TikTok videos and content have gained incredible momentum. It seems like everyone is on TikTok now.
Everyone wants to find a way to be insta-famous.
How can one video top the next?
And at what cost? Are we thinking the idea for these videos through thoroughly?
Case in point...
Redditor nippon_battery wanted to discuss his story for some feedback. So naturally he came to visit the "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) subReddit.
He asked:
"AITA? I told my wife that I'm disappointed in her immature behaviour."
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
"My wife is 32 weeks pregnant. She's had a rough pregnancy and I've been trying to accommodate her to the best of my abilities."
"My office has a no phone policy but I explained my wife's poor condition to my team leader and convinced him to let me pick up just my wife's calls."
"Today, my wife called me while I was at work and said that she's gone into labor and she needs me to come home and take her to the hospital."
"I rushed home only to find her laughing at me and saying that it's a TikTok prank."
"She apparently wanted to check if I actually prioritized her above everything else."
"I was livid because it was a very important meeting that I missed at work."
"I'd literally been working months on that project, and now someone else would've presented it to the client instead of me, because the clients were international and today was the only date that they were free on."
"I told my wife that she acted immaturely and I'm so disappointed in her."
"She started to cry and locked herself in the room and hasn't spoken a word since then."
"AITA?"
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA?:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You're The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors declared our OP was NOT the A**hole.
It's a tricky situation.
Let's hear some thoughts...
"NTA. How does your wife expect to raise a child when it seems she's less mature than one?"
"Does this woman realize that she's about to have a CHILD? It's the kid I'm worried about, honestly, if this is the s**t going on in mum's head."
"I mean, would she still think it's a 'funny prank' if your career was on the line?" ~ randoburgherchick
"Imagine if OP panicked (or some other scenario - I.e. bad traffic) and called the ambulance to get her to the hospital."
"Where I live, the ambulance is $100."
"She wouldn't be laughing then especially since hospital staff would put that on file and question her parenting ability." ~ Hangingoutwithyou
"I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I cannot imagine doing this to my husband as a prank."
"It would be an emergency situation, requiring the hospitalization of our baby. 32 weeks is two months premature."
"It would be a huge serious thing. I can't imagine the amount of panic my husband would be in."
"There's nothing nothing nothing funny about that. Why the hell would she even joke about that?" ~ somaticconviction
"NTA. That was not just immature, but she could have actually hurt your career with her little prank."
"Not for leaving because your life was in labor, but because she lied about it, they might not believe you."
"How can you trust her not to be lying the next time?" ~ ollyator
"I'm sitting here at 26 weeks and have been having Braxton Hicks for the last few days."
"This is my second and I'm still like, 'Should I call my doc? Could this be labor?' Granted with my first I was in labor and didn't realize it."
"I went to get induced and the Labor &Delivery nurse was like you know you are already in labor right?"
"I still think this guy is NTA and his wife definitely is but I think there is definitely a way to salvage at work."
"I would have no problem with my husband throwing me under the bus saying we thought I was in labor but it was just Braxton Hicks."
"I think the more important thing is to have a sit down and use clear communication about why you are upset."
"Using I statements and no name calling. I'm assuming this doesn't happen often."
"And if it doesn't just apologize for the name calling you already did (while justified in my opinion it will open the door for communication instead of putting her on the defense)."
"'I apologize for calling you immature. I was very upset because I had a very important client presentation today. I do want to talk about what happened."
"When you prank me in this way I feel like my contributions to this family are being disregarded. I love and care for you which is why I dropped everything but I'm hoping in the future you can respect my work time and only call in emergency situations'."
"I hope everything turns out well and good luck with the baby!!" ~ kpink88
"She needs to understand how not okay it is."
"How many false alarms can you be pulled from work for before your boss gets sick of it and it looks bad on YOU who is already getting special treatment in having your phone out against policy?"
"That privilege being revoked is the least of your concerns." ~ el_deedee
"NTA but you need to make it clear that this type of unacceptable behavior will not be accepted with your child, she cannot go and 'prank'/USE your child like she did to you."
"Some parents do this and it's cruel and horrible and you gotta protect your kid from this type of abuse she may want to start doing at home."
