Getting a tattoo is a big deal.
A person is marking their body for life.
So unless you're fall down drunk, most people plan out their tattoo intimately.
But sometimes the work isn't what you'd expect.
Case in point...
Redditor TattoodNoobAITA wanted to discuss their experience and get some feedback. So naturally, they came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
They asked:
"AITA for getting mad my artist hid their initials in my tattoo?"
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
"This is a short one."
"Names changed for privacy."
"I went to a tattoo shop in my area, with a photo of the tattoo I wanted."
'It was one my dad had gotten to honor my passed grandfather who’s father also had it."
"But the point is - it was important to me that the tattoo looked EXACTLY as it did in the photo."
"I get to the shop, I explain everything, I pay, get the tattoo, and we’re done."
"I think it looks awesome, everything is great!"
"Until a few weeks later when I show my great grandmother the tattoo."
"She’s ecstatic, grabs my arm to look at and compliment it, then asks, 'Who’s AJ?'"
"I ask her what she means, and she points out on the tattoo where the initials A and J or maybe T were hidden into the tattoo."
"I’m instantly pissed, as my artist's name is Alice Trever."
"She tries to assure me it’s no big deal if I hadn’t noticed it til now, but I still reached out to the artist sort of irritated."
"They told me the style of art I got is called traditional and it’s 'pretty trad' for all artists who do that style to do it."
"I demanded a partial refund and they refused, so I complained to the owner who made the artist give me a full refund."
"Now the artist is running a full smear campaign, talking about moving shops, and all kinds of crap."
"My sister says I’m an a**hole for pushing the issue, but I feel like, at the end of the day, I told you exactly what I wanted and you didn’t do that."
"AITA?"
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA - Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH - Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.
"NTA and I would even consider suing."
"They kind of branded you with their initials."
"And they should get fired." ~ Ok_Possibility5715
"Especially since it sounds like OP told the artist it needs to be EXACT."
"And they still put their initials anyway."
"You get permission before you do that s*it, it's permanent after all who wants a random person's initials in their tattoo?" ~ _ac3_0f_spad3s_
"Here’s the thing: I worked in tattoo for over a decade and I can tell you no one, I mean no one that’s a professional artist would ever consider hiding anything."
"Much less their own name or initials inside someone else’s tattoo."
'It’s not 'trad,' it’s not normal, and it’s not okay."
"I’m horrified some scratcher tried to pass this off as a thing."
"It’s not a thing."
"I’m with some of these other commentators that OP should sue."
"It’s not frivolous if someone branded their name on you without consent. Super uncool." ~ WithoutDennisNedry
"Tattoo artist must be licensed, correct?"
"I’m pretty sure it’s a requirement in each state here in the US."
"I’d also imagine it’s like that in most countries as well."
"Maybe OP should contact the organization that licensed the tattoo artist for possible revocation of their tattoo license."
"OP, NTA and please do go after this artist in any legal manner, so they can’t try the same thing on other unsuspecting customers." ~ Kilran3
"NTA. This person straight up BRANDED you!"
"Not only that, this isn't even the artist's design, it's a copied design!" ~ Pickitline
"Considering the tattoo was supposed to be an exact copy covering the initials would not make this situation right."
"Completely removing the tattoo with laser treatments than reapplying the tattoo as an exact copy without the initials is the only way to make the situation right."
"It would be up to OP if they wanted to go through all that pain to rectify the situation." ~ Proxiimity
"Exactly. If OP went in with a concept and the artist designed the whole tattoo, I wouldn't be mad about a well hidden artist's initial."
"But OP went in with an exact design they wanted copied over, exact is the key word." ~ Revan343
"Not only that, it’s not even their design!"
"It’s be one thing if it was this artist’s original work, but she was replicating something."
"Major *ick move, already, and that’s before we even start the conversation about consent."
"Def NTA, OP." ~ GooseDactyl
"NTA. I remember there was an Ink Master episode where someone had a piece with a clock face and the artist put their time of birth on it as some kind of 'signature.'"
