It’s a magical four-letter anagram with one simple meaning: Mind. Your. Own. Business.
Unfortunately, some people will forever have trouble minding their own business. We call those people busybodies—they’re always ready to spread hot gossip at a moment’s notice about everybody else’s lives.
Redditor HoloSl*ttyBitch knows one such person—her coworker. And one day, when coworker was being as busybody-ish as a busybody can be, she lost her temper.
After some blowback and unfavorable reactions, she went to the popular subReddit “Am I The A**hole?” or “AITA” for feedback on her behavior.
“AITA for telling a coworker to f* off and mind her own business already?”
Our original poster, or OP, was immediately tired of her coworker’s questions as soon as she walked in the door.
“Yesterday, a coworker approached me and asked me if I was alright. I said yes, just being a bit tired.”
“She kept insisting that I looked ill and I should stay at home if I’m ill because I would otherwise put everyone’s job in jeopardy. I told her again that I’m fine. I knew why she was asking though.”
“Thing is, I have extremely heavy and painful periods and many other symptoms that people with endometriosis have, but apparently I don’t have endo.”
“But still, I feel like sh*t when on my period and I am tired and bloated and miserable.”
But coworker kept going and got more and more rude.
“I just wanted to be left alone tbh so she was getting on my nerves big time. Then she asked if I had seen a doctor about my tiredness.”
“I stood up bc I thought I could escape her by going to the loo and she pointed at my belly, which was extremely bloated and swollen, and loudly claimed ‘oh, you’re pregnant, why didn’t you tell us?'”
“To which I replied ‘oh my god, I’m not pregnant. Would you f* off and mind your own business already?'”
But now coworker is telling on OP behind OP’s back.
“She now tells everyone how rude I was and that she only wanted to help and I can’t stop thinking that maybe I was TA for overreacting and she probably really only wanted to help. So, AITA?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors thought OP was totally in the right for standing up for herself.
“She harassed you about a medical condition and then loudly claimed you were pregnant without receiving confirmation or consent to talk to others about it?”
“NTA. She’s just as nosy as she sounds if she’s talking about it to others.”
“You could’ve been more diplomatic but she was WAY outta line.”~TesseractAnn
“UEven when you’re in the right it sometimes is worth keeping one’s cool (if possible; I’ve had endometriosis and suspected PCOS, and I’m not sure I’d have managed.)”
“As it means you maintain all moral high ground to onlookers, and I am painfully aware that what other people see often winds up being more crucial than what actually happened.”
“But… I have learned that sometimes you can’t soften the blow without completely losing the impact.”
“And people who are determined to push boundaries and stomp all over you will often read any gentleness or consideration on your part as permission to continue with the stomping.”
“You end up having to be really g*ddamn blunt.”
“Of course it would be better in a professional context not to lose your cool and get frustrated and curse at someone – and again, that’s an understandable response, and I don’t think it’s morally an issue after that many warnings.”
“It’s just that it looks bad, and having to repair the narrative after that is a lot more work. But you know what OP didn’t leave here?”
“Wiggle room. Nope, there can be no doubt in anyone’s mind that this behavior was not okay with OP.”
“There is no plausible deniability for future pushiness or harassment around medical issues. None. Now, any further violations of that particular boundary will be very clear cut.”
“TL;DR: when you soften the blow, really determined people will decide that the line you are trying to draw is… a little blurry!”
“When you don’t, you sometimes look reactionary (whether that’s fair or not), but everyone sure as hell knows where you stand now. NTA”~cakeforPM
“NTA. People need to accept women’s answers when they say they’re not feeling well and not ask questions.”
“Although I would have told her I’m on my period and hemorrhaging uterine lining and that’s why I’m bloated.”
“I travel for work as a lawyer, going to remote communities. Also have terrible periods and not endo. I have to be on a plane before any stores that sell pain killers open.”
“One morning I discovered I was out of pain killers for day 1 of my period when I had to fly to a reserve. It did not end well.”
“I was done my matters, and so as I usually do, I went off somewhere else with my yoga mat while I wait for the rest of court to finish.”
“I’m not visible to people attending court, but the rest of the court party and the police know I usually do some yoga while waiting.”
“But I was curled up trying to get through the cramps. So when they’re getting just too unbearable, I ask the judge on a recess if he minds me imposing on an officer to take me to the local nursing station (no taxis on the res).”
“I’ve got tears in my eyes and can barely walk. Judge of course obliges, so I go to the 5 officers sitting against the wall and ask them if one of them could take me to the hospital.”
“The smart a** in the group says ‘weren’t you just doing yoga? Did you put your back out or something?’”
“To which I replied ‘no, my cramps are so unbearable that I think ripping out my uterus with a coat hanger would hurt less.'”
“That officer shut right up, and another one said ‘I’ll take you in my truck, let’s go’ and sat quietly as I yelped over every bump in the road, and asked if I needed him to wait with me once at emerge.”