Names help us define who we are. For expectant parents naming a child is an extremely personal and important decision. In fact, naming is import that some cultures have ceremony surrounding naming a child.
What if your partner wanted to make such an important decision for you?
Redditor rideordie2929 found herself in deep conflict over naming her soon to be born baby. She turned to the popular subReddit “Am I The A**hole?” (AITA) to see if she was being unreasonable.
“AITA for not letting my boyfriend name our daughter Renesmae?“
The original poster, or OP, began by explaining their own baby naming dilemma.
“My boyfriend and I are both 18, and 35w pregnant with our daughter. Since the day I found out we were having a girl he was hell bent on naming her Renesmae, absolutely refuses to compromise. He’s a massive twilight fan, I personally hate it and would much rather that we don’t name our baby after a fictional character.”
Despite the disagreement over the name OP’s partner took it to another level.
“It kinda hit boiling point last night, for weeks I’ve been telling him we are coming up with something else because I’m not naming my child that. I went onto Instagram where he had posted a picture of us and said in the caption ‘I can’t wait to meet you Renesmae.’”
“I got really, really mad my this. I told him to delete that, or change the caption because I’m not naming our daughter that. He refused, saying his friends knew now so we had to stick with it.”
”I said ‘I haven’t f*cking agreed to naming our daughter after some stupid made up character from the worst books ever f*cking made. Delete the post now or get the f*ck out of my house.’“
”He left to spend the night at a friends and my parents who heard the argument said I should just let him name our daughter that, saying it probably means a lot to him and that I’m being an unreasonable asshole. AITA?”
OP edited to add another important reason the father’s chosen name was unacceptable.
“Feel the need to add, I have a stutter and can’t even say Renesmae out loud, I would much rather name my child something I can say.”
Later, after some unexpected (and unwanted) proposals the mother to be wanted to make it clear she loves and wants her child telling fellow Redditors:
“Stop trying to adopt my child. She is very much loved and wanted.”
Redditors judged the situation by declaring: