There is always that one relative.
Be it an aunt, uncle, grandparent, or in-law, there is always one family member that fits the well-known, tiresome archetype: strong-willed, opinionated, and lacking any filter whatsoever.
This relative always has something uncomfortable to say at the least comfortable time.
And as they’re family, you can expect to encounter them at least a few times a year at a party or, these days, a video chat. It’s a conflict-ridden reunion just about every time.
For Redditor justaskking2, her aunt was the pesky kin in question.
But after her aunt’s most recent brutal comment like so many before, justasking2 was feeling saucy.
She recounted the entire incident in a post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit.
The post’s title indicated the thrust of the conflict.
“AITA for being really crude to my nosy aunt about my sex life?”
She began with some background about the family dynamic.
“For some reason, whenever my aunt calls and catches up with family she really picks on me.”
“She sees me as the slutty one in the family with a steady stream of boyfriends. I’ve only had like half a dozen and I’m nearly 25, for heaven’s sake!”
“Still, compared to her 23 yr old pitch perfect valedictorian daughter, I guess I’m easy pickings.”
At a recent family “gathering,” the aunt was right on cue.
“This last week, she had the nerve on a family call with my cousin, my older sis, and my dad to bring up my dating life.”
“Something silly about how I’m getting along without meeting my bf that often. (You know, I’m hungry and thirsty for sex unlike her perfect little girl.)”
“She made a really bad comment about how I should be careful and that you never know when you can get pregnant (that’s why her daughter’s waiting to get engaged .. little did she know .. but my cousin and I are tight so I wouldn’t rat on her).”
But the aunt had no idea what was coming next.
“In the heat of the moment, I responded, don’t worry, I make sure it’s only on my face each time. No chance of pregnancy there.”
Reactions were, shall we say, mixed.
“My sis thought it was hilarious, my dad stifled a laugh, but my aunt got mortified. She huffed and puffed about how rude I was and how inappropriate it was to bring this up with family.”
“Wait … sex lives are inappropriate in family conversations? Wouldn’t know it from talking to her.”
But the ordeal didn’t end with the verbal joust.
“Apparently my aunt and dad had a long call afterwards and she had the nerve to tell me to apologize to her and for setting a bad example for her perfect daughter.”
“Sigh. I just did something lukewarm to ease off the family drama but AITA here?”
Anonymous strangers on the internet were asked if and where guilt belongs by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors felt that she was “not the a**hole” for saying the snarky comment she did.
“NTA and that’s hilarious” — SurvIthrowaway
“NTA. The frigging hypocrisy. Also, love how you didn’t throw your cousin under the bus. I know that would have been the bigger blow to your aunt (obvs nothing wrong having sex) but you didn’t go there.” — actualreallifebear
“NTA. She was rude, you had a snappy comeback. No need to apologise, especially if it means you can skip calls with her in future.” — curiousbelgian
“NTA. She can mind her own business, simple as that.” — UnOriginal-UserNames
“NTA, maybe she’ll keep her speculative mouth shut about your private life from now on.” — riritreetop
Some people totally related to the situation. They shared their own stories.
“NTA my aunt is the same way with my sister, since she already got some smart remarks from me and doesn’t risk that anymore.”
“Every time we’re at a family gathering and she pulls that I tend to give her the death glare along with my parents and that shuts her up good.” — ToxicDollhouse
“NTA and you’re my hero.”
“This reminds me of a Christmas where my aunt cornered me ([24 year-old Female]) and started preaching about ‘saving it for my wedding night’ and I snapped and said ‘should we have had this talk when I was 18? Because there have been a lot of wedding nights since.’” — TexasBlonde2019
“NTA. Whenever my family asked when my wife and I were going to have kids i would tell them that we practice every night and I’ll let them know when we perfect it. Most people got a kick out it and didn’t ask again.”
“My aunt was mortified and my dad saw her reaction and couldn’t stop laughing. I got up out of my seat and said ‘speaking of which it’s about that time’ and walked out of the room.”
“My dad and I still laugh about it.” — munster1588
Some offered ideas for additional snarky responses.
“We only do anal….mic drop.” — shappa357
“NTA. I suggest doubling down. Get a little more graphic each time she gives you crap. Eventually you can tell her to get her jollies from Pornhub like a normal person.” — Antisocialkittie
“’When you stop asking me about my sex life, I’ll stop responding with details.’”
“NTA” — currently_distracted