Everyone dances at a wedding.
Well, everyone is suppose to dance at a wedding.
That is the plan.
But sometimes dancing can lead to some serious drama.
Case in point…
Redditor sl*tbride to discuss her story for some feedback. So naturally she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for calling the bride a slut at the wedding reception?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I (22 F[emale]) went to a wedding recently, for my friend’s (22 F) cousin.”
“My friend brought me along for emotional support since she was being forced to go.”
“My friend didn’t like her cousin at all, because simply put, the cousin is horrible to my friend.”
“She would make fun of my friend’s appearance, which included anything from weight, hair, skin, etc, despite my friend being drop dead gorgeous.”
“This has led to her having major self esteem issues.”
“On top of that, there is a 10 year age gap between my friend and her cousin (32 F), meaning it was literally, at one point an adult bullying a child.”
“Friend’s cousin is also just an awful person in general, the quintessential racist ‘but I have black friends’ mean girl who gossips, and fights with everyone.”
“However, my friend’s parents believe that family is forever no matter what.”
“So she was dragged to the wedding, meaning I got dragged along as well.”
“The ceremony happened and we move to the reception.”
“Everything was going surprisingly smoothly, until I started dancing with one of the groomsmen on the dancefloor.”
“Bride didn’t like this apparently.”
“I know because she came up to me and asked me what the hell I thought I was doing.”
“I was confused and asked her what she meant.”
“She asked me why the hell I was ‘all over HIM,’ him meaning the groomsman.”
“I didn’t know why she was upset about it, after all, she had a new husband that she should be celebrating with.”
“My friend intervened after she noticed the bride talking to me angrily.”
“Bride/her cousin turned to my friend and asked her why she ‘brought this sl*t to her wedding?'”
“I wasn’t too surprised given the stories I’ve heard about her, but nevertheless, that still stung.”
“My friend told her back off and not say that to me.”
“Bride said that I was indeed a slut for dancing with the groomsman.”
“My friend explained to me that the groomsman that I was dancing with was her ex boyfriend.”
“I turned to bride and told her that she just got married to another man so it wasn’t like she wanted her ex back.”
“She then told me that the chances are still high, and that I have no right to put my hands on him.”
“I laughed and said ‘Ohhh, so you’re the one who’s actually a sl*t!'”
“Bride lost it, screaming at me, cussing at me, crying, while her husband was trying to escort her away.”
“And all the while I was laughing my a** off. I had a few drinks then.”
“My friend had escorted me away back to our table.”
“Now that the alcohol has worn off, I feel like I may be the a**hole for saying that to the bride at the reception, as much as I hate her.”
“According to my friend, she has been getting calls and texts from angry family members asking the both of us how we could ruin the bride’s big day.”
“So, AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It’s a tricky situation.
Let’s hear some thoughts…
“I’m sorry, did the BRIDE, at HER OWN WEDDING say that the chances were HIGH that she’d GET BACK TOGETHER WITH THE GROOMSMAN EX-BOYFRIEND?”
“Sounds like you just called a spade a spade.”
“While not exactly the most ‘mature’ or ‘polite’… NTA.” ~ KingRhiot
“The friend should send a group text to all the family members giving her hell and tell them…”
“OP danced with [Cousin]’s ex-boyfriend at the wedding.”
“He was one of the groomsmen.”
“This simple act caused [Cousin] to become enraged and call OP a sl*t. “
“When I explained to OP that the groomsman was [Cousin]’s ex, OP told [Cousin] she shouldn’t worry about it since she just got married.”
“[Cousin] told us that there was a ‘high chance’ of her and ex getting back together.”
“And in response OP said ‘oh so you’re the slut.'”
“I hope none of you spent a lot of money on the wedding gift for [Cousin] and her husband.” ~ topania
“NTA. The bride should have had literally 0 concern for her ex at her wedding and then to imply that she might get back with him??”
“Ya you were justified in clapping back.”
