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Out Actor Charlie Carver Says Gay Former Colleague Slapped Him Across The Face For Being ‘Too Effeminate’

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Despite the strides made in gay representation in Hollywood in the last decade, there’s still a long way to go. Homophobia is rampant in the industry despite the friendly facade it puts up for the support of gay rights.

We got a harsh reminder of this in a recent interview Variety had with Charlie Carver. Carver was promoting his new Netflix film The Boys in the Band based on the 2018 Broadway revival of the 1968 show of the same name.

However, it’s a story about an Emmy party that caught people’s attention.

At an Emmy party in 2015, Carver was chastised by a gay man he worked with for his mannerisms. Specifically, he was accused of acting too effeminate.

He told Variety:

“I was told that I needed to ‘get it under control’ around people in the business.”

After the party, while Carver was waiting for his valet, he ran into the same man again and asked him for clarification. The response he received was a literal slap across the face.

That’s not a metaphor either.

The slap was obviously not appreciated by Carver, who told Variety:

“It wasn’t playful but intentional, pointed and meant to be instructive. A slap. I told him that if he ever touched me again, I would name him.”

Carver also swore to himself that he wouldn’t police himself that way. A few months later in January 2016, he came out publicly as gay.

For all the glitz and glamour, Hollywood has a massive issue with LGBTQ+ representation. Part of that comes down to how things play out behind the scenes.

From actors and writers, up to producers and executives, there’s still a lot of anti-gay sentiment in the business that LGBT actors have to overcome.

It’s an ongoing issue that’s going to take a lot of effort to correct.

Despite the slap to the face, Carver recognizes he experiences a privilege unknown to the original performers of The Boys in the Band. In 1968, despite the massive success of the show, it was considered career suicide to star in the production about a group of gay men.

Now, the show is popular enough that the main characters are all played by openly gay men, and it can win a Tony Award and have a Netflix movie.

But that progress doesn’t mean we’re done. Instances of policing people’s sexuality have to stop.

Ben Acosta

Written by Ben Acosta

Ben Acosta is an Arizona-based fiction author and freelance writer. In his free time, he critiques media and acts in local stage productions.