Alyssa, known as @yourholygaymom on Twitter, recently shared some very disturbing screenshots of a text conversation.
In the screenshots, an anonymous man harrasses the 21-year-old Toronto resident by calling her an anti-lgbtq slur in addition to telling her she is going to hell.
we live in a society pic.twitter.com/fT9LlH7vOU
â€” alyssa (@yourholygaymom) November 18, 2019
When Alyssa responded to this hate in her inbox with the phrase “OK Boomer,” the man lost it.
He asked Alyssa “How can you call me that?” as though he hadn’t just called her a d*ke two messages before.
He went on to further insult Alyssa’s Twitter followers, calling them “ugly ass f**gots” and saying “Never use that word [boomer], itâ€™s wrong,” again ignoring his own use of hateful language in the same message thread.
He then apparently lapsed into threats of rape and other violence against Alyssa, including murder.
A few tried to implore the man to think WWJD: “What Would Jesus Do?”.
Each time anyone tried to use or explain the word Boomer, the man insisted the phrase Baby Boomer was wrong.
Followed by a string of slurs and profanity.
Alyssa told PinkNews that the phrase “OK Boomer” has come to be used to shut down lots of:
“unnecessary and toxic conversations where the other person is unwilling to see your perspective.”
She was definitely having a hard time dealing with the level of vitriol being leveled against her by this individual.
“Iâ€™m fully shook [that he would send death and rape threats] but not surprised. Iâ€™ve seen worse.”Â
“I think a lot of boomers are actually really mad at the LGBT+ community, the POC community and the feminist community because they are feeling like they donâ€™t have power anymore.”Â
She went on to share some pretty deep thoughts on the source of this anger and hate.
“The â€˜common boomersâ€™ who donâ€™t own corporations have fully lost their power, in that the next generation is not listening to them. They canâ€™t manipulate or hate on people anymore without consequences.”Â
“In their day they could simply walk away after saying the N-word or bullying someone for their sexuality. They were the kings of the land.”
“Now itâ€™s like you are taking away their land acre by acre and they are terrified, and in fight or flight become so hateful itâ€™s ugly.”
There has been a slew of controversy surrounding the phrase “OK Boomer” lately, and Alyssa chimed in with her thoughts on the phrase.
“It’s not a slur. There is no history of oppression associated with the word boomer, it describes your generation.”
“I kinda understand them because it brings it down to their age and it feels like we are making fun of the for being old, but boomer is not even about age.”Â
Alyssa clarified that “Boomer” in many cases has more to do with a person’s attitude and beliefs than their age.
“It mores describes a mindset that is still stuck in that whole 50s, 60s White supremacist anti-gay, men are strong, women are weak era.”Â
Ultimately, said Alyssa, the phrase is a dismissal of that mindset, and the harm it does, in favor of living in the present.
“But mostly the meaning of â€˜OK boomerâ€™ is â€˜alright, we heard you, thank you for your opinion but its irrelevant honeyâ€™.”Â
‘Itâ€™s a statement that baby, the world is not yours to oppress anymore. Your time is up.”
She also pointed out that it is often used toward oppressors, with whom conversation is often pointless or downright detrimental.
Alyssa then talked about her childhood, being kicked out by her family in Pakistan for being gay before emigrating to Canada with the help of an LGBTQ activist in Pakistan.
It wasn’t all sunshine and roses for Alyssa in Canada, however.
“The child services took me from the airport and placed me into the foster system, but three out of four of those families were highly homophobic. One of them sent me to conversion therapy.”Â
After aging out of the foster care system, Alyssa still deals with homophobia in her daily life while living in what she calls “a homophobic suburb” while she saves money for college.
Her struggles don’t just stem from homophobia, however. Much of it stems from trying to survive in an economy that was stacked against her before she was even old enough to make her own decisions.
“I almost have not had a life, and thatâ€™s so true for so many people from my generation. We donâ€™t have the resources and the privileges of the previous generation. Itâ€™s harder to get a good job. Itâ€™s harder to pay for college.”Â
“Itâ€™s harder to manage your emotional life, your professional life and the trauma the boomers gave us.”
Alyssa then delivered a powerful statement about why engaging with people with the “Boomer” attitude can be downright detrimental.
“So donâ€™t mind me if I donâ€™t want to engage in a conversation with someone who wants to hurt me or who wants me dead.”Â