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Redditor Refuses To Give Sister Left Over Oxycodone From Surgery For Her Boyfriend’s ‘Chronic Pain’

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Oxycodone is nothing to play with.

So many people struggle with an addiction to it.

That’s why people who have it prescribed for legitimate reasons tend not to talk about having it.

Redditor These-Main-6824 wanted to discuss their experience and get some feedback, so naturally, they came to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subreddit.

They asked:

“AITA? Sister trying to make me give her my meds?”

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

“So I had surgery on my hand because of messed-up tendons or whatever.”

“During my recovery, I was given, along with some other medication, a bottle with 3 pills of oxycodone, with the instructions that if the painkillers don’t work, take half a tablet, with one dose being the maximum for a whole day.”

“After my recovery, I was talking with my mom about the surgery, and my sister walked in and asked for the oxycodone because I didn’t need it anymore.”

“I said no, and then she demanded it.”

“I said no, again, she said her B[oy]F[riend] had chronic pain and needed it.”

“I said that if he had such bad pain, he needed oxycodone, he should go to the hospital.”

“She stormed out of the room and slammed her bedroom door, and I heard her talking with her boyfriend.”

“I bought a safe and put the oxycodone in it to keep it away from her, and then my sister started accusing me of not trusting her.”

“I’m thinking of flushing the pills down the toilet.”

“My mom and my other sister are on my side, the first sister and her BF think I’m an a**hole, so I don’t know.”

The OP was left to wonder:

“So… AITA?”

Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed in on some options to the question:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Redditors declared that OP was NOT the A**hole.

“You can take the pills back to the pharmacy for safe disposal.”

“Don’t flush them. NTA.” ~ EffableFornent

“So I’ve worked in the pharmacy myself, and we did.”

“You have to be licensed for it, so they should call ahead, but there are plenty of pharmacies that absolutely can handle properly and safely disposing of drugs, so they aren’t leaked into the local water supply.”

“Or so that way somebody gets a hold of them that isn’t meant to have them.”

“Hell, I had to handle this when my grandmother died; she had dementia and lung cancer, which means she had a lot of very highly controlled medications that can’t just be thrown in the trash.” ~ MithosYggdrasill1992

“NTA, but pills in the sewer mess up the environment badly.”

“Hand them back in at the pharmacy.”

“I was given oxy as well after a surgery, but wouldn’t touch the stuff.”

“Too much risk of addiction, I’d rather be in pain for a while.” ~ likeahike

“The widespread addiction problems with oxy were primarily because they were being marketed as a non-addictive option for managing chronic pain, but they did have addictive properties, obviously, and diminishing returns.”

“A couple of days after a procedure is not likely to be an issue unless you already have addiction issues.”

“That said, I hate the feel of Percocet and wouldn’t take it either if I could avoid it.” ~ piedpipershoodie

“This! The pharmacy should take it back without any hassle.”

“I was prescribed oxy and two other types of painkillers after gallbladder surgery, and the oxy sent me into outer space.”

“I didn’t/don’t have any interest in getting addicted, but I could understand how people would want to take oxy.”

“Then I got the bright idea of taking oxy just before I went to sleep and had wild dreams about bugs crawling underneath my skin. “

“After that, I was done.”

“Once I felt well enough to run errands, I took the oxy back to the pharmacy, and all I had to do was hand it to someone behind the counter.” ~ winter_laurel

“NTA: It is illegal for you to give medication prescribed to you to anyone else.”

“Does it happen?”

“Sure, but the fact that she is getting this upset about 3 tabs of oxy indicates his pain isn’t so much chronic as it is imaginary for the purpose of a buzz.” ~ Squibit314

“NTA. Your sister sure is, though.”

“You’re doing what you’re supposed to do.”

“Don’t let anyone coerce you into providing prescribed medications to them.”

“Please don’t flush the meds as that’s dangerous to the water system.”

“Any local pharmacy should have an anonymous medication drop-off bin, and they will dispose of them properly.” ~ KatzAKat

“NTA, definitely dispose of the medication through a pharmacy or maybe a hospital/clinic that has a medication disposal drop-off box.”

“Personally, always been scared of opioid medication.”

“There’s always that lingering worry you might get hooked on it even if you take it at the prescribed dosage.” ~ WillowAggravating317

“NTA. I 100% agree, if the sister’s BF has chronic pain, he needs to see his doc and get his own medicine for that.”

