We all enjoy certain conveniences, and when we don’t have access to them, well, we tend to be annoyed.
This guy, for instance, got really annoyed with his girlfriend so he went to the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit for feedback.
Redditor Inside_Bat_2208 was pleased with himself when he came up with a solution, but his girlfriend was not happy about it.
So much so, the Original Poster (OP) wondered what others would think of his solution.
He asked the subReddit:
“AITA for hiding my girlfriend’s sentimental forks?”
The OP wasn’t a fan of the utensils his girlfriend inherited.
“My girlfriend, who I moved in with last year, received some cutlery when her auntie passed away the other year.”
“It isn’t particularly nice or valuable but she likes it for sentimental reasons.”
“I hate eating with these forks as the tangs are too close together and it really minimizes the amount of food I can eat in one forkful.”
The OP came up with a plan.
“I began hiding the forks in my work van, one every 3 or 4 weeks until they were all hidden.”
“I claimed ignorance and that seemed to be going pretty well.”
Buuuuut, then he got caught.
“Anyway a couple of months passed by with me enjoying having properly sized eating implements.”
“When I gave her a lift in my van to work on Monday, she opened the glove box and found all the forks.”
“She is quite upset due to the emotional nature of the forks and also that I would be dishonest about something so small.”
The OP could sense his girlfriend’s frustration.
“The forks are back in the regular rotation now and I can feel the resentment growing and growing whenever I fetch a properly sized fork to eat my dinner with when she has knowingly set out a tiny fork to eat my dinner with.”
“So Reddit, AITA for hiding my girlfriend’s tiny forks?”
Other Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some told the OP to go get himself another fork if the sentimental ones bothered him so much.
“What’s up with all these recent stories of men who decide they don’t like something their SO (significant other) is doing or has in the house, so they just decide on their own to get rid of it?”
“Of course YTA. If you want a different fork, use your words to ask for one or better yet, go get another one out of the drawer.” – milee30
“Right, it’s a case of I don’t like it/them. I’m not man enough or mature enough to have a conversation about .it. I am however petty, devious, and deceitful enough to steal something sentimental and lie about it.”
“The forks are back in regular rotation and GF (girlfriend) knowingly sets them out. I am so lazy and incompetent that I cannot get up and go get myself a shovel so I can enjoy my meal.”
“YTA, YTA, and in case you didn’t get it, Y.T.A.” – SnooChickens5652
“Right? I have some forks my parents gave me when I moved out. My fiancé doesn’t like them because he has huge hands and they’re kinda tiny.”
“He didn’t hide them, he told me it’s uncomfortable for him to use them. So what do I do? I enjoy my teeny-tiny forks and give him a ‘normal’ one. No issues. Not ever. OP is a giant AH. YTA.” – latheya
“YTA and yes, it is quite childish. Just tell her that you need bigger forks for your big mouth. Especially since it recently got bigger due to you sticking your foot in it.” – Sidhejester
Also, talk about misogynistic.
“It also completely reeks of misogyny. I am the man and therefore I know better then a silly woman.”
“Particularly when emotions are involved. Therefore I am right and need to control the situation.”
“My actions are superior and for the betterment of the dumb woman.” – NaviCato
“‘But mah mouth is so big, I need big manly bites while I seethe with resentment for your sentimental tines!'” – Itsjust4comments
“I was noticing this too. WTF? Why do men think they can hide things their partners just because they think they’re stupid?” – strikes-twice
“It’s always a guy who had to move into her house to begin with and then starts taking/hiding/destroying her belongings too.” – Prettyfeetgirl19
“The ability to access, process, and effectively communicate one’s feelings is not inherent.”
“It’s learned and trained behavior that not everybody is privy to, especially in a society where even wearing a mask to save the lives of others is ‘soyboy bullsh*t.'”
“Also some people are just emotionally inept losers who get jealous of inanimate objects.” – PreOpTransCentaur
Others discussed the “growing resentment.”
“Look at the end of the post sounds like he’s growing resentment towards her for the forks even when he doesn’t have to use them. This dude is just a control freak.” – afresh18
“I read it as growing resentment, not because he won’t use the tiny fork, but because his act of refusal is a reminder of how duplicitous, underhanded, and manipulative he was to steal and hide them in the first place.”
“This is the kind of behavior that I, at my current age, would never tolerate now. Because it’s never just one tiny instance like this.”
“There’s always more things the guy doesn’t like about you that he’s not mature enough to talk about that he tries to subtly change through control and manipulation, and imo she should have just dumped him and looked for a real adult to date.” – Korrin
“I will say, I read that as the resentment growing on her end. She is setting out one of her forks for dinner, but he goes and grabs one of his. Which just reminds her how petty he was about the forks instead of using his words like a grown-up.” – iownakeytar
“For stealing and lying and being ridicoulus immature. You resent her for having to grab yourself a fork?! Is compromise a foreign word for you?!”
“You could’ve avoided all of that by getting and eating with your own forks.” – Lively_Sally
According to these Redditors, this couple has some issues to work out if they have a growing resentment between them about cutlery.
However, the OP also really needs to think about what he’s doing. They may be “just” forks, but hiding anything from your significant other, just because you think they’re annoying, is never okay.