ask for advice.”
“In Late July, my 24-year-old boyfriend our 2-year-old son, and I went to his family’s lake cabin, as we do every so often. My boyfriend was jet skiing and he had a terrible accident.”
“It was one of the worst things that’s ever happened to our family, I honestly didn’t think he was going to make it, but he’s still here. He’s been in the hospital almost this entire month. He’s made progress but there’s still a ways to go.”
“During the early days of his stay in the hospital, there’s a lot of family drama that’s been happening between his family and I. His parents have been blaming me for the accident, even though I absolutely had nothing to do with it.”
“My boyfriend’s mother locked me out of their house and kept my son inside with them. They have a house way out in the country, I didn’t have service to call anyone or the police.”
“When she decided to let me back in, she slapped me (which wasn’t her first or last time doing so) and told me she never liked me because I don’t work (I am a stay at home mom). She talks about me to their friends, to my face, and basically outcasts me.”
“She even said since my boyfriend will basically be disabled, she’s gonna take full custody of my son. I honestly wish I could tell my boyfriend what’s happening but he probably won’t comprehend.”
“I’m honestly fed up. I just don’t know what to do.”
Redditors advised the woman to get the proper authorities involved.
“She hit you. She prevented you from taking custody of your child.”
“You call the police for assault and kidnapping.” ~ INTJedi
“Yes please, the added stress on your BF is caused by his mother, it’s not your fault for wanting to protect yourself and your child.” ~ ILoveMyestry
“Yes. Definitely abuse.”
“She sounds evil so keep evidence of anything she says and does to you in case she does try to lie and take your child away from you. Absolutely tell your boyfriend.” ~ dayun616
“Yes, your family is the only important thing here. You have to look out for your boyfriend, and your son.”
“That’s it… There’s a good chance this will cause issues with your boyfriend being conflicted as he gets better (best wishes) but you should expect that and be patient with him.”
“However his mother is causing this and it’s not your fault. You must do what is right for your family and most importantly your son.” ~ fordr015
“I very much agree. I’m very sorry this happened to you and your family, but that does not excuse her behavior.”
“Even though his mother is also under emotional stress from the accident this might’ve revealed the feelings and attitude she kept hidden all along. With your kids father in the hospital I believe it’s more important than ever that you stay together and support each other.”
“Please stay strong for your family and for yourself! And remember you are your child’s mother and your boyfriends partner.”
“You will get through this. Sending positive thoughts and hugs.” ~ Jo_V_ie
The OP didn’t return to say what she planned to do. Hopefully she can find a safe place for herself and her child.