A blogger and social media influencer is facing backlash from the online community after sharing a post which jokingly implied that her husband only does housework when he expects sex in return.
Not too long ago “social media influencer” was a job title no one had ever heard of and even fewer people could have imagined. These days the sky is almost the limit for inventive content creators who want to connect with others and build their digital following.
But with social media influence comes social media drama, and influencers know better than anyone the consequences of upsetting an online community.
After a recent post, San Diego based blogger Bri Dietz is learning that lesson the hard way.
Dietz who has more than 74,000 followers on Instagram frequently shares photos of her family sitting in front of a message board with comical quips about family life, but a recent image featuring Bri and her husband Bobby has sparked controversy across the internet.
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Nothing hotter ????????♀️ • • Any other ‘acts of service’ love language-ers out there? Mine 100%! • • Choreplay quote inspired by @nottheworstmom ???? • • #letterboardlove #marriagequotes #dirtybootsandmessyhair #letterboardfun #parentingmemes #marriagememes #letterboardhumor
In the post Bri kisses her husband’s cheek as he holds a letter board with the message “Helping with housework so you can get lucky is called choreplay.”
“Nothing hotter. Any other ‘acts of service’ love-language-ers out there? Mine 100%,” Bri captioned the image, crediting fellow Instagrammer @nottheworstmom as inspiring the post.
But the couple are facing backlash across social media from many who don’t agree that husbands should only do housework when they expect to get something in return.
Although some of Bri’s followers enjoyed the “joking” image many were less appreciative of the sentiment once it spread to the wider social mediaverse.
Thanks. I hate it.
— Feisty Harriet (@FeistyHarriet) May 31, 2019
Help, I'm puking
— Jenna Foote (@_jennafoote) May 31, 2019
— George W. Kush (@supermaddd) May 31, 2019
How is this a love language thing if he’s only doing it to get sex from her???
— baby leslie knope ???????? (@AlyLud) May 31, 2019
This is what I see: dog shaming, but for husbands. pic.twitter.com/5fB9wSNfXh
— Yosra (@AfterHardship) June 1, 2019
This just ruined my night
— ur grandma (@88shenanigans) May 31, 2019
— Dayton (@DaytonPorterr) June 1, 2019
Are the straights ok?
— Butch Deadlift – Birdsite's #1 E-Boy (@Dadmilkmen) May 31, 2019
Because along with setting a bad example for partnerships, teaching husbands to trade chores for some nookie sets a pretty low standard for men in general.
Maybe not the best thing to encourage?
you should “help” with housework because you LIVE IN THE HOUSE TOO????
— nat (@natmypresident) May 30, 2019
— Beka Castille (@bekacastille) May 31, 2019
— Scott S. Semester (@sssemester) May 31, 2019
And she’s talking about love languages but how is it an expression of love/service if he expects sex in return?
— birthday week brina (@cozybrina) May 30, 2019
— star krillin (@kailussy) June 1, 2019
The reality of this sad statement is that we're giving grownass men a "gold star" for doing basic necessities such as cleaning up. pic.twitter.com/fDZv0duph3
— Gaiapatra™Ⓥ (@Gaiapatra) May 31, 2019
Mmmmm. Doing the bare minimum in a partnership is so sexy.
— Amy Lynn (@amy_me_gusta) May 31, 2019
Though others felt bad marriage advice is just a small part of a much bigger problem with a digital landscape structured around influencers and followers.
we need to change what we call them from “influencers” so they don’t mistakingly think they’re important
— There is no Geoff, only Zuul (@0degreeeskelvin) May 31, 2019
A bad case of Influenceza
— Shannageddon (@shannonpbnj) June 1, 2019
I’ll take “reasons I’m not on Instagram” for 100
— Myrinda is a Sunflower???? (@DearMyrinda) May 31, 2019
Her: This will be so cute… and get me 10,000 likes
Him: Awkwardly smiles while contemplating divorce
— Sean Smith (@Original_Sean_S) June 1, 2019