Being a parent isn’t easy, but being responsible for someone with special needs can be especially depleting. Happily, though, there are some folks out there who make it their business to bring an extra helping of kindness to these families. Case in point: the manager of The Barrel Chapeltown pub in Sheffield, England. Steph Tate, 29, had an experience accommodating a father of a boy with special needs that prompted her to make a public statement.
The Adams have had a hard time taking their son Matthew, 13, into public, due to his disability. “I’ve had so many negative comments and verbal abuse pretty much every time I’ve been out on my own with Matthew,” Leila Adams told HuffPost UK. They often worry about “ruining other people’s evenings.”
Adams told HuffPost:
Our son is usually very happy and sociable, he loves being out and about. However, quite often this can result in a very high pitched screaming or yelling to express this enjoyment, often accompanied by throwing his arms about and banging his head on his wheelchair, which is part of his sensory processing disorder.
Tate was initially confused upon being asked if it was okay for the father and son to stay, but was then heartbroken to hear of the difficulties the family has had in public.“It can be difficult enough for parents to take out children in wheelchairs, so to be turned away from somewhere when you do take them out is just awful,” she said.
Tate posted about it the next day and, thousands of likes and shares later, her generosity is the talk of Sheffield.
Massive shout out to Steph Tate, owner of The Barrel Chapeltown pub in Sheffield for making very clear that all customers who may be disabled that they will always be welcome on their premises. https://t.co/eI2QzsNKpd
You know what to do – RT @barrreatchap ?
— Professor Catherine Harper PhD #trustwomen (@ProfCathHarper) June 28, 2018
Quote: "If I find anyone making negative comments or being disrespectful they will be asked to leave, not you."
The Barrel Chapeltown – you are our sort of people!https://t.co/cHnORgewcK
— Elephant In The Room (@hullelephant) June 27, 2018
The post particularly touched a chord in families with similar situations.
Going to a pub or restaurant can present many challenges for a family like ours. But the attitude of the lady lady at The Barrel Chapeltown is not one of them – thank you. https://t.co/wSdKwwENrc
— RainbowsR2Beautiful (@rainbowsaretoo) June 30, 2018
Thank you Steph Tate at The Barrel Chapletown for making this family welcome. Wish more people were like you and accepted those who feel so isolated by disability #disabilityawareness #CareDontStare https://t.co/Hd5fQBodTR
— marea cook (@MareaCook) July 1, 2018
— Renate Lindeman (@Downpride) June 30, 2018
Praise and gratitude came pouring in from all over the world, overwhelming both Tate and the Adams family.
H/T: Daily Mail