“Do you have a take-back program where you live?”

“I would call the pharmacy and check if you can turn it in there.”

“If not, flush it.” ~ Money_Landscape5602

“NTA. I, too, received a bottle of oxy after major surgery.”

“When I mentioned it, family and friends urged me not to take it, fearing I’d become addicted.”

“But nothing except Oxy touched my pain.”

“As I told my doctors, I had no idea why anyone would become addicted because it did not give any kind of ‘high’ like other drugs, just deep, pain-free sleep.”

“I didn’t even finish the bottle, just switched to Tylenol when the pain started to subside.” ~ PsychologyOk8722

“NTA. Your sister’s mad that you don’t trust her?”

“Demanding a family member give you opiates doesn’t scream trustworthy.”

“But rather than keeping them in a safe, you should take the unwanted pills to a pharmacy or the police station: many participate in a drug take-back program to dispose of unused medications.”

“Get them out of your place entirely, and make sure she knows they are gone.”

“And I would be very wary of your sister and her BF… he might’ve wanted the pills for himself, or he may have intended to sell them.”

“Either way, I would not trust them with access to anything of value.” ~ Tart-Pomgranate5743

“NTA! Those pills, even if you don’t use them now, may come in handy for you later.”

“And because of their classification and tendency to be addictive, they are harder and harder to come by, so keep them around.”

“And even though they will lose their potency over time, they are probably good for at least four years.”

“If you happen to be in a pain situation in the future where you might need them. sounds like your sister – demanding anything from you – is the a**hole.” ~ 50sin2025

“NTA. It sounds like your sister’s boyfriend is an addict and wanted to get high; your sister and mom seem to be enabling this.”

“Take the tablets to a pharmacy to be disposed of.” ~ pyrotequila85

“NTA. If you don’t need regular pain relief, take them back to the pharmacy for safe disposal.”

“I have to take opiates for life due to medical negligence injuries and hate it.”

“Why people love them, abuse them, ask for them, steal them, I don’t get it.”

“They rot your teeth, affect your bowels, make you tired and sweat, etc.”

“People in genuine pain don’t ask questions like this.”

“I would have a safe for all your meds, just in case. “

“After that, it sounds like they are demanding and unsafe people.”

“Never share meds.” ~ AccurateHomework479

“Did you know that giving your prescription drugs to someone else is the same as dealing drugs?”

“Do you want to be a drug dealer?”

“No, you don’t.”

“That’s why you’re not giving your prescription medication to your sister.”

“You’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing with your medications.”

“Either taking them as prescribed or keeping them safe so that they don’t get misused or abused by others.”

“You did a smart thing by that little safe because I don’t think your sister or her boyfriend can be trusted because they are drug addicts. NTA.” ~ cecebebe

“NTA. 100% never share or give medication prescribed for you to someone else.”

“I hadn’t heard of the pill before, but seeing others advise it is an opioid, I’d be very suspicious of the sister’s boyfriend’s ‘extreme pain’, especially as they’re making such a fuss about it.”

“If he’s that bad, he can get himself off to the doctor.”

“Glad to hear, for once, that your mum is on your side.”

“If you no longer need them, definitely get a pharmacy to dispose of them safely for you.”

“That way the pills are gone, and your sister can stop going on (or not by the sounds of her 🙄).” ~ Floofieunderpants

“NTA. Most pharmacies have a pill disposal program that allows you to dispose of expired or unused medications safely.”

“If your local pharmacy doesn’t have that, search for mail-in pill disposal in your state.”

“Make sure the website is a .gov site, but many states now have mail-in disposal options.”

“NEVER give your prescription medications, especially controlled ones like pain meds, to someone else.”

“Your sister and her boyfriend think you’re an asshole because you won’t enable his addiction, and addicts are always mad at anything that stands between them and getting high.”

“I’d recommend getting a lock for your bedroom door in general so that your things are safe because I wouldn’t trust them not try to steal from you or trash your stuff in retaliation.” ~ SheepPup

“NTA. Please don’t flush them; most urban water gets reclaimed, treated to clean out poop and soaps, and reused.”

“Water treatment plants can’t clean the water of drugs.”

“Call your local police station, a lot of them have a drop off.” ~ RaccoonRenaissance

Reddit has your back, OP.

One can’t just demand another person’s oxy.

Flush it if you have to.

Just don’t give it to them.