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Honest People Reveal The Reason They Turned Down A Public Marriage Proposal

Love is a tricky part of life. Finding the perfect “one” is even trickier. Even when you think you’ve found the person to complete you, that soul who will take the journey with you… that person who Adele sings about… the other half you’ll get down on one knee and make a spectacle for, take a second and be sure they reciprocate the feeling. Love isn’t always in the air.

Redditor _minhaven had a inquiry about LOVE. They asked… Women & Men of Reddit who were proposed to in public and said “No”, why? _This couldn’t possibly end well. Grab a glass and listen.

MCDONALD’S? WELL THAT IS THE LEAST OF IT.

I had left my ex due to the fact that he cheated on me with both men and women. And every time he would get too drunk, he would confess to me that he was gay. He was distraught for weeks and asked me to meet him in person to talk so I agreed. He proposed to me in the McDonald’s parking lot and I said f**k no.

HYDRATION FIRST!

I was on my walk home from work and a homeless guy stopped me. He told me I was really pretty, I told him thank you. He asked me if I would marry him, I told him no. He asked I he could have my water bottle. I told him yes.

OUCH!

I’m a high school teacher. In my last two weeks at my last school, a pupil half-jokingly asked me if he could stay in touch “maybe through Facebook or something.” I said it would be inappropriate if we were friends on Facebook, _”unless we were family.” _He then made a ring out of paper and proposed to me in front of the class.

We made a real thing out of me saying no – he said he wanted all his Rugrats DVDs back and wanted visitation to see my pet chinchilla. It was all in jest of course but it’s probably the hardest and longest I have laughed in my 6 years of teaching.

It was a moment that will stay with me forever to remind me why I do what I do. His younger sister, who I also taught, committed suicide two years later. It makes me incredibly sad to think he may never be that carefree, fun-loving and mischievous young man ever again.

THE HELP? NO.

The relationship was over for a long time.. we both knew it. He thought a marriage proposal would “Help.”

AGE DOES MATTER.

I was proposed to first thing in the morning when I saw him on the bus.

I was dressed as an elf and he was 9.

TARGET IS ALWAYS A PROBLEM!

Not me but my husband was at a target one day and saw this guy get down on one knee at the entrance and proposed. The woman apparently looked at him and then walked right back out the store.

VEGAS!!!

Because we were in Vegas and just wanted to get married as a tourist attraction (if you get married here is not legal she said).

3 WEEKS? ENOUGH SAID.

we were sitting in my car at a red light. She goes into her purse and pulls out a page from a magazine or catalog. It’s a ring and she tells me she wants me to buy this ring for her, a promise ring if you will. I ask her why she says because we’re going to get married and this is the ring she wants. Not even a “will you marry me” but a “you will marry me.” She wasn’t a very good Jedi as I said no I’m good thanks. We had been dating for 3 weeks…and that was the last night.

LEARN BASIC MATH FIRST!

I was in first grade and asked some pretty girl to marry me. Sadly, she said no. I went on to drink Apple Juice heavily.

THE LAST RESORT!

Our relationship was on the rocks and it was clear he thought this would automatically solve the problem.

ARE YOU DEAF?

I’d already told him no in private!

CHECK AND… NOT MATE.

I was on the beach in Nice and a guy who had been following my small group told me he was a chess player and asked me to marry him. I said no.

UMMM… WHAT?

We’d been dating a week.

He went on to sabotage his next girlfriend’s birth control, married her, and then cheated on her with anyone he could.

WHOOPS…

Has anyone said_”yes” _because they didn’t want to embarrass themselves in public? And then shortly later they told them that they meant to say _”no,”_ because they didn’t want to cause a scene?

I have witness a failed proposal in public. It was the most embarrassing thing I ever saw in life. Ever since I saw that, I’d make sure that I would never pretend.

JUST RUN.

My then-boyfriend was basically completely mentally unstable and abusive towards me from being an alcoholic stoner. (In that if he didn’t have weed he’d be completely intolerable but would have spent the majority of his pay check at the bar he worked at)

He was talking about how one day we’ll be married, and how he wants to save up for a ring. I sort of cringed, one of the first times I realized how deep I had become in that relationship and how unhappy I was

He got super upset and starting saying “Well what if I ask you to marry me right now?? I wanna marry you !” I just shrunk into myself; We were in a parking lot and it was awful.

SO THAT’S A 911…

His dad proposed on his behalf, ring and kneeling.

Son was in his mid 20s.

They were complete strangers.

I was 11.

I LOVE PUBLIX!

Because I thought Publix was a strange place for a proposal.

GOD HELP US ALL!!

He proposed in a grocery store when I was 15. I didn’t know him and this grown ass man walks up to me and says“you remind me of the Virgin Mary; would you do me the honor of marrying me?” Couldn’t find my mom fast enough.

WHAT ABOUT COWS?

Because I was a 14 year old tourist at the time, and I live in Bosnia, and I don’t want to herd goats for a living.

KNOW YOUR PARTNER!!

I wanted to propose to my wife at our favorite pub on New Year’s Eve, right as the ball hit zero, with her sister and her sister’s boyfriend in attendance.

She somehow got wind and put an absolute stop to it. She did not want to be proposed to in public, and made it very clear she would say No in as public a manner as possible if I still did it.

So I delayed the proposal two months until the end of February on our Valentine’s Day date (I had been out of town for two weeks starting on the 13th). Took her out for dinner, then took her to our favorite spot on the mountain that overlooked the entire city and the lake and the cruise ship and did it there at midnight.

Public proposals can be really tacky if not done right or if you don’t know your partner.

COUSINS ARE OVERRATED.

I was 16, at Ozfest with my then boyfriend. Ran into my weird, creepy, full makeup juggalo 17 year old cousin who I hadn’t seen in 5+ years in line to get in. Cousin attempted to propose in line, I gagged and had to hold back angry boyfriend.

He was my only cousin. Now when people ask, I tell them I have 0 cousins.