"The judges ripped him up for it. Same basic principle."
"Tattoo artists shouldn't be signing a tat in anyway without first discussing it with the client."
"Your artist definitely shouldn't have done this since it was a particularly meaningful design for you." ~ RubY-F0x
"Not only did the Artist permanently brand you without your permission."
"But it wasn’t even original artwork."
"This artist has to be so full of herself, she must be bursting at the seems. NTA." ~ REDDIT
"I recently got a couple new tattoos and one of them has script in my mom’s handwriting."
"My artist was so careful to make sure it was still her handwriting; she had me ask my mom to do it on a hilly slant since it’s with a flower stem."
"I have a lot of trust in her and I’m obsessed with both of my new pieces."
"It’s nice to work with someone that isn’t super pushy and that I could trust to get what I wanted."
"I would be LIVID in OP’s position." ~ livlivesforbrains
"NTA. I'm a tattooed guy and this thing is incredibly gross, she ruined a meaningful piece of art and she branded your own body without giving you a heads up."
"And now she's trying to play victim over it?"
"Are these details discussed in this 'smear campaign' of hers?"
"If I were you (and with the store owner's blessing), I'd intervene and explain to everyone exactly what she did."
"Because that sh*t will get her trashed pretty bad in the tattoo community."
"ETA: You know what, scratch 'with the store owner's blessing,' she's dragging their name in the mud anyway, and you gotta protect her future clients from this bulls*it." ~ exaltedbythesun
"NTA. The artist put something on your body they didn't have permission to."
"You didn't consent to their initials, and it's really weird to mark another person with your name without them knowing."
"I hope word gets around because what this artist did was definitely not okay." ~ TinyRascalSaurus
"So much NTA."
"My mother's last position before she retired was as a same-day surgery scrub nurse at a teaching hospital."
"She told me warning stories about how there's always a percentage of surgical residents who are... well like this one guy she gave as an example..."
"He would carve his initials into the skulls of brain surgery patients any time he got the chance."
"When it comes to your body, anyone doing anything to it not medically warranted or specifically requested by you as part of a service, should not be in a profession where they put hands on people."
"Your tattoo artist should not be a tattoo artist." ~ HelenGonne
"NTA and I would blow that artist up on social media so her customers know what she's doing."
"You should seriously consider suing the artist and/or the shop for removal of that portion of the tattoo, and the cost of getting another artist to fix it."
"That is unbelievably unethical of that tattoo artist." ~ telepathicathena
"NTA. I'd take the artist to small claims court to pay for a removal personally."
'I'd never want anyone's initials on me without my consent."
"And it is absolutely not standard to initial a tattoo in American traditional style." ~ LoupGarou95
"NTA. I have a LOT of 'traditional' tattoos and traditional or not, no reputable artist would do this unless it was agreed in advance and part of the final, approved design." ~ _WearAllTheHats_
"Former tattoo artist here (9 yrs as one) absolutely NTA."
"When I was training my mentor warned me about other artists who did that."
"It used to be quite a common thing... it horrified me when he told me and I still find it terrible now, you NEVER do anything without consent when tattooing!
"Sorry that happened to you, you deserved that full refund." ~ cashpound
"NTA. I have heard of this- of tattoo artists having a signature, I can think of a few locally."
"One guy (he's retired now) was so popular and talented that having his signature on your tattoo was a big part of the appeal."
"However, I've never heard of anyone doing it without permission, that's bonkers."
"Also, someone else had mentioned, it wasn't even their design."
"Not only did they owe you a refund, but the owner should be getting another artist at the shop to cover it for you free of charge." ~ WellEffItForNow
Well OP, Reddit is in your corner.
Your body, your choice.
It sounds like you may want to talk to a lawyer.
Good luck in the resolution.















