A person’s behavior in their own private bedroom is supposed to be their own business.
Right?
How someone sleeps is part of that business.
Many people enjoy sleeping in the nude.
This can make other people uncomfortable.
So, to wear clothes or not?
Redditor Outrageous-Ad-4008 wanted to discuss his experience and get some feedback, so naturally, he came to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subreddit.
He asked:
“AITA for sleeping naked in my own room?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Since I was a teenager, I’ve always slept naked.”
“I always get too hot at night, and it’s just generally way more comfortable for me to sleep that way.”
“Whenever I leave my room, I’m always dressed, or at the very least have shorts or something on if I’m going to/from the shower.”
“My roommate knows this and up to this point has had no problem with it, and we always knock on each other’s doors anyway to be polite.”
“The issue started when he brought over his G[irl]F[riend] to stay a couple of nights.”
“We all get along pretty well and have all hung out a few times before, but this was the first time she had come over and spent the night.”
“We had all gone out drinking and got home pretty late, so once we all walked in, we just went straight to sleep.”
“I, of course, went to bed with my usual routine of getting naked and hopping into bed.”
“Well, sometime during the night, my roommate’s girlfriend needed to use the bathroom, but she didn’t know which room it was.”
“My room and the bathroom are right next to each other, and she opened my door by mistake.”
“I have a vague memory of her opening my door, but I was half asleep, and when she closed it I went right back to sleep.”
“The next morning, I woke up, and my roommate and his girlfriend were upset with me because when she walked in, she saw everything, and she was mad I would sleep naked when a guest was over in the first place.”
“They both said I need to start wearing clothes to sleep since my roommate’s girlfriend is gonna probably be sleeping over more often, and it makes her uncomfortable.”
“My argument was that I’m in my own private space away from them and that while I understand it was a mistake, it’s still her fault that she walked in on me sleeping.”
“It’s been a few days, and my roommate still won’t let it go.”
“I still sleep naked, and now once on purpose he’s walked in on me sleeping just to see if I was naked or not.”
“I don’t really care about him seeing me naked cause we’ve seen each other naked before, but this is getting really out of hand.”
“I don’t think I should have to wear clothes to sleep just because it makes his girlfriend uncomfortable, even though I’m in my own private room.”
The OP was left to wonder:
“So… AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question, AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A**hole.
“No nudity in your room.”
“Got it.”
“So they’re not having sex when she comes over, right?”
“Maybe you should start walking in on them to check.”
“Also, how exactly did she manage to see that you were completely naked?”
“How hard was she looking into the darkened room that clearly wasn’t the room she wanted?”
“Did she ever apologise for the invasion of your privacy? NTA.” ~ Historical_Heron4801
“On top of that, this is the PERFECT opportunity to lay some ground rules and establish that if she starts being there all the time, bills start to get split 3 ways instead of 2.”
“As long as there is already drama, OP might as well tackle the next problem coming soon to his household.” ~ WanderingStar01
“I’m really sorry, but your roommate purposefully opening the door on you while you sleep TO SEE IF YOU ARE NAKED is lowkey sexual harassment.”
“His girlfriend has no business whatsoever dictating how you sleep, in your own goddamn room.”
“Also, I’m really sorry, but they can’t just announce ‘Well, she’s technically gonna live here with us, so you better dress up in three layers for the night’ – that needs a discussion, that needs sitting down and asking ‘Are you okay with this?'”
“You’re not being indecent, so NTA all the way.” ~ Calculated_Mischief
“Stick a simple wedge under the door from the inside, if the door opens inwards, but no one has the right to dictate how you behave in the privacy of your own room unless that behaviour impacts others.”
“Sleeping does not impact anyone else unless your snoring is loud enough to be heard outside your room.”
“Anything else?”
“Not their business.” ~ TheOriginalMythrelle
“And how often are they naked behind your roommate’s door?”
“Would they appreciate a late-night check? NTA.” ~ vortexofchaos
“This. How often do they hook up?”
“By their logic, not allowed, because there’s a roommate and she’s just a guest. NTA.” ~ MiddlePop4953
“NTA, they are.”
