Ask any professional artist or creative person of any kind, and they’ll tell you that the pressure to do their work for free is constant, and the lack of understanding when they decline is deeply annoying.
For a professional glassblower on Reddit, this age-old problem turned into a major conflict with their boyfriend after he asked them to make a piece of glass for free as a gift.
So, they took their situation to the AITA (Am I The A**hole) subReddit for some perspective.
The Original Poster (OP), who goes by the name HostaKe on the site, asked:
“AITA – Bf wants ME to gift MY work to HIS client”
“I blow glass for a living. My boyfriend is an electrician (and makes twice what I make).”
“He came home today after working at a new customer’s house and said the couple was so nice that he wants to ‘do something nice for them’ and asked me for a piece of glass to give them, but he doesn’t want to pay me for it.”
“This has happened before – he wants to do something nice for someone… by having ME give them something. I’ve tried explaining why this is problematic and offensive, but he just doesn’t get it and gets extremely pissed off that I won’t give him something.”
“He won’t even agree to pay 1/2 what I would normally charge.”
OP’s fellow Redditors were then asked to judge who was in the wrong in this situation using the following acronyms:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
And it was pretty much unanimous—almost no one was on the boyfriend’s side.
“Maybe I’m being petty, but I would return the favor so he can really understand what you mean. Tell him that x person is so kind and you want to do something nice for them, and you know they need an electrician so you were hoping to offer up his help free of charge.”
“I wonder how happy he would be to oblige. NTA.” —Dorielotes
“No need for hypotheticals or any of the other convoluted plots others are cooking up to prove the BF wouldn’t do the same. He already has it in his power to do something nice for the nice couple.”
“He can give them a discount, or go the extra mile he wouldn’t for a surly client. Involving OP at all proves his stinginess.” —Equal-Comprehensive
“Make sure the time needed is equivalent to how long it takes to make one of your art pieces. So he understand the volume in which he has asked of you.”
“Ex) hey I sold this piece to a really great couple, they mentioned they have have a fixer upper that needs new electrical wiring in the kitchen. So I told them you would do it pro Bono.” —looostandhurt
“OP needs to tell him she has a customer that needs their entire house rewired. Tell him it would be so cool if he got right to work.”
“OP he doesn’t want to do something nice for them, he wants you to do something nice” —TaterMA