Relationships end for all kinds of reasons.
And more than likely, all members of that relationship will then move on with new lives.
An ex-husband wrote into the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit when his ex-wife didn’t adjust well to the latest development in his new life.
Redditor bannanaghostie explained that his ex-wife did not receive the news well that he was starting a family.
The Original Poster (OP) wondered if he was wrong for being open about his wife, considering her feelings.
He asked the sub:
“AITA for potentially bragging about my newborns when my ex-wife recently lost her baby?”
The OP’s ex-wife recently announced she was pregnant.
“I ([Male] 30) was married for about six years before finalizing a divorce with my ex ([Female] 32) a few years back. We share a son together who is four years old. When we split we agreed that I would have him during the school year and she would get him in the summer.”
“Earlier last year she announced she was pregnant and our son was thrilled. Meanwhile me and my fiancé ([Male] 28) have been looking to find a surrogate to also add to our family.”
The ex-wife made a tough decision.
“As my ex wife progressed through her pregnancy, she claimed that dealing with our son and her new baby would be too much for her. She wanted to sign away her rights to our son.”
“I did not think it was the best thing to do because our son was old enough to be attached to his mother but she insisted. So I legally have all rights to my son.”
“My fiancé is planning on trying to adopt him once we get married.”
The OP and his new husband then had good news of their own.
“Luckily for us a friend reached out and offered to carry a child for me and my future husband.”
“We agreed and we got the news a few months later that she was pregnant. Our pregnancy was about three months behind my ex wife’s.”
“I do let her parents see my son frequently because they had no say in her signing away her rights.”
“Of course my son is excited to have a sibling from our side, so his grandparents told his [mother].”
But the ex-wife didn’t receive it well.
“Since then it’s been a bit h**l. My ex wife has non-stop harassed us about copying her. She accused us of having a baby out of spite.”
“I’ve tried to not let it get to me, I’ve always wanted a big family and I thought when I got divorced I lost my chance.”
And then the ex-wife received bad news.
“Unfortunately my ex wife gave birth to a stillborn. I gave my condolences because the lost of a child can be so upsetting. My sister reached out to her as well because they had been close while we were married.”
“My daughter was born a few months after this happened and we made one announcement on social media about it.”
“My fiancé and I are pretty quiet people and we don’t like attention. We just wanted to let friends and family know that we had a healthy baby girl.”
The ex-wife and her family have not been supportive.
“My ex wife, her parents, her boyfriend, and her extended side of the family have not stopped harassing my family about bragging about our child when my ex wife was clearly in pain over losing hers.”
“I’ll be honest, my ex wife’s feelings were not considered when we announced the arrival. I was just overjoyed to have a new addition.”
“So, I’m here to ask your opinion, AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in by declaring: