When planning the guest list for a wedding, you want to make every effort to invite all of your nearest and dearest.
But of course this simply isn’t possible, with cost and space eventually putting a limit on things, thus requiring the difficult decision of who. doesn’t quite make the cut.
Which naturally, doesn’t always go over well.
The mother of Redditor MadLadyBug8 pushed hard to bring a plus one to her wedding, which the original poster (OP) consistently refused.
Almost entirely owing to the fact that the guest her mother wanted to bring was her pet.
And when the OP’s mother defied her wishes and arrived pet in tow nonetheless, the OP felt there was only one solution to this unfortunate problem.
But worried she may have gone too far, the original poster (OP) took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for kicking my mom & her pet pig out of my Wedding.”
The OP first explained how her mother continuously pushed her to allow her to bring her pet potbelly pig to her wedding, and the OP remained firm in her decision.
“My mom has a huge potbelly pig as a pet.”
“She rescued him from a farm, he’s 7 years old I believe.”
“Back when I was planning my wedding, my mom kept on trying to add things to my wedding specifically for the pig.”
“For example she wanted him to have his own buffet.”
“I turned all her ideas down and told her her pig will not be attending my wedding.”
“Even after I told her I didn’t want him at my wedding, she continued to try to get me to plan my wedding around him.”
“She told me that she needs him to be there because it’s her support animal.”
“He isn’t a registered support animal, even though he does bring her a big deal of comfort.”
“In my husband’s culture pigs, are seen as dirty animals and it would absolutely be unfitting for me to have a pig at our wedding.”
“especially because it would be disrespectful to his family.”
Despite being well aware of her daughter’s feelings, the OP’s mother arrived at her wedding with a very unwanted guest.
“Well my mom decides to bring her pet pig to my wedding anyway even after I told her not too and she showed up late,I could tell my husband was highly upset with it but stop me when I went to confront because he didn’t want his new mother in law to hate him.”
“My sister in law ended up getting scared because the pig rubbed up against her which cause the pig to get scared and ran off and bump into some expensive glass decorations which ended up falling and breaking into pieces.”
“I was beyond angry at my mom, this would have never happened if she didn’t bring her pig to my wedding so I yelled at her to leave.”
“She tried to blame it on me for not making my wedding pet friendly.”
“Like why would I change up my wedding for a pig guest that wasn’t even supposed to attend?”
“My mom send me a long message telling me how I humiliated her In front of my in laws and that now’s she’s embarrassed to show her face around them and that if I would’ve just set up the wedding the way she suggested to me none of this would’ve happened.”
“Am I the a**hole?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community agreed that she had every right to kick her mother out of her wedding, and was not the a**hole for doing so.
Everyone agreed that the OP’s mother was completely out of line for daring to bring her pig to her wedding after being explicitly told not to, which many found inexcusable even if her pet wasn’t a pig.
“NTA.’
‘BRUH SHE BROUGHT A PIG TO YOUR WEDDING.”
“PEOPLE DON’T BRING PETS TO WEDDINGS UNLESS ITS A SERVICE ANIMAL.”
“She was entitled and rude as hell for bringing her pig and just letting it go around willy nilly.”-Sarphadonyx
“NTA.”
“I like pigs but I wouldn’t want one at my wedding either.”
“It’s nice she loves him but it isn’t your teacup Yorkie or a service animal.”
“I actually find your mum kinda selfish, she acts like it’s your baby brother or something.”- Lowland-lady
‘NTA.’
‘Your mothers complete and blatant disrespect for your boundaries and wishes for YOUR day, is appalling.”
“You’ve headed her off numerous times regarding the pig, and she continued to disregard your wishes.”
“Sounds to me like she needs to do some self reflection – and remind herself that it’s not her wedding to dictate.”
“If she wants to have her pig at a wedding, she can go and renew her vows, if your parents are still together, or get remarried.”
“I’d have been a lot less patient.”- HerWildestDreams
“NTA.”
“Sorry this gave me a good chuckle.”
“She humiliated herself by having the audacity to bring a pig to a wedding.”- Professional_Grab513
“You’re NTA.”
‘I’ve heard of people being pigs at weddings, but never bringing pigs to weddings.”
“Well… except as food, I guess.”
“But anyway… you specifically told her no, and she ignored you.”
“That was your wedding, not her’s.”
“Honestly I wouldn’t have let my mother even stay if she showed up with a pet at my wedding.”
“Your mother knew what she was doing.”
“She was being an AH.”- witcher_rat
“NTA.”
“She should have listened to you when you said you didn’t want the pig at your wedding.”-N00DLES0UPP
“NTA.”
“I mean, if you invite 1 pig, you have to invite them all.”- TheDogIsTheBoss
“NTA.”
“It was her pig to bear, not yours.”
“The shame and any conflict that arises with any of the wedding attendees because of it is also her pig to bear.”
“I cannot tell you how sad I am for you if the glass things that broken were meaningful memorabilia.”- GulfCoastLover
“NTA.”
“What is wrong with your mother?”
“She’s piggin mental.”- RomanCheesePops
“NTA.”
“So, you married someone who comes from a culture that disdains pigs and your mother demanded you plan the wedding around her pig, then brought it to the wedding after explicitly being told several times not to.”
“Are you sure she didn’t do this to express her disrespect towards your husband, his family and their culture?”- Charlie_Parkers_Mood
“NTA.”
“you don’t see ppl complaining when they can’t bring their cat or dog to a wedding, also the only time that I’ve seen a pet being at a wedding is when they replace someone like the flower girl, also this is your wedding not your mother’s and you can’t repeat such an experience.”
“I mean with the same husband.”- earth576
“NTA.”
“But your mum needs professional help, like who the F*CK brings livestock to a wedding unless specifically asked to.”
“More over you told her not to.”
“Honesty I would have stopped her the second she arrived with the pig.”
“‘Like GTFO now, I told you not to bring the damn pig, now you miss out on the wedding, just take the pig and go!'”
“I’d be telling her to not talk to me again until she is going to apologize and pay for all the damages. No contact.”- dheffe01
“NTA.”
“She humiliated herself in front of your in-laws.”
“You told her not to bring her pig, and hopefully you told her about how they’re seen in your husbands culture, so she knew the pig was not welcome at the wedding.”
“She did this to herself and needs to act like an adult and accept it.”- Scared_Fox_1813
“NTA.”
“If she’s worried about making a good impression on her in-laws then she wouldn’t have shown up late to the wedding with a living embodiment of cultural disrespect.”- Glittering-Ruin-1296
“NTA a pig?”
“Really?”
“And it’s offensive to his culture and she still did it?”
“No, you were absolutely right to have her take the pig and leave.”
“But I’d also make her pay every cent of the bill to replace the glass.”
“Her pig, her responsibility.”
“It’s an Emotional support animal which is NOT covered by the ADA.”
“Also I don’t think pigs are even allowed to be classified under the ADA as medical equipment like dogs and mini horses are.”
“Probably bc they can’t be trained like needed for that level of care for the handler.”- Noxx_Nyxx
It’s confusing enough that the OP’s mother would have ever thought it was appropriate to bring a pig to a wedding, even if it wasn’t her daughter’s.
But making this all the more unfortunate was that she did so despite being constantly told no.
One hopes that the OP’s mother might take some time to reflect on her behavior, and eventually give her daughter the apology she deserves.