Breakups aren’t easy, especially when the split is a result of unfaithfulness. Emotions are difficult to handle during that time, and the daunting task of distributing rightful belongings lingers.
And tempers can flare when the newly-separated parties don’t agree over ownership of particular items.
A guy on Reddit sold Taylor Swift tickets he bought for his girlfriend after he found out she was cheating on him, so he turned to the “Am I The A**hole Here” (AITAH) subReddit to seek feedback from fellow Redditors.
Redditor AvocadoEfficient896 asked:
“AITAH For selling my Taylor Swift tickets after my GF cheated?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“A few months back, I (27/M[ale]) won some money and decided to surprise my girlfriend (25/F[emale]) with Taylor Swift tickets for her Vancouver show.”
“She’s been a massive Swiftie since forever and I knew this would mean the world to her.”
“I spent around $800 for two really good seats.”
“Last week, I discovered she’d been secretly meeting up with her ‘work friend’ for months.”
“I found out because she accidentally left her Instagram DMs open on my laptop (she’d been using it to print something), and I saw weeks of flirty messages and plans to meet up.”
“When I confronted her, she tried to deny it at first but eventually admitted they’d kissed several times and had been having an emotional affair.”
“I was devastated.”
“These tickets were meant to be a special experience for us, and I couldn’t stomach the thought of taking her after this betrayal.”
“Rather than let them go to waste, I decided to sell them.”
“Given how insane the Taylor Swift ticket market is right now, I managed to sell them for $2,400 – triple what I paid.”
“When she found out I sold the tickets, she completely lost it.”
“She’s been blowing up my phone, calling me petty and cruel, saying I ‘ruined her dream’ and that the tickets were a ‘gift’ so they belonged to her.”
“Her friends are also messaging me, saying I’m an awful person for using the tickets to hurt her.”
“I feel like I had every right to sell tickets I bought with my own money, especially after what she did.”
“But she’s making me feel like I took things too far.”
“AITAH?”
Redditors weighed in and decided OP was not the a**hole (NTA) in this situation.
“NTA LMFAOOO “RUINED HER DREAM”😭😭😭” – Good_Narwhal_420
“NTA. It wasn’t an emotional affair if they were kissing.”
“It was an actual affair.”
“If you still took her to a concert after she had an affair with someone else, THAT would be weird.”
“You should move on and let her have her new relationship out in the open and let THAT person buy her Swift tickets” – spookyclever
“NTA”
“She f**ked around and found out.”
“Note: You cannot be surprised that her airhead friends took her side.”
“I would bet they knew all about her cheating all along.”
“Advice: I assume you dumped her a**.”
“Block her and all of her airhead friends.” – BlueGreen_1956
“NTA.”
“The tickets were a gift meant for a special experience together, and her betrayal completely changed that.”
“You had every right to sell them since you paid for them and she broke your trust.”
“It’s understandable that she’s upset, but her actions led to this situation. “
“You’re not obligated to let her keep the tickets after what she did.”
“Don’t let her or her friends guilt-trip you into thinking otherwise.” – Ture20301
“NTA”
“She FAFO for being a cheater.”
“These are the consequences.”
“Ruined her dreams? Womp womp.”
“She hurt you real bad and all she can think about is herself.”
“Block her and her friends and be rid of her.”
“Edit to add: Send her the lyrics of Bad Blood by Taylor Swift. Looool” – Happy-Albatross3376
“NTA. Taylor would be even proud 👏🏼” – Outrageous_Ad7222
“This might be the best possible revenge on a swiftie.”
“10/10 no notes NTA” – msnare93
“Cheaters are awful people”
“You’re Ex and her friends are awful people.”
“You dont get rewarded for bad behavior.”
“NTA” – Character-Tell4893
“It sounds like you didn’t want to go with her because of what happened, and that’s why you sold the tickets.”
“You weren’t selling them to ‘punish’ her, but because you need some space from her. Right?”
“If so, NTA.” – SparkyandDolche
“Honestly, making a profit off of her infidelity is the most baller move I’ve ever heard of.”
“NTA.” – Potential-Note-6464
“NTA.”
“You were generous to buy your girlfriend tickets to see her favorite artist, but she betrayed your trust and hurt you deeply.”
“You have every right to do whatever you want with your own property, including selling the tickets.”
“Her reaction is disproportionate and manipulative.”
