Having a baby is an exciting and beautiful time. But it is also exhausting and painful.
It’s important to feel like your partner is there for you throughout the process.
So, when one person misses the birth of their baby it is upsetting for both parents.
Redditor pookiennermal encountered this very issue with her husband. So she turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for moral judgment.
“AITA for not trying harder to tell my husband I was in labour?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained.
“My husband who I do love and does love me. Is a distant and private person. To everyone. His mom was having health problems and I didn’t know until weeks later when I spoke to her.”
“I asked him how she was doing later and he said he didn’t know. That just how he deal with things. He doesn’t want to get to personal with anyone. We share hobbies and can have good conversations as long as they are not too personal. It can be off putting but I do genuinely enjoy his company.”
“Jump to this last week. I am pregnant and went into labor. It was only a few days before my due date so nothing concerning. I tried to call his work but his phone went right to voice mail because he was in a meeting. I text him. Still no answer.”
“I waited a half hour the tried again and still couldn’t get through. My labor was getting further along. So I called a friend to get a ride to the hospital.”
So, he found out later that day.
“By the time my husband checked his phone at the end of the work day, I had already given birth to our daughter. Everything was very straight forward no complications we were ready to leave by the next morning.”
“My husband is upset with me though. Saying I should have come by his work to tell him it was time. But he has alway’s been distant about work. I know what department he works in but not where his office is in the building. It would have been awkward.”
“My husband has told me what I did was unforgivable. He hasn’t called me an asshole but has said I am horrible person for denying him the joy of seeing our daughter born.”
“AITA for not trying harder to contact him?”
“Info because a lot are asking. I did text specifically that I was in labor.”
“I left voice mail to the same. I panicked a bit and didn’t call his office because he likes to keep work and home separate.”
“Which means I don’t know a lot about his work and I was worried I would over share to his coworkers by calling. And him not checking his phone is a part of his work home split too.”
“He doesn’t deal with anything work related at home but also just put his personal phone out of his mind at work. It is rare for me to get a response from him at all while he is at work on a normal day.”
Redditors gave their opinions on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Most Redditors agreed OP was not the a**hole.