In this chapter of “men know nothing about how women’s reproductive organs work,” rapper/artist T.I. decided to proudly flaunt on the Ladies Like Us podcast that he accompanies daughter Deyjah Harris to “yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen.”
This yearly check up, T.I. says, is because “most kids…always thank their parents for not allowing them to damage themselves as much as they could have.”
He said on the podcast:
“This is what we do. Right after the birthday we celebrate.”
“Usually like the day after the party she’s enjoying her gifts. I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30’.”
“So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk and, you know, the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism. He’s like, ‘You know sir, I have to, in order for me to share information—'”
“I’m like, ‘Deyjah they want you to sign this… so we can share information. Is there anything you would not want me to know? See, doc? Ain’t no problem’.”
“And so then [the doctor] come and say, ‘Well I just want you to know that there are other ways besides sex that the hymen can be broken like bike-riding, athletics, horseback riding and just other forms of athletic physical activity’.”
“So I say, ‘Look doc, she don’t ride no horses, she don’t ride no bike, she don’t play no sports. Man, just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously’.”
T.I.’s concept of what a hymen can tell about whether or not a woman has had sex is not only misguided, it’s dangerous.
Virginity testing is Abuse.— Dr Annabel ????????♀️ (@SoSowemimo) November 6, 2019
The doctor who performed these examinations should also be struck off.
patriarchy ???? medicinehttps://t.co/unneug3FeI
I just want to talk to the OB/Gyn who heard TI ask after his daughter’s hymen and replied with “yes of course, I will participate in the enabling of your disordered psychosexual relationship with your child in violation of her privacy and bodily autonomy.” https://t.co/GHXYvvsDxt— Claire Zagorski, MS, LP (@Claireific) November 6, 2019
Men like T.I. and fundamentalist wingnuts who participate in purity balls are reducing their own daughters to sex objects. Women and girls are not inherently sexual and treating them as such denies us our humanity. How fucking dare you police our bodies. They’re not yours.— Allison Floyd (@AllisonRFloyd) November 6, 2019
If T.I. treated his sons like his daughter pic.twitter.com/KUWxQn0t44— Donavan (Cripp Daddy ♿™) (@RealYungCripp) November 6, 2019
We gotta free all T.I’s daughters— Free T.I’s daughters! (@TheQueenSpeaks_) November 6, 2019
T.I is abusive and vile and you will never convince me otherwise. This is extremely barbaric. You don’t own your daughter and most importantly, her sexuality is not yours to police. pic.twitter.com/wQRC8h1ObQ— ????⚡Queen of Assgard ????⚡ (@TraceyManus) November 7, 2019
The hymen is:
“a thin membrane of tissues—similar to tissue paper—rather than one intact piece of tissue. Hymens come in all shapes and sizes, and some girls aren’t even born with hymens. The membrane can tear for a variety of reasons including sexual activity.”
T.I. made a note that as of Deyjah’s 18th birthday, her “hymen was still intact,” as if that’s any of his business.
T.I. Is Sicc. Smfh. I feel bad for his daughter. pic.twitter.com/woT7GjoDVA— IG: @TySterlin ???????? (@BonesOfComedy) November 7, 2019
If you don’t see an issue with what T.I is doing to his daughter seek help— Rivera????. (@Ceepapi_) November 7, 2019
A poignant lifetime Christmas movie where T.I.’s daughter tells him to fuck off— Naomi Fry (@frynaomifry) November 6, 2019
The fact that T.I. takes his daughter to the OBGYN annually to get her hymen checked to see if she's still a virgin whilst he's consistently cheated on his wife and sets a bad example for his sons is DISGUSTING.— Mr.Leader (@IamMrLeader) November 6, 2019
What OBGYN doesn't know that hymens can break by an incident? pic.twitter.com/ORE45kJ7c7
Deyjah Harris’s Twitter account has liked a number of Tweets calling her father’s behavior abusive, but has not released an official comment.
this is disgusting, possessive and controlling *whew*— Avenge Latasha Harlins (@race_jones) November 6, 2019
"give me my results" first of all mf, those are HER results!! Like WTF— My Love Goes BANG BANG BANG (@ItsMeeeeeDreaB) November 6, 2019
That is just beyond possessive— F R E D E R I C T O N ???? (@sajesoul) November 6, 2019
I love how y’all dragging TI pic.twitter.com/PW4WV6nVfY— Are You Aware That You Are Ugly? (@DuhItzMiaaaa) November 7, 2019
Looks like his daughter agrees ????...poor thing pic.twitter.com/rtWKztrvMS— MStout ???????????? (@Stout_901) November 6, 2019
T.I.’s treatment of his daughter is continuing to be called out across social media.
Let’s hope he sees the error of his ways.