A wedding day should always focus on celebrating the bride and groom. But unfortunately, there is the potential a happy couple could become upstaged by an unwelcome wedding guest.
Redditor bonjourfriend got married earlier this year and prevented something from happening that could have ruined her special day.
But what happened has become a touchy topic with disapproving family members.
She visited the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA for letting my best friend get engaged at my wedding and not my cousin?”
The Original Poster (OP) took us back about a year ago before the drama began.
“I got married about two months ago and this is still a family argument, so I want y’all’s opinion.”
“The whole thing starts a year-ish ago, last February, when I got engaged. [The virus] obviously threw stuff off, but we did end up having lots of fun.”
“Anyway, in July? (Not sure exactly when, but I think it was July) my best friend’s boyfriend approached me.”
“They’ve been dating for five years, and I’ve been best friends with my best friend for 15 years, so when he asked if he could propose at my wedding, I was really happy to share the joy with this amazing girl.”
“We came up with a plan, he was incredibly respectful and told me that if at anytime I decided I didn’t want the proposal to happen at my wedding, he’d accept it.”
“I told him it was no problem and that I was so excited for both of us!”
“Speed up to two months ago, my wedding! (It was socially distanced, only a few key people were there, masked up, most people were vaccinated, etc, etc.) After the ceremony, during the reception, the plan started.”
“I think it was from some movie my bsf loves, but I’m not sure which one. So, I’m tossing the bouquet and I spin around and hand it to her instead of throwing it, he kneels down, it was all very cute.”
“After this, we’re celebrating, we’re both exciting, everything seems to be going off without a hitch. I was actually so happy because so far the wedding had been going perfectly.”
“Twenty minutes later, my cousin’s boyfriend goes up to the DJ (my little brother) and asks him for the mic.”
“He takes it, asks my cousin to come up next to him, and I quickly realized what was going on. To be fully honest, I didn’t want to share the day with my cousin.”
“She’s always been a bit of an attention hogger, and I knew she would make the day all about her.”
“I walk to them, ask my cousin to step aside, and explain to her boyfriend that I’d like him not to propose at my wedding.”
“He gets incredibly upset, saying my friend got engaged, why shouldn’t he be able to, etc, etc. My cousin and aunt also got incredibly pissed off at me, saying it’s not fair that my friend got engaged and she can’t, and are accusing me of being incredibly biased.”
“Am I the a**hole for not letting my cousin get engaged but letting my best friend get engaged at my wedding?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors declared the OP as not the a**hole in the situation.