Woman Breaks Up With 'Clingy' Boyfriend For Making Joke About 'Getting With' Her Sister
As much as we might want to date someone, there's no point in trying to gain the attention and affection of someone who does not want to reciprocate.
Dating someone "similar" to fill that void isn't a good look, either, cringed the members of the "Am I Overreacting?" (AIO) subReddit.
Redditor Flashy-External1666 had been long-distance dating a guy from her friend group for about a month, even though he'd expressed his attraction to her older sister repeatedly before they started dating.
When her sister entered a new relationship, the Original Poster (OP) was hurt and disgusted that her boyfriend insinuated that he could have been trying to "get with" her sister while he was instead busy dating her.
She asked the sub:
The OP was aware that her boyfriend had his eye on someone close to her before dating her.
"I (19 Female) am with M (21 Male), and we've been together for a month. We were friends before this, for a while."
"For some background, when we were in a friend group, he'd always talk about how my sister (23 Female) was super hot and how he wanted her, but she was in a relationship at the time."
When he found out that her sister had been in-between relationships, he had an unsavory reaction.
"Earlier today, I mentioned to him how my sister started seeing this new guy, and I was super proud of her, because she went through a lot with her last relationship."
"His immediate reply was, 'Dang,' one month too late' with a sad emoji, insinuating that he was one month too late to get with her, because we've been together for a month."
You can see the text message exchange here:
The OP was immediately turned off by the idea of dating him.
"After I got upset and he apologized, he immediately sent me a reel that said, 'When she's already upset about me, but I have a second joke in mind.'"
"I feel like he genuinely doesn't care about me."
"He has also gotten weirdly clingy within the month, like red-flag clingy."
"He keeps trying to say how he loves me, wants to marry me, and wants me to go live with him. But he also always brings up my exes and gets super jealous when HE mentions them."
"I don't know what to do. Should I block him??"
"He's mentioned before that I would need to block him on everything if we ever broke up because he'd never leave me alone (we are currently long-distance)."
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
Some were grossed out by the boyfriend's text message and understood why the OP was upset.
"The fact that he wrote all that out and even added a little emoji at the end and still decided to send it, knowing it would be hurtful for you."
"Seems like he’s texted that to see if he could get away with it. Either way, you don’t say something like that to someone you care about…" - Oven_Traditional
"NOR. Ew! That’s so disrespectful coming from someone who should be thrilled to have you."
"I’m team 'dump him.' If he has a brother, maybe ask for his brother’s number as you end it just to see how he likes it." - Entire-Tonight-1463
"NOR. He's not joking about your sister. Based on what he's said about her in the past, it would have been a wise move to NOT date him at all. PERIOD."
'There's a possibility that he's clingy/close to you for the purpose of indirectly keeping an eye on your sister. Release him and let him go, thereby setting yourself free from foolishness." - AtlJazzy2024
"He’s not for you… Break up with him and block him. You deserve a guy who treasures YOU!" - Muted-Lynx-8745
"He might be your boyfriend, but you're not his girlfriend. In his mind, your sister is." - Save-your-spoons
Others urged the OP to block her boyfriend and move on.
"Girl, it's been a month. Let that loser go." - sleepymelfho
"He kept OP as a backup, while circling her sister's orbit. What has happened to transparency and honesty in relationships? All I read now is obnoxious men doing obnoxious things to their partners."
"OP, he's keeping you around to stay close to your sister. You deserve better... NOR." - ColdHandGee
"NOR. You know that he's not joking about wanting your sister. He told on himself before you even got together, talking about how hot she was. Believe him."
"Break up with him and cut him off immediately. I can't believe you ever agreed to date him in the first place. I'd never want to date someone who had the hots for someone else in my immediate circle, whether that was a sibling or a friend." - Lanky_Mud_8148
"You’ve been dating one month, and that’s one month too long."
"He’s not joking about your sister. He fancies her more than you, and you’re the consolation prize. He will pursue her given the chance."
