Everyone has different relationships with social media.
Some use it as an occasional distraction to see what their favorite celebrities are up to, or reconnect with friends from years past.
Others use it far more seriously, documenting practically every waking moment of their life.
Which can sometimes include roping other people into your social network, whether they wanted to be there or not.
Redditor aitatiktoksister was less than thrilled to discover that their older sister posted a story about them on her TikTok account.
A story which hundreds of thousands of people heard, resulting in the original poster (OP) getting a lot of unwanted attention from their friends and loved ones.
After being called out by their sister for asking her to take the video down, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for asking my sister to delete her trending TikTok videos?”
The OP explained how they were hurt and upset when their sister used her social media to share an embarrassing story about themself.
“I really don’t know where I fit on this, because I can tend to be a little emotional at times or easily embarrassed over little things.”
“I have an older sister (23) who is obsessed with TikTok.”
“She has a decent following, around 5k.”
“One of her TikTok videos started trending recently and hit around 300k views.”
“What this means for this argument is that many people that I know personally have seen this video.”
“The video isn’t horrible but it’s about me.”
“It doesn’t include my name, face, or identifying details, I’m just labeled ‘sister’, but it includes personal information about something embarrassing I’ve done in the past growing up, basically just telling a funny story.”
“But I don’t think the video is very funny, cause it paints me in a bad light for something I did when I was 6, no mention of age in the video, just ‘remembering when my sister did *thing*’ on top of a popular audio.”
“A bunch of people I know have sent me the video and asked me if it was true, if it was about me, etc.”
“They went through her account and found more stories about the ‘sister’, and sent them to me.”
“More embarrassing stories about myself being shared without my knowledge or consent.”
“This isn’t the first time she’s posted about me but this is her first video to go trending.”
“I don’t use TikTok ever so I don’t know how many she’s posted, and I never knew she was posting anything about me.”
“If I knew earlier I would’ve gotten mad before too and asked her to delete them.”
“So I went up to her and said it was embarrassing for her to post stories about me without telling me, and that I want her to delete the videos about me since I don’t want more people to find those videos and hear those stories about me.”
“She also has her Instagram linked to her TikTok and I’m in a lot of photos with her, so it’s easy to find me on Instagram if anyone wanted to .”
“I don’t know if anyone actually would.”
“She responded that since my name and personal details aren’t in the stories, it’s not tied to me and not embarrassing at all.”
“And when I told her people found the videos she just said ‘you could’ve said it was fake, nobody would know’.”
“I have autism so I find it hard to lie, and it didn’t occur to me that I could’ve lied about it being real.”
“She said that she has every right to share those stories and make jokes out of them and it won’t matter because people won’t remember it anyway.”
“She then called me an AH for suggesting she delete all the videos about me, including her trending one since her TikTok was blowing up with new followers.”
“I called her an AH for using my embarrassing stories to get clout.”
“She then told me to go away and I left it at that.”
“She does have a point that most people will forget and that my identity is protected, so I don’t know if I really am an AH for asking her to delete these, because she has been trying to grow her TikTok for so long and now she finally is.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community unanimously agreed that the OP had every right to ask their sister to take down the video, and was not at all the a**hole for doing so.
Everyone agreed that the OP’s sister was being incredibly insensitive, particularly considering the OP’s medical condition, and should have noticed how much the OP was hurt by the video.
“‘Look at this, TikToker making fun of her autistic sister for followers’.”
“‘Isn’t she the best!'”
“This is what you need to comment on her account.”- Typical_Golf3922
“Asking permission to tell a joke that could be painful to another person should be common sense.”
“Happy that she has her 300k views, but that doesn’t put food on the table now, does it?”-bidens_left_ear
“But social media popularity seems to make an AH out of people.”
“Seriously. If you need to tell an embarrassing story about your sibling to become more popular, than are YOU actually popular?”- bunnyhopskip
“She’s the identifying information that keeps you from being anonymous in these videos.”
“She’s essentially making you the butt of her online jokes.”
“It’s out of line.”- pineboxwaiting
“She is getting popular partially by bullying and harassing you, that is gross.”
“I’d probably be positing a ‘sister here, she is making this up for views’ under all of the videos where she mentions me, since she said it’s ok to say it’s fake, and asking her to remove me entirely from her insta.”
“I’d be also enriching the comments with embarrassing stories about her, without mentioning her name ofc, just go to her vids and ‘her sis here, she pooped her pants once’ or something like that.”-tatasz
“She is a complete a**hole. submit a case to TikTok to remove any videos which show your face.”
“Go to TikTok and submit a ‘Copyright Infringement Report’.”- FlyingFlipPhone
“She’s discussing what a 6 YO autistic child did without letting her audience know you were a tiny disabled kid at the time of the events she’s discussing.”
“I suspect because she knows it’s hard to enjoy someone actively making fun of a disabled child.”
“Poetic justice would making TikTok story times about how distressing it is being disabled, having ‘sister’ make fun of things you did as a 6 YO and how she’s justifying embarrassing you, an autistic, to your friends while encouraging you to lie.”
“With the same level of anonymity so that it can trickle through her friendship group.”
“I’m sure she feels that living with a disabled younger sibling is hard but she should have the cognitive capacity to realize that having a disability is worse and venting in ways that make your life harder is not appropriate behavior.”- HannahAnthonia
“They aren’t her stories to share. it seems that she’s she’s using you for clout.”
“You have every right to ask for them to be deleted.”- PINKR0SEBUDS
“Get your parents involved.”
“She has no right to use your stories to promote her sh*tty TikTok.”
“She should respect the fact that it makes you uncomfortable and leave you out of her videos.”
“But she’s probably too boring to get views on her own.”- wordsmythy
“She’s not respecting your privacy, she misrepresenting the situation and your identity is obviously not protected.”
“I’d do a reaction video with me rolling my eyes going, “Yeah, when I was 6, I got over it, I hope you will someday too”, or something along those lines that fits.”
“And maybe stop posting about other people without their permission.”
“I wonder how the sister’s followers would feel if they knew the ‘funny’ story was about an autistic 6 year old?”- tnscatterbrain
The OP later offered an update as to how they were planning to handle the video, as well as their connection to their sister on social media.
“A lot of people are suggesting I make a TikTok and comment that the posts are fake and making fun of me, or to report the videos.”
“I did report them about a day or two ago and they still remain up, so maybe there will be some luck there.”
“I’m a bit uncomfortable commenting about them being fake or drawing attention to myself, confrontation is not really my thing, but I might ask my friend to comment them for me.”
“As for Instagram, I’ve removed my tag from all of her photos and my last name was not on my profile so someone would really have to search to find me off Insta through her TikTok.”
Social media is a very easy way to gain attention for those who crave it.
Something the OP very clearly does not.
Here’s hoping that their sister will eventually realize that the OP deserves their right to privacy, and will stop including them in any future videos.