Everyone’s allowed to have their own food preferences, but usually, when it comes to someone we love, we try to accommodate everyone’s tastes to make everyone happy.
But some people are too selfish for that, pointed out the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
Both done with their work for the day, Redditor bostonmade agreed to order pizza for himself and his girlfriend, but they couldn’t agree on which toppings to order.
When his girlfriend attempted to order her own pizza, the Original Poster (OP) refused.
He asked the sub:
“AITA for refusing to order plain cheese pizza for my girlfriend?”
The OP agreed to order pizza for dinner.
“My girlfriend gets off of work a few hours before I do, and she typically cooks for me, which I genuinely appreciate.”
“Today she was feeling lazy and didn’t really have any ideas for dinner (no big deal), so I told her I had been craving pizza and wouldn’t mind ordering that for dinner, and she agreed.”
“I told her that I would order it before I left for work so by the time I got home, it would be there.”
The couple could not agree on pizza toppings.
“She texted me back and said that’s fine, but to please order cheese pizza.”
“I asked her why and she said she didn’t really enjoy the topping I usually get which are super normal things like pepperoni, or bacon (mind you, this is the FIRST time I’m hearing this, she has eaten pizza with those toppings before).”
“So I was like, ‘Okay, are there like ANY toppings you would like to eat on your pizza as opposed to just having it plain?’ Because at that point, it’s just not really doing anything for me or filling that craving I had for some pizza.”
“She said no and that she just wanted plain pizza.”
Ordering pizza quickly became very, very complicated.
“I told her, ‘Well, if I’m buying it, I’m going to get what I want on it,’ and suggested that she could pick off the toppings if it bothered her that much or that we could do a sort of half-and-half deal where half was cheese.”
“Then she said that she could still usually tell or taste residual flavors or oil from the toppings when she did that and didn’t even want to do that, and said we could just order an entire other pie for her.”
“Neither of us is going to eat an entire pie so that just seemed frivolous to me, so I said let’s just forget the pizza idea and scrap it as a whole.”
“Then she started telling me that I was being a jerk and really inconsiderate, and I told her I sort of thought that she was being selfish a little bit, and now she’s very upset with me and isn’t speaking to me…”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some couldn’t see behind the OP’s level of entitlement.
“YTA, dude. It’s a pizza, it’s not like you’re hand-crafting a gourmet buffet. Just order two small ones instead of one big one.”
“It’s the least you can do considering SHE’S the one that’s always cooking for YOU. I can’t believe this was even an issue you had.” – IAmAStresedMess
“Absolutely YTA. How exactly is half-and-half pizza a compromise if she’s still going to taste your toppings anyway? You can get two small pizzas from Domino’s for like $12.”
“Do you even like her? My partner would never pull something like this especially if I was the only one cooking. Do better.” – geridesu
“She usually cooks for him every d**n day. Imagine doing all of that for your partner on a regular basis, and then finding out he’s too stubborn and cheap to buy you a small cheese pizza, because it isn’t what HE wants.”
“Selfish and ungrateful much?? Shame on you, OP. Do better.” – Predd1tor
“I think it’s hilarious that he thinks she‘s selfish when she asks for plain pizza (delicious by the way, you can eat it the next day, too) when she always eats the toppings he wants all the time and cooks almost every day for him.” – Paulinoir
“But she cooks for him every day and he is ‘grateful’ for that but cannot order a pizza for her separately and show the gratefulness and on the top girlfriend is being called selfish here.”
“How he doesn’t see it?” – rheyasa
“YTA. Just buy her a cheese pizza and yourself something else. Pizza is easy to reheat so it’s not like the leftovers go to waste. Why are you making such a fuss over this?” – Elegant Ant
“YTA. Like, there are different sizes of pizza you could have gotten, like two smalls or a medium and a small. It also seems like you guys always order toppings and she just kinda dealt with it or just didn’t say anything to start something.”
“You could have just compromised and gotten this one as just cheese and then next time get one with toppings. Kinda like every other situation.” – Overall-Recover-8685
“Let’s not forget that she’s usually the one in charge of making dinner. He said she didn’t have any ideas for what to make and that she was feeling ‘lazy,’ which makes me think that he rarely gives any input or help on dinner and is just used to coming home with food ready to go.”
“She wasn’t asking him to make anything special, all she wanted was a pizza that she enjoyed eating. That’s pretty much the least he can do at this point.” – KathrynTheGreat
“She always cooks, and OP ordered pizza ONE time and couldn’t compromise. That’s their relationship: OP OP OP and OP matters and his girlfriend is selfish if she wants to eat something she likes the day she’s not cooking.”
“In any case, OP should have to cook for both of them, and problem solved. YTA, a selfish one, and your girlfriend deserves someone better.” – Commercial-Loan-929
Others couldn’t understand how the OP hadn’t heard of leftovers before.
“Any time we buy pizza in my household, it is specifically because we want to have leftovers for a couple of days to make lunches easier. Same with Chinese food. The leftovers are half the point.” – EkbyBjarnum
“Pizza freezes just fine. OP is being so selfish. I hope his girlfriend decides she’s cooked enough meals for him.” – SaderOlderWiser
“I usually get a full pizza for myself. Because the pizza is loaded with cheese I’m full after two pieces. I just eat the rest later that day and the next day and give some to my boyfriend to snack on.”
“Unless they really only have money for one pizza (in which case they shouldn’t order it or at least get the Margherita since it’s cheaper than one full of toppings), it’s ridiculous to order just one pizza for both of them when there’s clearly a conflict. Also at least where I am there are usually different sizes of pizza. Just get two small ones, for f**k’s sake.” – Titariia
“I may be a bit weird here but for some reason I’ve always preferred pizza the next day as leftovers to the pizza when we get it that night. Like it’s the exact same pizza but for some reason, I just find it so much tastier the next day!!” – MaliSwan
“I cannot comprehend his refusal to just buy two pizzas. I will often buy two pizzas just for myself because I like different toppings and can eat the leftovers for a few days. Dude is ridiculous.” – NapsandShinyThings
“My husband and I rarely buy a pizza to share because we like different toppings. We just each get our own medium and eat the leftovers for lunch over the next couple of days.”
“This is such a strange hill for him to die on, especially since she usually cooks dinner for the both of them. I’m also not a fan of him saying that she was feeling ‘lazy’ for not wanting to cook for ONE night and then refusing to order what she wanted. Like… Dude.” – KathrynTheGreat
“It also freezes really well if you ever order too much for a birthday party. The correct number of party pizzas is whatever I think it should be, minus one.” – Electrical_Remove639
“We always buy too much and freeze it. Then we’ll put it in the oven one day when we’re feeling lazy and it’s like having a ‘free’ takeaway, lol (laughing out loud).” – LmbLma
The subReddit was left scratching their heads over why ordering pizza had become such an issue for this couple. At the very least, the couple could have some leftovers to enjoy for a meal or two after dinner, which would decrease the girlfriend’s cooking duties for the rest of the week.
Most were worried that it was a reflection of how selfish the OP was within this relationship, or that he was actually trying to control his girlfriend through domestic duties, what she ate, and how their money was spent.
No matter the underlying situation, we hope the girlfriend gets her cheese pizza.