Not all friendships last forever.
Sometimes, as time goes by, people begin to realize that they have less in common, and don’t enjoy the company of certain friends as much as they thought, resulting in their friendship slowly dissolving.
While in other cases, all it might take is one incident that leads two people to stop talking to one another for years, or ever again.
Redditor Double-Profession342 was sad to see the behavior of one of their closest friends gradually change.
So much so that the original poster (OP) began to seriously question if she even was, in fact, a friend anymore.
Complicating matters was the fact that the two of them had long standing plans for a rather exciting outing.
One which the OP wasn’t looking forward to sharing with this so-called friend at all any more.
Wondering if. their solution to this problem was fair, the OP took to the subReddit “Would I Be I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“WIBTA for selling my friend’s Taylor Swift ticket?”
The OP explained how after they found themselves falling out with a close friend, they contemplated a way to get out of an outing they had planned together.
“I was the one that sat in that GOD awful Ticketmaster queue for literally 7 hours, fighting for my life to get us tickets to a show.”
“I won’t specify the show, because of the fear of my friend seeing this, but here’s the details:”
“When I got our tickets, my friend and I were super close.”
“However, she’s become extremely rude and honestly passive aggressive towards me as of late.”
“I tried to ask her if I’d done something, but she always says no.”
“I’ve also tried not to let it bother me, but now I’m aware from other people that she talks shit about me behind my back constantly.”
“I believe this is her boyfriend encouraging it, because he’s an awful person too, but she continues this behavior even when he isn’t around to see it.”
“For example, she’ll tell me I didn’t do something right, and I show her I did do it, she’ll get mad at me and not talk to me for at least 24 hours.”
“Or she’ll message her bf immediately the second I do something she deems annoying.”
“I truly believe at this point that she’s only being nice to me the way she is now because of our tickets.”
“She paid me for hers, face value, and it’s still under my Ticketmaster account.”
“If I sell it, it would be face value as well and I’d be giving her the money back, because obviously it’s her money.”
“I just don’t feel comfortable going with her anymore, and she’s made it clear if we go she expects to ride together/stay together and as dumb as it may be, I’m so sick of being treated like garbage because of her.”
“I know it probably seems mean to just sell the ticket and take away her chance of seeing Taylor, but the idea of sitting next to her for 3 hours, plus the hours that it’ll take to drive there, plus any time in a hotel, makes me miserable.”
“She hasn’t paid for gas, or hotel, or anything that she would be out money wise for if I got rid of the ticket.”
“And again, I would 10000% give her her money back, because I am not a thief and would not steal anyone’s money.”
“Please weigh in here, because our concert is in ~1 month, and I don’t know what to do because I feel like it’s an a**hole move but at the same time, I’d be returning her money.”
“The reason i’m wanting to sell the ticket completely is because it will be RIGHT beside me the entire show.”
“If i sell it, I understand the friendship is over, but with the way she is, the friendship is over the second I tell her i want to go separately anyway.”
“A lot of people are under the impression I want revenge, but genuinely that is not the case.”
“I’d much rather go with her, we’ve been friends forever, but no matter what I do or say she refuses to treat me the way i deserve as of recent.”
“I would 100% talk to her before I sell the ticket, I’m just trying to get an opinion on how I should expect her to react.”
“WIBTA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
For the most part, the Reddit community agreed that the OP would not be the a**hole for selling their friend’s concert ticket.
Most agreed that as long as the OP gave their friend back her money, the OP had every right to sell the ticket owing to their friend’s poor behavior, with others saying they should at least have a conversation with her friend and be honest that they aren’t looking forward to seeing the concert with her anymore.
“NTA if you give her 100% of her money back.”
“You shouldn’t have to spend that much time with somebody who makes you so uncomfortable and miserable.”
“It would suck the joy out of the entire concert.”
“And you definitely don’t want that.”
“But if you sell the ticket, all pretenses drop and things between you two will get even worse.”
‘You’ll definitely lose the friendship, such as it is.”
“So, just be prepared to deal with the blowback.”- SpilledInk2022
“Ask her if she even wants to go anymore.”
‘She’ll say some sh*t like ‘wym? Ofc? Why, do you not ?’.”
“Then you can be like guurl idk what’s going on w us, but it just seems like you don’t like chilllln wit me no more.”
“Then you guys can fio from there prolly.”- _just_jake
“NTA.”
“It’s her, hi, she’s the problem, it’s her.”
“In all seriousness, your ‘friend’ needs to learn not to bite the hand that feeds her.”
“If she wants to see Taylor Swift so badly, she’d either use her own TicketMaster account or be nice to the person allowing her to see her idol in the first place.”
“If she asks why you sold the ticket, tell her to listen to ‘Mean’ on Spotify.”- SnorkelBerry
“NTA.”
“Life is too short to endure being next to a sh*tty human for something you put in so much work to get.”
“Karma’s a b*tch, she should have been a better friend.”- JustinIsFunny
“NTA.”
“I wouldn’t want to sit next to someone for a 3.5 hour concert and not enjoy it.”
“I say sell the ticket, pay her back for the face value, and enjoy the show!”
“But your friendship will definitely be over (if you care).”- guccigurl18
“NTA.”
“As op mentioned, the seats are right next to each other, and op would pay her friend back.”
“General advice for people is that if someone is doing you a favor such as idk waiting 7 hours to buy tickets…maybe don’t be a total jerk to them.”- Significant_Cat_3
“NTA.”
“Reddit is talking like this ticket is sh*tty friend’s legal property.”
“It’s not.”
“OP clarified she is absolutely paying the sh*tty friend back.”
“OP have a phone call to do a friend break up, then return the money immediately after the call ends.”
“Also, don’t sell for face value unless you have a different friend you want to come!”
“We need to take into account OP’s time.”
“7 hours spent in the virtual queue, scheduling the time to do so.”
“All this rigamarole to sell the tix, etc.”
“Honestly, value your time and sell that sh*t at a profit.”- Burnmaid
Others, however, felt that it would definitely be wrong for the OP to sell the ticket, as their friend had indeed paid for it, so it was technically hers, and not the OP’s to sell.
“Just say – ‘hey I honestly feel like you don’t even like me anymore, so I don’t want to go to the show with you, take care of your travel and stay by yourself’.”
“‘I’ll email you the ticket’.”
“Then if she sells it fine, if she goes to the concert well eh, just try to ignore her.”
“Maybe try to find someone who’s willing to change seats.”
“Selling it over her head (even if you give her the money back) would he an a**hole move, even if your reasoning is understandable.”- rinyamalom
“Give her the ticket, she paid for it, but that doesn’t mean you have to travel with or stay with her.”
“Ignore her at the concert.”- Motor-Ad5284
“YTA.”
“She sounds like she absolutely sucks but the reality of your agreement and her payment is that that ticket belongs to her.”
“You don’t have to go with her.”
“But you do have to give her her ticket.”- Wanderinglatkes
It seems that the concert ticket is only the stem of a much bigger problem.
What the OP really needs to figure out is what has led their friend to this sudden, unhappy change in behavior, which has affected their friendship.
As if the feeling is not mutual, and the OP’s friend doesn’t see a problem with going to the concert with the OP, then this friend really needs to reflect upon her behavior, otherwise, this concert could very well be the effective end to their friendship.