"I'm thinking about those videos where they lie about something hurtful or sad to the kid and end up with 'haha gotcha' like they just didn't use their kids' trust to entertain online." ~ 579red
"NTA. What she did was completely immature and irresponsible. Let her lock herself in and cry away her embarrassment because it's not on you." ~ BecausePancakess
"NTA. That was dirty, and not a prank. A prank is harmless fun."
"What she did cost you an important opportunity, and not just you."
"The family you're building. Does she not realize that your job directly affects her and the baby?"
"Wtf was she thinking? She is definitely immature."
"There is no reason for a grown adult to be participating in such childish TikTok nonsense." ~Mama_Bee21
As if pregnancy isn't stressful enough.
OP certainly found a wealth of support on Reddit. Maybe he and the wife can sit down and read this thread together?
This way they can get on the same page with the situation.
Good luck to this family. Here is hope for a safe and healthy delivery.
Woman Breaks Up With 'Clingy' Boyfriend For Making Joke About 'Getting With' Her Sister
As much as we might want to date someone, there's no point in trying to gain the attention and affection of someone who does not want to reciprocate.
Dating someone "similar" to fill that void isn't a good look, either, cringed the members of the "Am I Overreacting?" (AIO) subReddit.
Redditor Flashy-External1666 had been long-distance dating a guy from her friend group for about a month, even though he'd expressed his attraction to her older sister repeatedly before they started dating.
When her sister entered a new relationship, the Original Poster (OP) was hurt and disgusted that her boyfriend insinuated that he could have been trying to "get with" her sister while he was instead busy dating her.
She asked the sub:
The OP was aware that her boyfriend had his eye on someone close to her before dating her.
"I (19 Female) am with M (21 Male), and we've been together for a month. We were friends before this, for a while."
"For some background, when we were in a friend group, he'd always talk about how my sister (23 Female) was super hot and how he wanted her, but she was in a relationship at the time."
When he found out that her sister had been in-between relationships, he had an unsavory reaction.
"Earlier today, I mentioned to him how my sister started seeing this new guy, and I was super proud of her, because she went through a lot with her last relationship."
"His immediate reply was, 'Dang,' one month too late' with a sad emoji, insinuating that he was one month too late to get with her, because we've been together for a month."
You can see the text message exchange here:
The OP was immediately turned off by the idea of dating him.
"After I got upset and he apologized, he immediately sent me a reel that said, 'When she's already upset about me, but I have a second joke in mind.'"
"I feel like he genuinely doesn't care about me."
"He has also gotten weirdly clingy within the month, like red-flag clingy."
"He keeps trying to say how he loves me, wants to marry me, and wants me to go live with him. But he also always brings up my exes and gets super jealous when HE mentions them."
"I don't know what to do. Should I block him??"
"He's mentioned before that I would need to block him on everything if we ever broke up because he'd never leave me alone (we are currently long-distance)."
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
Some were grossed out by the boyfriend's text message and understood why the OP was upset.
"The fact that he wrote all that out and even added a little emoji at the end and still decided to send it, knowing it would be hurtful for you."
"Seems like he’s texted that to see if he could get away with it. Either way, you don’t say something like that to someone you care about…" - Oven_Traditional
"NOR. Ew! That’s so disrespectful coming from someone who should be thrilled to have you."
"I’m team 'dump him.' If he has a brother, maybe ask for his brother’s number as you end it just to see how he likes it." - Entire-Tonight-1463
"NOR. He's not joking about your sister. Based on what he's said about her in the past, it would have been a wise move to NOT date him at all. PERIOD."
'There's a possibility that he's clingy/close to you for the purpose of indirectly keeping an eye on your sister. Release him and let him go, thereby setting yourself free from foolishness." - AtlJazzy2024
"He’s not for you… Break up with him and block him. You deserve a guy who treasures YOU!" - Muted-Lynx-8745
"He might be your boyfriend, but you're not his girlfriend. In his mind, your sister is." - Save-your-spoons
Others urged the OP to block her boyfriend and move on.
"Girl, it's been a month. Let that loser go." - sleepymelfho
"He kept OP as a backup, while circling her sister's orbit. What has happened to transparency and honesty in relationships? All I read now is obnoxious men doing obnoxious things to their partners."
"OP, he's keeping you around to stay close to your sister. You deserve better... NOR." - ColdHandGee
"NOR. You know that he's not joking about wanting your sister. He told on himself before you even got together, talking about how hot she was. Believe him."
