Redditor bananapeelisdoomed was living happily with her best friend of more than 10 years, but suddenly a new boyfriend turned the entire relationship sour.
The Original Poster (OP) learned that her bestie’s new boyfriend was stealing from her.
The OP’s best friend ended up protesting her recourse, driving the OP to subReddit “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) for advice.
She asked,
“AITA for kicking my best friend out of my house because her boyfriend broke in and stole my figurines?”
She went on to explain.
“Me [Female age 21] and my best friend, Alice [Female age 21], have been close for more than 10 years, we went to the same schools and study abroad (Canada) together.”
“I came to Canada many years before Alice and have been living in a house my parents paid for.”
“That’s why when Alice arrived four months ago, I invited her to stay with me. She paid rent but we never had a contract.”
“It started when she got a new boyfriend. She is head over heels for him (Kevin).”
“She constantly invited him to my house without permission. He came and stayed for at least 6 days a week, sometimes overnight.”
“I did have problems with Kevin staying in my house, but when I brought it up with Alice, she brushed it off and said he helped her adapt to this new life.”
“He is Alice’s only emotional support besides me. However, I discovered Kevin lurking around my house, especially near my bedroom and figurine room many times when he was around.”
“It happened a month ago when I got home from school. I didn’t notice anything since all the doors were locked (even the door to my figurine room).”
“Until I discovered some of my figurines disappeared. Neither Alice nor Kevin was at home, so I assumed I got stolen since Alice never comes into my figurine room.”
“I called Alice, she didn’t pick up but replied and said Kevin brought her to Ottawa for a surprise trip.”
“I tried to explain that my figurines were gone, she asked if the house was broken into and told me to go check around.”
“Alice didn’t come back until two days after that, but she kept sending me pictures of her going out with Kevin in fancy places.”
“For those two days, I changed locks, set up hidden security cameras, alerted my parents and was panicking and in an extremely distressed mood.”
“Nothing happened for two weeks, but Kevin decided to steal again.”
“I saw him, with two other guys I didn’t know lockpicking my figurine room door and coming out with my figurines through two cameras.”
“I flipped out and called the police, basically got him arrested since stupid Kevin decided to go hang around.”
“I believe he called Alice since she was home right after I did, crying and begging me to let Kevin go so we could talk.”
“I literally showed Alice the evidence, but she still begged and said IT WAS ALL A MISUNDERSTANDING.”
“It has been one week since Kevin was arrested, Alice kept going after me and demanded I let him go, and at one point I just lost it.”
“We were fighting right in the middle of the night and I kicked her out of my house.”
“Since then I have been receiving a lot of phone calls from her family, from Kevin’s family and friends threatening me to have Alice back and drop the lawsuit I pressed on Kevin.”
“They are calling me AH for abandoning Alice for some figurines. They say that I am not allowed to kick her out since she paid rent or they will sue.”
“Right now when I am thinking back, Alice has no one besides me and Kevin, and she is literally sleeping on my patio every night without eating and showering.”
“So, AITA?”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
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- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided:
“NTA, there is no misunderstanding for picking a lock and theft.” – aeroeagleAC
“You’re so far from TA you’re in a different galaxy.”
“Check your local tenancy laws. It’s possible that the eviction rules don’t apply because you are her “landlord” and she lives with you.”
“If they don’t tell her she needs to reach out to whomever for funds & needs to leave your property with her things immediately.”
“As for the harassment, report as necessary to the proper folks.”
“And I think it goes without saying that Alice knew how her little getaway was funded. That she has no one else local is not your problem nor your concern.”
“She wanted you to let her thief of a BF off the hook and absolutely would have expected you to still allow him in your home. She made her bed, she can lie in it for eternity.”
“NTA” – Fun-Replacement1998
“NTA. Tell the people calling you to reimburse you for the figurines and you will drop the charges. Shut them right up” – DontAskMeChit
“NTA. Oh boy, this is rough. Kevin is a confirmed thief and they are threatening you even with the proof?”
“Be careful. It is shown that it might not be the end.” – HijikataX
“NTA he’s a thief. It’s simple and it doesn’t matter if he stole figurines or prescriptions or cold hard cash.”
“If she’s letting him in and then he steals while he’s there she’s been inadvertently helping him and you need to protect your property.”
“Theft and lax security was not a part of your rental agreement. Take her off the rent and I’d at least say they owe you what the figures were worth to drop the lawsuit.” – Monochromatic_Sun
“NTA, figurines can cost like $1000 bucks man, that’s straight theft right there.” – BlueFlamedArson
“You not are “abandoning “Alice for some figurines, Alice decided that a lying thief was more important to her than where she lays her head at night.”
“We all have to live with the consequences of our actions..”
“Kevin has to live with his and Alice has to live with hers (choosing a loser over her living situation) I would take all the threats to the police and press charges on them also, just block everyone; it will give you peace of mind.” – RecentCharge655
“Not the AH. You alerted her to his likely stealing, and she didn’t stop him… when he did it again she asked you to drop all charges.”
“The first time you half forgive (half, but not fully), the second time it’s a big conga line singing NOPE NOPE NOPE.”
“He brought other guys in, and they are handy with lock picks. Kevin isn’t just a freeloading Hoover, he’s a criminal… and he is stealing your stuff to fete his girlfriend.”
“I’d love to hear what the ‘misunderstanding’ is on this…”
“Give her 30 days notice or whatever your legal requirements are – talk to a lawyer and do it ticketty boo legal.”
“Leave your cameras up. Add some more … so she can’t find them … You can add to that notice expectations about what she will pay and what conditions she is to leave the property in.”
“Alternatively, offer her a ‘cash for keys’ deal where you give her a small payout, and she gives you the keys and walks. Lawyer up for this will be the best $300 you’ll ever spend.”
“And take out a restraining order against Kevin so he isn’t allowed in the house.”
“Or get it a condition of his bail that he’s not allowed/whatever it takes to make it that he’s not legally allowed at your property again.”
“Because if he is, he’s going to damage something or take a lot more.”
“And sue the pants off him, for both lots of missing stuff.” “
He’s going to have a hard time proving he didn’t do the first round when you have him lockpicking the second time… same modus operandi and all that shizznit.” – Particular-Try5584
“NTA do not let her back in. She knew he was stealing and supported it. Do not let her sleep on your patio.”
“She is not on the lease, so get rid of her. She is not by our friend. Do not drop the charges” – Tmpowers0818
“NTA, he’s a thief, and she was defending him. I would not want her in my house either. hell she might steal for him if he asked you cant know NTA” – FlashySong6098
“It even may have been her idea & that’s why she’s so ‘upset’ about Kevin being in jail”
“NTA OP. Stand your ground.” – Pixiedust027
“NTA”
“Press charges and get a monetary judgment as well. If Alice’s family and Kevin’s family are concerned that she has no place to live, they can take her in.”
“You aren’t required to let her move back in when her BF was stealing from you, and you had to kick her out.”
“If she keeps sleeping on your patio, have her arrested for vagrancy? Do NOT let her back into your place.” – trappergraves
“NTA”
“You’re not kicking her out for figurines. You’re kicking her out for bringing a criminal to your home, defending said criminal when he committed a crime against you, and for violating your home, safety, security, and trust.”
“Don’t ever let anyone convince you it was no big deal.” – Bo_O58
Best of luck to the OP as she navigates this complicated situation.