“You’re in your own room, a private space for you.”
“Can you switch out the doorknob for your room to one that has a lock on it?”
“The fact that your roomie came into your room PURPOSELY – while you were sleeping – to check if you were naked or not, is CREEPY AF.”
“And totally inappropriate.”
“I don’t know, man, that’s just such weird and gross behavior.”
“It feels very violating for them to come check if you’re naked or not.”
“You sleeping in a Hulk costume, or naked – is quite literally, none of anyone’s business, let alone their business.” ~ anonyyymousss22
“Get a lock for your door if you can.”
“I find it weird that they will now enter your bedroom while you’re sleeping to check if you’re naked.”
“NTA. A guest doesn’t get to dictate how you conduct yourself in your own home.”
“If she doesn’t like it, maybe your housemate needs to stay at her place instead.” ~ recreationalgluttony
“NTA. Your room, wear what you want.”
“Tell your roommate, rather than demanding to control how you sleep, he teaches his guests where the damn restroom is.” ~ MagnusCthulhu
“NTA. It’s your bedroom.’
“What if you were, say, changing or self-pleasuring or something?”
“It’s not your fault she made a mistake, and if they can’t see that, then that’s their problem.”
“If it bothers him so much, maybe your roommate should show her where the bathroom is, but he didn’t.” ~ Long-Band-180
“NTA, the girlfriend finds you attractive, the roommate knows, and they both have decided it’s your fault.”
“It is obviously not.”
“A normal reaction to this is profuse apologies from her for walking in on you, if she can’t handle the mere thought of you being naked in your own home, shes into you.”
“This is not good news.”
“I’d invest in a lock for your roommate randomly peeping in on you; it is absolutely crossing a line.” ~ IcyPlate2313
OP returned to chat…
“To everyone saying I should lock my door or add a lock, I would really like to.”
“Unfortunately, the place we’re staying at doesn’t want us to change the door handles or anything, so I can’t do that.”
“However, I am currently looking into ways to stop my door from opening, which isn’t like a barricade or a drill that drills into the door/wall.”
“Update: Wow, I really didn’t expect this to blow up like this, but thank you all for the feedback.”
“A lot of you recommended a doorstopper cause they’re super cheap and easy to use, and that’s what I’ve ended up going with, so thank you all who recommended them to me.”
“Okay, so I’ve had a talk with my roommate and brought up some of the points y’all made.”
“For starters, I brought up how it’s hypocritical to ask me not to sleep naked since they are most definitely naked when they’re having sex in the same home as me, and he said that was different since they’re not sleeping that way and usually hang something on the doorknob.”
“I also brought up the point that now she knows which door leads to the bathroom, so it shouldn’t happen again whenever she spends the night, and he said that it still makes her uncomfortable?”
“I guess she thinks I’m just gonna come out of my room at night swinging my junk around?”
“I suggested that he only spend the night at her place if it makes her so uncomfortable, but he literally just said it was easier for them to sleep here instead (no idea how that could be if I make her so uncomfortable).”
“So in the end I basically said I’m still gonna sleep naked.”
“I’m putting a doorstop in my room to make sure it doesn’t happen again, and if they’re still not satisfied, then they’re just gonna have to deal with it.”
“I think he’s gonna give up on it, talk to his girlfriend, and we’re gonna go back to normal.”
“I didn’t really talk about him walking in cause again, I don’t really care if I’m seen naked.”
“I know that’s kinda rare, but I’m super comfortable in my own skin, and it’s really his fault if he doesn’t wanna see me naked and walks in on me sleeping.”
“I’ll continue to update as this goes on.”
“Side note: to the people saying his girlfriend ‘wants’ me or something, I’m rocking an average 5.5 inches, so I’m not all that impressive.”
“Not only that, I’m pretty sure I wasn’t aroused, and I’m a grower, so it was even less impressive.”
“Thank you all for thinking I was packing, though.”
Glad to hear you’ve resolved your situation for yourself, OP.
This is definitely a problem for your roommate and his lady to handle.
Reddit was with you all the way.
Hopefully, the doorstop will work, and they’ll get over it.