"Break up with him and cut him off immediately. I can't believe you ever agreed to date him in the first place. I'd never want to date someone who had the hots for someone else in my immediate circle, whether that was a sibling or a friend." - Lanky_Mud_8148
"You’ve been dating one month, and that’s one month too long."
"He’s not joking about your sister. He fancies her more than you, and you’re the consolation prize. He will pursue her given the chance."
"Time to dump him." - Special_Wind_6708
"NOR. He can't have your sister, so you're just the next best thing. Him being a clingy weirdo that 'will never leave you alone' is the cherry on top."
"You know what to do. Dump him and block him on everything. If anyone from the friend group asks, just tell them what you told us. And you REALLY should warn your sister; you have receipts." - sdoM-bmuD
"Ditch him. Honestly. What are you waiting for?" - forget_me_not_uwu
"NOR at all. Cut this loser out of all channels of your life."
"I wouldn’t block, though. Just ghost so that he can watch you become happier without him as the ultimate revenge because I’m petty like that, and he clearly deserves it."
"ALSO, if he's as creepy and clingy as he sounds, you can have him muted, so he can see your activity, but you won't have to see his... But you'd have all of his messages as receipts if he ever became threatening or stalkerish for police purposes."
"For more context: My mum started dating my dad (when she was 19, too), who initially tried to go for her older sister (two years older) and got rejected."
"After three years of dating, seven years of engagement, and 20 years of marriage where she put up with an incompetent man-child that wouldn’t do anything for himself and expected her to completely cater to him while he berated her and treated her like s**t..."
"...it ended in him cheating on her with a waitress for over a year and denying it until my mum had literal photographic evidence, to which he had the audacity to respond with the reasoning that she was the reason he was 'driven to cheat' (as if that was even remotely close to the truth and the only option to solve his ‘problems’)."
"Save yourself, girl. This man-child can learn to pine over you and your sister from afar as you both skip into the sunset together, moving on with your lives and into better relationships that fulfill you the way you deserve!" - peachycritter
Some cautioned the OP to also cover her tracks after the breakup, as he sounded worse than "clingy" to them.
"The actual scary part isn't even the sister joke; it's, 'he said he'd never leave me alone if we broke up,' only one month in."
"That line gave me chills, and that alone would have me Googling how to block someone on every platform that exists." - babydoodle91
"Ew. These super clingy guys right out the gate are scary. Please watch your step, and erase your tracks." - Immabirb
"He sounds like a stalker... Drop him now, fast. And block him everywhere." - Admirable_Program720
"NOR, yes, you block him, and you keep him out of your life, and you tell mutual friends that if they try to facilitate contact between you two, you will block them as well. He isn't joking." - JustAsICanBeSoCruel
"I watch way too much crime for this!"
"Girl, block him. Also tell your sister to block him, too; he’s obsessed with her." - MrsRoronoaZoro
"NOR. You're underreacting, honestly."
"He wants your sister, but you're close enough. He's obsessed with her and won't give it up even though he has someone he 'wants to marry.'"
"Also, he's not lying. He probably will stalk you online afterwards; please be careful." - Phoenix-Phire-38
"NOR at all. Your post kept adding on more red flags with each additional sentence. I know you’re young, but he’s toxic, and yes, you will need to block him."
"Breaking up with someone you have strong feelings for is really difficult, so when you leave, you should make sure to lean on friends and family and keep yourself distracted with things you like and find engaging." - query_tech_sec
"The s**t with your sister is nothing compared to the love-bombing and jealousy. This guy is trouble, and scary, and you will have done the right thing when you leave him and maintain the distance between the two of you. NOR." - potatomeeple
After receiving feedback, the OP posted an update, but it seemed to be only the beginning.
"Thank you for making me feel less crazy."
"I blocked him on everything and deactivated my Instagram."
"He DM'ed a girl that I had posted ONCE on my Instagram Stories, asking about me."
"I'm not sure if he's going to keep trying to talk to me, but I hope not."
The subReddit's internal alarm bells were ringing while reading the OP's post, and they hoped that she'd leave her boyfriend in every sense of the word. They already lived long-distance, but she needed to cut him off in every other sense.
Not only was it obvious that he wanted someone else and was with the OP to "make up for it," but his "promises" of not leaving her alone if she ever broke up with him were love-bombing and stalker-like, at best.