“She’s trying to shift the blame onto you and make you feel guilty for her own actions.”
“Don’t let her gaslight you.”
“You did the right thing” – SadlyNervous
“NTA”
“Oh No! You sold her pricey gift that was for the two of you!”
“How could you?”
“Now she’s gonna cry to her ‘work friend.'” – SockMaster9273
“Why are you still calling her ‘your GF.'”
“Shouldn’t it be ex-GF?”
“Either you forgave her for her cheating, and she is still your GF, or you broke up with her, and she’s your ex.”
“If she’s still supposedly your GF then yeah, you’re being inconsistent and punishing her in a way that’s not becoming of a BF / are the AH.”
“But if you’re broken up then just block and move on / NTA.” – NarcolepticMD_3
“I think Taylor Swift would say NTA.” – naughty-goose
“Vanguard anticipates returns between 3-5% over the next 10 years in the stock market.”
“You just made 300% and are about to embark on happier times than you could ever imagine with the right person.”
“NTA. Godspeed.”
“Toss that extra $$$ in BTC🚀” – Happy_Contract8208
“NTA.”
“Honestly, did she really expect to still go to the concert after all this happened?”
“She might live in some delusional world where there’s no consequences for her actions.” – Hamzeeki
“For the love of god, when does emotional and or rational thinking begin nowadays?”
“She cheated, you sold the tickets and are broken up.”
“At what part are you the AH?”
“NTA keep it moving” – noletex107
“She cheated, she doesn’t get to be mad at anything you do anymore.”
“I notice you didn’t call her your ex, I hope that has changed now.”
“She belongs to the streets.”
“NTA” – Spiersy_
“NTA.”
“Those tickets weren’t a gift; they were plans for a shared experience one that got canceled because she couldn’t keep her plans to herself (if you know what I mean).”
“Also, let’s not forget: she ‘ruined her dream’ by prioritizing sneaky DMs over your relationship.”
“Turning $800 heartbreak into $2,400 therapy funds sounds like the most Taylor Swift-level poetic justice I’ve ever heard.” – glitteringpeachdream
“Why do you care what a cheater or her friends think?”
“I’m gathering her friends didn’t give HER crap for cheating on you, right?”
“NTA Op, personally i’d laugh in their faces anytime one of her friends try to give you crap for this but i’m petty.”
“Keep your head up man and maybe use that money for a nice vacation.” – HUNGWHITEBOI25
“Well, if the engagement is off you give back the ring, right?”
“F**k them.”
“NTA” – rbartlejr
“NTA at all.”
“She’s just upset because she thought that you’d be a pushover and take her to the show anyway.”
“Ask her and her friends what they’d do if they bought $400 tickets for a guy who cheated on them and were expected to take him anyway.”
“Have a strong feeling they’d handle it the way you handled it.”
“Your hopefully soon-to-be-ex made bad decisions that affected her life, and now she knows that karma sometimes bites back instantly.”
“Move on from her and her friends because they seem to live in a world where their actions don’t have consequences and I guarantee you your GF will cheat on you after this, if she hasn’t already, because the resentment from you selling those tickets will just grow and she’ll blame that for her developing infidelity.”
“Cut your losses now.” – ejatx
“You should’ve not told her you sold the tickets and gave her fake ones to f**k with her even more, you were far nicer than you could’ve been about it.”
“NTA.” – ashleytheestallionn
“F’ her and her friends.”
“She deserves nothing. NTA”
“She can swiftly get her a** out of your life lol”
“Are you still with her?”
“Can her a**, plenty of fish out there.” – DDDurty
“NTA”
“Block, lather rinse repeat.”
“Her new guy can buy her stuff.” – Western-Cupcake-6651
“NTA.”
“You bought the tickets.”
“You’re free to sell the tickets.” – 4000-young
“NTA, tell her to have her affair partner buy her some, they can live her dream together since he was clearly important enough to her to ruin her relationship with you.” – buckem420
“You are definitely NTA.”
“If I were you, I’d plan an amazing vacation with some of that cash and bank the rest.”
“Block anyone who has the audacity to tell you that you owe your ex-girlfriend anything after she cheated on you.” – StillOrbiting
“NTA. FAFO.”
“Block her, and anyone else who gives your grief.” – Heathen_Crew
Hopefully, OP feels better about his decision after reading the comments.
Maybe he can take their advice and enjoy a nice little trip with his profit.