“She ruined her own night, not you.” ~ Blonde-Engineer-3
“NTA- I think you found the only circumstance on earth where I would say calling the bride a sl*t doesn’t make you TA.”
“Well done.”
“Tell your buddy to put her phone in a drawer until this blows over.” ~ ChakraMama318
“This is hilarious.”
“She’s at her own wedding reception saying you can’t dance with her ex because the CHANCES ARE HIGH she might get back with him.”
“I feel sorry for your friend getting shitty messages from family but that’s more about the family than what you did. NTA.” ~ somerandomwoman97
“NTA. BUT GOOD GOD DUDE WTF.”
“You don’t know that me and my lawful wedded husband would one day be a disaster and I would dump his loser a**,”
“Ao I could go screw my ex-bf who I had invited to my wedding!”
“Don’t be a sl*t cause I’m the only who could do that! So get off of him!””
“Wow. How is she a human?”
“And what kind of a devil would marry an innocent man?”
“I know this is mean or whateves, but I really don’t care at all…”
“Never in my life I wanted to see someone’s downfall so bad.”
“Like this creature is really asking for karma to hit her so bad.” ~ Few_Recipe_910
“NTA. Oh what a shame that the poor groomsbride is a wh-“
“Oh sorry, got lost there for a sec.”
“Yeah nah that context is pretty funny, you’re genuinely not the AH in this situation.” ~ Curious-Insanity413
“NTA. I want to know what the groom said to the bride after she declared she was probably going back to the ex right after she married him?”
“Do we think the groom is going to stick around.”
“Better yet, what is the groom’s mother saying?”
“He should have gotten an annulment instead of going on the honeymoon!” ~ MaryAnne0601
“The bride sounds like an absolute piece of work.”
“She wants her ex back at her own wedding?!”
“Not to mention how she’s been treating your friend her whole life.”
“But I think this made a bad situation worse for your friend.”
“Now the bride has real ammunition against her (you), not just the petty jealous insecurities of before.”
“I think for your friend’s sake you should have de-escalated the situation.”
“It was clear her family already didn’t have her back and now she’s actually the villain.”
“It looks like she, via you, ruined a wedding.”
“I understand you wanted to support and protect your friend and the bride had it coming.”
“But this whole thing is messy AF.” ~ flickansomkomundan
“NTA. She just got married.”
“Is it possible for them to get divorced during the wedding?”
“Because poor husband.”
“I wonder if he heard the chances were still high the bride could return to her ex.” ~ EvaMohn1377
“NTA. Your poor friend should cut ties with those people, they’re Hella toxic.”
So the bride keeps the ex as a potential replacement in case she’s dissatisfied with the groom?”
“Oh my, that’s so messy.”
“And I’m not gonna lie, it makes me laugh too, such drama for nothing.”
“Keep the friend, help her get rid of her toxic family if you can, and forget about them.”
“Poor groom.” ~ Milphene
“Why is one of bride’s exes a groomsman at the wedding?!”
“This needs an explanation because I can’t think of many men who would allow their bride’s ex to be a groomsman.”
“Who is this simpling man she married? Really?”
“I’m feeling sorry for the groom here.”
“NTA. Great story to tell the grands.” ~ Sudden-Willow
“NTA, I mean without ALL of the context, you’d definitely be an AH.”
“But, there’s really nothing that would be out of line with that bride.”
“If I was her husband I would be leaving her at the reception rather than pulling her away.” ~ chefwalleye
“NTA. But you did give me a giggle.”
“Seriously though. Do the people giving you grief know why the brides ruined HER own night?”
“She seriously went after you for dancing with her ex on her wedding day?”
“Because she might get with him in the future?”
“I don’t have much hope of that marriage lasting long, and feel sorry for the hubs.” ~ Wrong_Arugula_7307
Well OP, Reddit stands firmly behind you.
I mean this story is too crazy.
Who says that at their own wedding?
Good luck EVERYONE involved.
Keep dancing OP…