Addiction can have far reaching consequences that can force some addicts to face the truth and begin their journey to recovery.
But recovery is a full time struggle. For an addict, there is no “just one drink” or “just one hit.”
Temptation is strong though, and the feeling that you’re no longer susceptible after years in recovery can be deceiving when offered that first drink or hit by a friend or family member.
An 18-year-old son is dealing with these issues with his alcoholic father. So he turned to the “Am I The A**hole” subReddit for perspective.
Redditor dadweekend asked:
“AITA for throwing my condition at my dad’s face when he tried to drink again?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“When I (18M) was 7 years old my dad and me went to my uncles place one weekend. Back then my dad had a habit of drinking too much and never admitted it was a problem.”
“He got pretty drunk that night and drove us home. On the way he fell asleep and our car flipped.”
“It was a serious accident one of the most traumatic moments of my life and I suffered from it the most. Head injury, broken leg, cuts that needed multiple stitches.”
“I still have the scars and a pretty ugly one on the side of my head luckily covered by my hair. The worst thing was I lost vision in my right eye. My dad suffered some injuries but nothing too bad.”
“He did some time for what he did, driving drunk, child endangerment and all that. My mom got full custody of me and I didn’t see my dad for awhile.”
“I did therapy cause I was scared of being in a car for a long time, was in and out of the hospital after that.”
“My dad stopped drinking . He did meetings and was sober for a while when he tried to reach out to me a few years ago.”
“My mom let me decide and I gave him a chance. I saw how guilty he was for what he did to my life.”
“Well a week ago I went with him to a friend’s house and out of nowhere they started having some beers. Offered my dad one.”
“At first he was like ‘no’ but then he said ‘fine’. The whole time I was looking at him like are u serious right now?”
“He said ‘what it’s just a beer’, he’s been sober for years so one wouldn’t hurt. I don’t know, it just pissed me off so much I was literally shaking.”
“Out loud I said ‘so losing my eye wasn’t enough for you?'”
“I got up and left but could hear my dad calling me apologizing. But yeah that was it for me.”
“He promised he wouldn’t ever drink again. That’s exactly what he said when he apologized for the accident.”
“My uncle was there when I said that so he’s the one saying I was too mean for throwing that back at my dad’s face.”
“Because he lives with that regret every day and it’s not right to remind him when he was just considering having one beer.”
“My dad says too his feelings are hurt right now for what I said so I’m wondering if I was an asshole for reminding him of that.”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided unanimously OP was not the a**hole.