"Time to dump him." - Special_Wind_6708
"NOR. He can't have your sister, so you're just the next best thing. Him being a clingy weirdo that 'will never leave you alone' is the cherry on top."
"You know what to do. Dump him and block him on everything. If anyone from the friend group asks, just tell them what you told us. And you REALLY should warn your sister; you have receipts." - sdoM-bmuD
"Ditch him. Honestly. What are you waiting for?" - forget_me_not_uwu
"NOR at all. Cut this loser out of all channels of your life."
"I wouldn’t block, though. Just ghost so that he can watch you become happier without him as the ultimate revenge because I’m petty like that, and he clearly deserves it."
"ALSO, if he's as creepy and clingy as he sounds, you can have him muted, so he can see your activity, but you won't have to see his... But you'd have all of his messages as receipts if he ever became threatening or stalkerish for police purposes."
"For more context: My mum started dating my dad (when she was 19, too), who initially tried to go for her older sister (two years older) and got rejected."
"After three years of dating, seven years of engagement, and 20 years of marriage where she put up with an incompetent man-child that wouldn’t do anything for himself and expected her to completely cater to him while he berated her and treated her like s**t..."
"...it ended in him cheating on her with a waitress for over a year and denying it until my mum had literal photographic evidence, to which he had the audacity to respond with the reasoning that she was the reason he was 'driven to cheat' (as if that was even remotely close to the truth and the only option to solve his ‘problems’)."
"Save yourself, girl. This man-child can learn to pine over you and your sister from afar as you both skip into the sunset together, moving on with your lives and into better relationships that fulfill you the way you deserve!" - peachycritter
Some cautioned the OP to also cover her tracks after the breakup, as he sounded worse than "clingy" to them.
"The actual scary part isn't even the sister joke; it's, 'he said he'd never leave me alone if we broke up,' only one month in."
"That line gave me chills, and that alone would have me Googling how to block someone on every platform that exists." - babydoodle91
"Ew. These super clingy guys right out the gate are scary. Please watch your step, and erase your tracks." - Immabirb
"He sounds like a stalker... Drop him now, fast. And block him everywhere." - Admirable_Program720
"NOR, yes, you block him, and you keep him out of your life, and you tell mutual friends that if they try to facilitate contact between you two, you will block them as well. He isn't joking." - JustAsICanBeSoCruel
"I watch way too much crime for this!"
"Girl, block him. Also tell your sister to block him, too; he’s obsessed with her." - MrsRoronoaZoro
"NOR. You're underreacting, honestly."
"He wants your sister, but you're close enough. He's obsessed with her and won't give it up even though he has someone he 'wants to marry.'"
"Also, he's not lying. He probably will stalk you online afterwards; please be careful." - Phoenix-Phire-38
"NOR at all. Your post kept adding on more red flags with each additional sentence. I know you’re young, but he’s toxic, and yes, you will need to block him."
"Breaking up with someone you have strong feelings for is really difficult, so when you leave, you should make sure to lean on friends and family and keep yourself distracted with things you like and find engaging." - query_tech_sec
"The s**t with your sister is nothing compared to the love-bombing and jealousy. This guy is trouble, and scary, and you will have done the right thing when you leave him and maintain the distance between the two of you. NOR." - potatomeeple
After receiving feedback, the OP posted an update, but it seemed to be only the beginning.
"Thank you for making me feel less crazy."
"I blocked him on everything and deactivated my Instagram."
"He DM'ed a girl that I had posted ONCE on my Instagram Stories, asking about me."
"I'm not sure if he's going to keep trying to talk to me, but I hope not."
The subReddit's internal alarm bells were ringing while reading the OP's post, and they hoped that she'd leave her boyfriend in every sense of the word. They already lived long-distance, but she needed to cut him off in every other sense.
Not only was it obvious that he wanted someone else and was with the OP to "make up for it," but his "promises" of not leaving her alone if she ever broke up with him were love-bombing and stalker-like, at best.