Brooklyn 99 star, Stephanie Beatriz officially spoke about her bisexuality for the first time back in July of 2016.
She did it with this simple tweet…
Fast forward two years, and the actress is getting married to a man. However, she wrote a powerful essay for GQ for Pride month in which she explained that being in what appears to be a heteronormative relationship doesn’t cheapen her queerness or her bi-ness.
“I’m bi, and I’m getting married this fall. I’m excited, nervous, terrified, and so fucking happy. I’m choosing to get married because this particular person brings out the best in me. This person happens to be a man. I’m still bi.”
She goes on…
“Bisexuality often needs an explanation. It isn’t something you can often ‘read’ on a person, and because of that bi people sometimes feel like an invisible part of the LGBTQIA community. People’s sexuality is often defined by who we’re partnered with at any given moment, which can be a frustrating limitation for me.”
And she closes by saying…
“Speaking from personal experience, it feels so fucking good to be out. It’s still scary sometimes—I feel like an outsider so often. But those moments of discomfort are worth it, because living authentically gives me so much joy and feels so honest and good. In October, I will marry a heterosexual man. We’ll make vows that I will take very seriously—till death do us part. But I’ll be bi till the day I die, baby, and I vow to myself to always sing that truth.”
The full essay can be read here.
Within the LGBTQ community, bisexual and pansexual people are still often stigmatized, with stereotypes about their sexuality being a ‘choice’ or a ‘phase,’ or that they’re inherently ‘promiscuous,’ or ‘perpetually unsatisfied’. Of course, none of these things are true. But bi and pan visibility has not been the same as gay and lesbian visibility, so Beatriz’ openness is of paramount importance.
People thanked her for choosing to be visible…
being bi is very complicated & i always feel not straight enough and not gay enough simultaneously & kinda guilty if i have a crush that isn't gay like im letting down the team anyway happy #PrideMonth! @iamstephbeatz is an angel & my crush 4everhttps://t.co/8rkzbXJveG— gemini emo (@aislina) June 21, 2018
Thank you, @iamstephbeatz , for explaining the bisexual experience so perfectly! It reflects my truth in so many ways! If I am ever lucky enough I find “the one”, woman or man, I am fully bisexual, and always will be! https://t.co/pplVqzUSH4— Juliet Morriga (@Juliet_Morriga) June 21, 2018
(This is me!)@iamstephbeatz, I felt the same when I went to my 1st DC Pride this year. Married to a man, took 34 years to come out cause I didnt think I "belong". So glad I did! Took my 5yro daughter & my 70yro mom, my #support crew! Thanks for giving us a voice! #bivisibility https://t.co/wBzrQGZjNq— Annie Saul? (@Saulgood24) June 21, 2018
Like goddamn I love this woman. I love pretty much anyone who is a good person who uses their privilege for good. My heart is full right now, and it’s been a hellish week. Thank you @iamstephbeatz#RepresentationMatters #IAmBi— Taylor Ray *NO HUMAN IS ILLEGAL* (@itaylorray) June 22, 2018
Visible queer people are what changes hearts and minds. Thank you Stephanie for being visible.