How you get along with your in-laws is going to determine more about your relationship than you might think it should. It’s really easy to see how friction with them would lead to a bumpier road with your significant other.
However, if you’re both on the same page regarding the in-laws, things should be fine, right?
Redditor grossnastyyuckyfood is finding out that things are still complicated, particularly when it comes to food. They try to make compromises with what the family eats, but is turned down at every corner.
But is this a simple case of the nightmare in-laws, or is the original poster (OP) actually the one wrong?
To find out, OP asks the “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) subReddit about their situation.
The question was:
“AITA for trying to arrange meetups with my in-laws that aren’t food centric because I can’t sit through another disgusting meal with them?”
This was what happened:
“My in-laws are so nice, but their taste in food is… gross. I’m talking inches of mayo on simple sandwiches, ranch dressing poured all over everything, food covered in cheese, deep fried this and that, and for a vegetable… corn slathered in butter.”
“It’s all beige and tasteless because they don’t season food unless it comes in seasoning packets, and they salt everything within an inch of its life. Almost every time I eat there I have the worst stomach ache.”
“We got tired of having to choke down my MIL’s cooking and whenever we’d have them over there would be nonstop complaining because even though I would make stuff I thought they’d like (heavy on the meat and potato, lots of cheese available) there would be big enough portions, there was ‘too much green stuff’ etc etc. So it’s mutual.”
“They think what we eat is disgusting and I think what they eat is disgusting.”
“So the solution is to obviously hang out without food, right? I started suggesting we go to the park, the Zoo, on nice hikes, etc. But then eventually someone would say ‘Sure, but then let’s meet back here for a nice lunch!’ and I’m back to choking down mayo sandwiches.”
“If we tried to skip it they’d get mad for cutting the visit short. I would recommend ordering pizza and then get myself a nice healthy salad, they’d complain about how I’m no fun and think I’m better than them.”
“My husband finally put his foot down and said that we won’t be meeting up to do food anymore and MIL made a huge stinky fit about it, saying that we were ruining everything and being too picky and we thought we were better than they are.”
“Mind you that we’ve never made faces about the food, we’ve never once complained about it, and I always offer to help come up with a menu or bring something and I’m shot down.”
“They however always make faces because ‘Ew what’s quinoa salad’ and ‘Ew what is this green stuff’ and can’t deal with one meal that isn’t 1500 calories in one go.”
“Are we completely off base here?”
OP can’t stand another bit of the “unhealthy” food their in-laws serve, but are they just giving attitude over a big nothing?
To find out, Redditors respond to the AITA story with one of the following acronyms:
- NTA – Not the A**hole
- YTA – You’re the A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everybody Sucks Here
Because of OP’s continual attempts to find a compromise, and the in-laws stubborn refusal to even try things other ways, the board was mostly on OP’s side.
They voted OP was NTA.
“They recognise their food choices are bad, otherwise they wouldn’t be trying to shame or guilt you for your healthy lifestyle. They’re envious, but want to cut you down instead of making any meaningful change.” – Lucyfiir