When we’re uncomfortable with being corrected, it’s easy to focus our blame on the wrong things.
One Redditor shared how he had corrected a female friend of his when she gave inaccurate information about vaginas, and she then accused him of mansplaining to her.
The Redditor RedValuable wrote into the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit, wondering if he was in the wrong.
The Redditor asked the thread:
“[Am I the a**hole] for ‘mansplaining’ vaginas to a woman?”
Several months ago, the Redditor was spending time with his friends.
“This happened a few months ago, but my brain won’t let this one go.”
“So I was hanging out with some friends. Two guys, one woman. We’re all in our early 20s and have had our fair share of romance in life.”
While talking, the topic of their sex lives came up.
“The topic of sex popped up and we start talking about some of our past experiences. One guy joked about how having sex only made his dick bigger and bigger. We all laughed and he said that he wished that’s how it works.”
“My female friend (let’s call her Sarah) piped up and said ‘Yeah, for women, it’s the complete opposite. The more sex you have, the bigger your labia gets and the looser you become.'”
“There were some chuckles, but then I asked her if she was serious. She said she was.”
The Redditor was concerned at the misinformation.
“Now, this is a big myth. I was surprised a woman who has had some experience actually believes that.”
“I basically told her this, and then she started getting annoyed, asking ‘how me and my dick knows about that’.”
“I said the same way I know anything about female anatomy- I’ve read up on it. The whole ‘women get looser’ thing is something sexist dudes made up to sl*t-shame women.”
“My other friends were silent on this.”
His friend was not receptive to his comments.
“She then just said: ‘Whatever, I’m not in the mood for your mansplaining.'”
Now he wonders if he was wrong for speaking up.
“So I’m at a loss here.”
“AITA for explaining something that I feel like people should just know about?”
Redditors wrote in on the OP’s (Original Poster’s) situation, using the following scale:
- NTA: “Not the A**hole”
- YTA: “You’re the A**hole”
- ESH: “Everybody Sucks Here”
- NAH: “No A**holes Here”
One Redditor asked up-front if this was an actual example of mansplaining.
“Isn’t that a misinterpretation of what mansplaining is?”