There are few feelings worse than that of feeling left out.
A feeling which feels particularly bad during one’s teenage years.
Where despite your best efforts, you never find yourselves invited to parties all the cool kids were at, or sitting alone at lunch.
Redditor irrationaloffer was elated when it not only appeared that he was invited to a party, but was invited by a girl he’d had a crush on for some time.
Until it became clear to him that this girl’s invitation wasn’t exactly what it appeared to be.
As a result, the original poster (OP) made sure that the one contribution he was asked to provide for the party, never made it there.
Wondering if his actions were fair, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where he asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for taking back the beer I bought for a party from which I was uninvited?”
The OP shared how after believing he had been invited to an “in-crowd” party, he discovered that a girl he long harbored a crush on was, in fact, using him.
“This happened just a few hours ago.”
“I am a 19 year old man and the people calling me an a**hole are 18 year old men and women.”
“On Thursday, a person I had a major crush on in high school, but who rejected me, messaged me out of the blue.”
“She had never contacted me without my contacting her first, and at one point I realized she had had me blocked on social media, and so I found it odd that she was suddenly being friendly.”
“After sending a couple of greetings/questions about how I’ve been, she said that she was going to have some people over and wanted to know if I would get the beer.”
“The drinking age where we are is 19, and she and the people who were going to chill were all 18.”
“The liquor stores in my area all card.”
“I thought it was silly that my being a month older meant I could buy liquor and they couldn’t, and so I said I would love to go.”
“She said ‘thanks, I’ll pick you up at seven!'”
“7 o’clock rolled around, and she texted me to say she was in front of my house.”
“I went out dressed and ready to chill with some people, and she drove me to the liquor store.”
“When we got there, I asked what beer she wanted me to get, and she told me to get Budweiser.”
“I hid my disappointment as well as I could, but it was her party so I went in and bought two cases of 24.’
“I got back in the car and said ‘let’s party’, and she was eerily quiet.”
“I noticed that she wasn’t driving towards her neighborhood, but rather back towards mine.”
“I thought she had moved or something, but didn’t want to press the issue.”
“When she turned down my street I finally figured it out.”
“She was being purposefully vague about the invitation because she wanted me to get the beer, but she wanted a way out when she told me I wasn’t actually invited in the first place.”
“She stopped in front of my house, leaned over, kissed me on the cheek, and said ‘thanks!’ in her best voice.”
“I deadpanned her and asked when she was going to tell me I wasn’t invited.”
“She feigned surprise and said that she never intended to invite me in the first place.”
“I sat in silence for a long awkward minute, picked up the beer, and walked towards my front door.”
“She got out of her car and frantically tried to re-invite me to the party, but I told her that what she did was the most humiliating thing that ever happened to me.”
“I opened my front door, slammed it a bit too hard, and came back to my room.”
“Now I’m sitting here drinking absolutely unpalatable piss water, and I have text messages from all of her friends and her asking me why I’m being such a d*ck.”
“I don’t think I’m the a**hole for reacting the way I did, but if you haven’t figured it out I’m not amazing socially so I’m not sure.”
“Am I here?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community unanimously agreed that the OP was in no way the a**hole for keeping the beer he bought for a party he wasn’t invited to.
Everyone agreed that the girl who invited the OP to the party was cruel and manipulative, and also had no right to keep the beer.
“NTA.”
“And then she has the audacity to call YOU the dick?”- KrymsinTyde
“NTA.”
“I would have loved to see her face when you took the beer with you.”
“Good for you.”- inimeg68
“NTA.”
“Blatantly.”
“How did she expect this to go?”
“You’d happily go buy her beer, then take it to the party, then leave, without partying or drinking your beer?”
“They have to all be a bit cracked in the head if they believe that was ever going to work.”
“I’d take a snapchat of me pouring that down a toilet before I ever gave it to them.”
“I’m so sorry this happened to you.”
“I hope you can move past what a nasty piece of work this girl, not woman, is.”- court_in_the_middle
“NTA.”
“Good for you for standing up for yourself.”
“Enjoy the Buds with some actual friends and never speak to this awful girl again.”- MediumDrink
“NTA.”
“F*ck them kids.”- 389idha
“NTA, and high five to you for taking the beer.”
“Sorry it’s Budweiser though, maybe try to return the unopened case?”- sonja_says
“NTA, and this is actually a victory story.”
“She should be ashamed.”
“Call up some friends and play a drinking game, maybe call it a Mexi beach party and throw together tacos and make some cheladas with that beer so it’s more palatable, or any other beer cocktail.”- ObiWanCombover
“NTA.”
“Wow I can’t even contemplate how someone would do that and still expect the beer.”- Sheepie125
“NTA.”
“The girl was quite obviously using you because of your age, and since you bought the beers they were yours anyway.”- bigboidaddy123
“Totally in the right.”
“And it might be hard to believe or even hear but trust me.”
“You’re way better off teaching that person a lesson.”
“Chug that shit beer in good health but drink a bunch of water to keep from getting those wicked Bud hangovers.”- Rex-A-Vision
“NTA.”
“To be completely honest it kinda sounds like you weren’t actually invited, she just asked if you would get her beer for the night.”
“That being said, it’s definitely an AH move for her to reach out to you after a long period of time, seemingly out of the blue just to ask you to break the law for her.”
“And to not even invite you to the party after?”
“From my understanding, you bought the beer with your own money so you’re absolutely not in the wrong for taking it with you once you realized you weren’t being invited to the party.”
“You didn’t yell at her, call her names or do anything rude, just took your beer and left.”
“I actually don’t think you could have handled this better than you did.”
“If there was a stronger judgment than NTA, I’d give it to you!”- galpalnykki
“NTA.”
“I think there would be a bunch of petty ways to exact revenge, but the biggest thing you can do is not react.”
“They are all 18 year olds who don’t know how to be respectable human beings.”
“So I wouldn’t take pics and send them of you throwing the beer away.”
“Take the high road and don’t say anything.”
“Don’t returns texts or calls, and if you see them or end up chatting with them, keep it short.”
“As the night will go on they will find someone else to get drinks, then they will berate you because you ditched them.”
“So don’t respond to any of it and your victory will be in denying them the satisfaction of getting a reaction out of you.”- mtlmike85
“NTA.”
“This girl sucks.”
“On another note, anyone actually enjoy Budweiser?”- dj-norequest
“I sincerely hope that you know that there is no way on earth that you could possibly be considered TA.”- SwishMyTail
“Haha NTA, they got what they deserved.”
“Sorry you got used.”- qweerrrtyyu
“Great thinking on your feet, instead of her ditching you and leave with the beer.”
“Definitely NTA.”
“F*ck them and their messages, put them all on blocked and live on happy and knowing that you made a dent in their egocentric little world.”- Terror_Beer
Perhaps what’s most surprising is that this girl didn’t even offer to pay for the beers.
Hopefully the OP might have learned, while drinking a Budweiser or two, that anyone who behaved like that wasn’t worth spending even a minute to think about.
And her behavior is likely a sign of the type of people she’d be friends with, leaving one to think this was a party no one would want to be invited to anyway.