We’ve all had something that truly tips us over the edge.
Most of the time, it’s something incredibly minuscule, and it usually isn’t even something that would normally bother us at all.
It’s simply always a wrong time/wrong place scenario.
Most unfortunately, we often take out our frustrations in these matters on someone else.
Redditor Acrobatic-Employ3942 tended to look forward to one particular treat at the end of a long day.
While the original poster (OP)’s husband was happy to pick this treat up for her at the store, he always brought home the incorrect treat.
After making this mistake one too many times, the OP finally couldn’t hold back her frustrations with her husband.
Seeing how upset she seemed to make her husband, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for yelling at my partner who keeps buying crappy branded food when I’ve asked him not too?”
The OP explained why she found herself lashing out at her husband:
“My partner (37 M[ale]) and I (38 F[emale]) have two young kids and we are well and truly in the trenches with our newborn at the moment.”
“Both of us are like ships in the night, barely have time to think or do anything, and our routine has been shot to bits managing our newborn.”
“He has taken on the responsibility of going to the supermarket more these days as he finds the walks enjoyable and takes our toddler out whilst I’m home with the newborn.”
“I sometimes buy myself a coconut water as a treat, as I love this one brand.”
“Recently he’s been buying some coconut water for me because he knows I love it.”
“But when he’s at the shops, he grabs the cheapest brand coconut water, but I cannot stand the taste of it and have asked him calmly several times to not buy that brand and to please spend the extra dollar to buy the other brand, one that I really enjoy.”
“So back note, my husband is the stingiest cheap man and he’s actually admitted to me his money saving isn’t normal compared to others.”
“We both have seriously well-paying jobs and are not financially stressed at all, he just loves a bargain and buys the no-name brand everything all the time.”
“He says he just grabs the one mindlessly and doesn’t mean to upset me but he’s done it 5 or 6 times now, and the last time I didn’t get angry at him.”
“I just got him to really focus and explained my frustrations and for him to please stop buying that brand, it tastes gross, it’s not a treat for me, and to please get the other brand that I would occasionally.”
“But, and he was like, yep, of course, and said he would.”
“Like he has every other time, but I thought sort of explaining it more, it would sink in.”
“Then today he brought home the shit wee tasting stuff AGAIN and I just lost it.”
“We’ve had a huge weekend, I’m sick, and a coconut water would have been the nicest treat for me.”
“But bringing home the brand I cannot stand felt like it was the biggest punch in the gut to me.”
“When I saw it, I was literally shook, I just lost it and yelled at him and was like WTF did you buy this shit again and threw the carton in the bin without even opening it.”
“He was like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, I didn’t do it on purpose. I then yelled what is wrong with you?”
“Like, why do you keep doing this? He just walked out of the room, so it ended there.”
“He got really upset with me and said I’d made him cry by yelling at him and made our toddler upset (cos he got a bit scared when I yelled).”
“The whole thing felt like a complete set up to me and I don’t know after asking 5-6 times previously patiently and calmly how to not get to a point of just cracking up and yelling for him to stop buying that stuff because it feels like a constant reminder of how much he doesn’t care about me after asking him to stop buying it several times.”
“AITA for yelling? Like what’s going on here?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP was not the a**hole for snapping at her husband.
Everyone understood the OP’s frustrations, feeling that her husband had done this one too many times for this to truly be a mistake, with others pointing out how the OP’s husband was actually wasting money by buying the less expensive brand:
“Try telling him that when he buys the brand you don’t like, he’s wasting money rather than saving it because from now on you will look him in the eye and drop it in the bin unopened as soon as he hands it to you.”
“Maybe the idea that his money is going in the garbage will get through.”
“Honestly it sounds like weaponized incompetence except he forgot the ‘well i just won’t do it then’ step.”
“NTA.”- Trishanamarandu
“‘He was like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, I didn’t do it on purpose.”
“Didn’t do it on purpose my a**.”
“You’ve told him several times.”
“You say he has a well-paying job, so he can clearly follow directions there.”
“Like if his boss told him, ‘I need you to call this client at 3’ he’d do what the boss said, right?”
“Then he can damn well buy you the right drink.”
“He just doesn’t want to.”
“NTA.”
“Made him cry.”
“Oh boo hoo.”
“He’s made you cry a bunch of times buying you a sh*tty drink that you didn’t want.”- Feather757
“NTA.”
“He did do it on purpose.”
“Next time, silently open the carton and pour the whole thing down the sink in front of him.”
“Don’t say a word.”
“Then give him the baby while you DoorDash a single item – branded coconut water.”
“Watch him go crazy.”- ScaryButterscotch474
“NTA.”
“Brand preference is a thing, especially when it comes to a treat.”
“While store brands are often just as good or even identical to name-brand products, lots of times they are not.”
“For example, none of us can stand Aldi’s version of Cheerios.”
“We had a similar thing happen once with store-brand coffee.”
“Key word being ONCE.”
“I don’t drink coffee, so I had no idea there was such a difference.”
“My husband hated it!”
“I never bought it again and stuck to what he actually likes.”
“You’re not being a name-brand snob.”
“You don’t like the stuff he is buying and have specifically asked him not to buy it because it tastes bad.”
“He keeps doing it anyway.”
“He is either clueless or passive-aggressive, and I would have lost it too after so many times of him doing that.”- thechaoticstorm
“Have the correct brand delivered at twice the cost and keep doing that until he buys the right brand.”
“NTA.”
“I was living with a chronic cheapskate who weaponized incompetence, and my life improved exponentially once I got rid of him.”- RepublicTop1690
“If I’m reading this correctly, he has never once purchased the correct brand?”
“This is not accidenta,l and you should not apologize to your husband.”
“NTA.”- PomBergMama
“NTA.”
“It’s purposeful at this point, and you hit your breaking point.”
“It isn’t a treat for you, it’s a test to see how you will react, either that or he is really cheap, and really stupid and really oblivious.”- Used-Meaning-1468
“NTA.”
“I’m sorry, if I had to tell the guy six times to buy this specific thing I liked, only to ignore me and buy the cheaper one each time, I’d lose it too.”
“People only have so much patience.”
“And he cried over this?”
“Really?”- No_Conversation_5661
“NTA.”
“But either make him take it back to the store for a refund every time or stand there and pour it down the sink every time until he gets it through his head that he’s not saving money if he buys you something that you will not drink.”- Old_Implement_1997
“Whenever I see posts like this I always think the partner secretly hates OP.”
“NTA at all, just something to think about.”- cecilialoveheart
“NTA.”
“That’s called weaponized incompetence and he knew full well all 8 times he did it.”- esterday1708
Even if the OP’s husband isn’t intentionally bringing home the wrong brand of coconut water, it’s still not a great look for him.
As he’s more or less admitting that he’s not listening to the OP.
If there’s anything good to ever come out of a situation like this, it’s that the chances of him bringing home the wrong brand again are much less likely now…