Sometimes fairy tales reflect real life. And, this Redditor is showing us what it would be like if Cinderella existed in 2021.
Redditor ThrowRA17017 encountered this very issue with her stepsister. So she turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA For sending the police to my stepsister’s wedding?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I (f32) lost my mom when I was 23. It was by far the most traumatic loss I had experienced. I just couldn’t and didn’t want to accept her death. It was unfair, untimely, and preventable.”
“I got in therapy and was doing better but I had issues with my dad’s new wife and her daughter who’s 25 and just got married weeks ago.”
“We do not have a close relationship but we were cordial enough to sit at dinner tables. My stepsister treats me as a relative and wants as much distant from me. But after my father got sick we had to see each other a lot.”
“I’m handling his care while stepmom works full time and stepsister doesn’t do much though she’s always visiting when I moved in to help my dad.”
“Before that I was living with my ex so returning home was just in time.”
OP’s stepsister saw some of OP’s stuff.
“I brought with me all of my mom’s belongings and my stepsister showed interest in my mom’s necklace and asked if she could borrow it to wear it at her wedding.”
“I refused and she tried every method to convince me. I had to put it in a place where I thought it’d be safe after my stepmother got involved. As the wedding approached they both kept convincing me to let my stepsister have it (she bragged about affording a better one but it was a matter of showing who’s in control).”
“I stood my ground and told them how serious I was so they backed off.”
“I didn’t attend the wedding to stay with my dad. I remember wanting to change where I was hiding the necklace while the house was empty but I found it was gone.”
“After searching for hours, I called my stepmom and she said not to worry my stepsister took it and will return it when the wedding is over but it was clear that I won’t see it til after the honeymoon since she said her daughter was staying at a hotel.”
OP was not having it.
“I screamed at her to return it but she argued about not wanting to leave the guests and the wedding already started. I told her I’d get it myself but she forbid me from coming saying she’d have to keep me out for wanting to make a scene.”
“I called the police and explained to them what was happening. I informed them my stepsister intended to leave for her honeymoon with my property.
“The police were sent to where the wedding was being held and they were able to retrieve the necklace from my stepsister. She and my stepmom were in shock and livid.”
“She (stepmom) returned home and kept shouting at me calling me petty and crazy to send the police to my stepsister’s wedding. Ruining it and humiliating them over a piece of jewelry.”
OP’s stepmom even involved her dad.
“She was screaming at my sick dad telling him to handle me after the stunt that I pulled at the wedding. I defended myself saying I only wanted an item that belonged to me THAT THEY TOOK WITHOUT PERMISSION returned.”
“She argued further that I could’ve waited to get it back but I chose to burn the bridge with my stepsister and said that she considers me dead after this. She said stuff I can’t mention here but all I can say is it was a bad night.”
“I might have overreacted by getting the police involved but I had no guarantee of getting the necklace back since I have experience with them in the past.”
Redditors gave their opinions on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Most Redditors agreed OP was not the a**hole.
“Don’t want the police at your wedding? Don’t steal your step-sister’s necklace and then brag about it. Seems easy enough to me.”
“OP, your step family is a pit of a**holes. May I suggest a safety deposit box at a bank for your precious items?” ~ aSeaPersonByNight
“I just said the same thing. How stupid can step sister be to steal something, make it known she stole it then not expect to be held accountable for theft.”~ ThelmaHorse
“Yes! But also…am I the only one wondering how awesome this necklace must be to risk it? I’m expecting a sapphire and diamond collar of at least two inches.” ~ Shaking-Cliches
“No doubt that this is some crazy fixation gone off the friggin rails. Honestly, given the stepmom’s shitty behavior it’s no wonder that her daughter is an entitled AH. Poor OP’s dad, sick and being stuck in the middle of this nightmare.”
“He needs to kick his wife to the curb and enjoy what time he has left in some relative peace and quiet with his daughter.” ~ Dewhickey76
Most agreed OP’s stepmom and stepsister were the a**holes.
“Yup. There’s no way she would have given the necklace back after the honeymoon, my thought was she’d say she accidentally lost it. What an unbelievably selfish act to steal someone’s dead mother’s belongings.”
“I unfortunately know exactly how that feels, when my dad died his family cleaned out his entire house, taking what they wanted and throwing the rest in the trash before me and my siblings even knew he had passed.”
“None of it was really worth much money but its the sentimental value, It’s something I never got over and I never spoke to any of them ever again. Good on OP for doing what she had to, and good on the police for taking her seriously.” ~ The_Amazing_Ammmy
“It also could have been because it belonged to OP’s mom. A way for step-sister and step-mom to somehow prove that they are more important than OP’s mom.”
“They might feel like they can’t talk bad about her because she’s dead (whereas if she was an ex-wife, they gleefully would insult her behind her back), so this is how they can prove that they’re superior to her and her memory.” ~ AnnieViolet
Stealing something so personal and valuable has serious consequences.