The rapid development of camera technology has altered contemporary life in multiple ways.
Of course, smartphone camera quality has caused social media and influencer culture to explode in less than a decade.
But the technology has also changed the home security game.
The ability to record the activity around the home, however, can take some getting used to. A recent post to the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit illustrated that quite well.
The Original Poster (OP), known as Sea-gar888 on the site, gave a peak at those growing pains with his title for the post.
“AITA For telling my neighbor to get F-ed when he told me to remove my doorbell camera?”
He began by explaining why he wanted the camera in the first place.
“So lately, There have been a number of burglaries in the area I live in. My wife and I were among those who got burglarized and most of the stuff we lost were packages and electronics.”
“My wife and I both work long hours so we’re not home most of the time and despite taking precautions, we still are concerned for the safety of our belongings as well as other things.”
He quickly learned that was a good decision.
“So I decided to get a doorbell camera which frankly has become a necessity and it’s cheap to buy ($199) and easy to install.”
“And so far we were able to catch a number of thieves in act (to my surprise some of them I knew personally and were from the area) which helped lot in getting our stuff back.”
But there was one snag.
“Onto the issue: So my neighbor and I were discussing this with few other neighbors and I showed him a video that was taking by the camera to explain how we were able to identify the individuals who tried to steal stuff.”
“I was fastforward-ing the footage but He suddenly freaked out and pointed at his wife who was at the door to visit my wife.”
“I was confused when he asked how long I been keeping this video/and if I made copies of it.”
“He then proceeded to tell me it did not feel right to see his wife being recorded by the doorbell cam and the fact that I didn’t get rid of this part since it had nothing to do with catching the thieves made him unconfortable.”
OP, however, knew where his priorities stood.
“I apologized for any misunderstanding and promised that it had nothing to do with his wife we had few people stand at our door who were shown on our cam so I wasn’t just his wife.”
“He cut the conversation and left.”
“Then came back in the evening to ask for how long I will be keeping this camera.”
“I asked why and he said he wasn’t sure about his wife being recorded and asked me to remove it. I said no then he suggested I install one inside but I still said no.”
But OP’s neighbor dug his heels in.
“He got all pi**ed and said that I was acting inappropriately and mean after he came to me with his concerns expecting me to understand that he doesnt want me having ‘footages’ of his wife.”
“I told him his wife can stop coming over if he was so worried but he went on about never telling his wife what to do or where to go.”
“He insisted I remove the cam but I told him to get F-ed and never bring this up again.”
OP was left with the fallout.
“He left and got others involved, they told me I should be more considerate of my neighbors feelings and understand where he’s coming from but I stood my ground and refused to remove the camera.”
“My wife thinks I was being a jerk to our neighbor and his wife and have some respect for them but I don’t think I was being disrespectful. Was I?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Almost every Redditor told OP that his reaction was understandable and justified.
“NTA. It’s not like you’re surveilling his wife, and you have a very legitimate reason for having it. He started a fight over nothing.” — MGDarion
“NTA As you pointed out, if he’s concerned about his wife being on camera, she doesn’t need to come over.”
“Also, realistically, dude needs to realize that we are all filmed every day when out in public. Stores, streets, anywhere in public is now filmed with security cameras.”
“I find it ridiculous that people think that making unreasonable demands under the guise of ‘needing to understand where they’re coming from’ has become de rigueur, not to mention his actual concern is just flat out nutty, paranoid, and a bit creepy – what does he think you’re doing with the footage?” — Veridical_Perception
“NTA at all. The neighbor is. I think mentioning that she doesn’t have to come over anymore was a good call.”
“If you’ve already caught people on the camera, it’s clearly worth it to have it up. Maybe this guy has something to hide….. ooooh the plot thickens.”
“I’m wondering how he explained it to other people and why they would be on his side. ‘GUYS HE WAS FILMING MY WIFE. NO, SHE WAS ON THEIR PORCH- BUT STILL! FRICKIN JERK RIGHT??’ ” — donnyganger
Others shared that same suspicion.
“NTA. What the hell? Lol. Is he the one who was stealing your stuff? Or maybe his wife and that’s why he was questioning how long you had it?”
“You have the right to have your security camera. You stood your ground and that guy is acting incredibly crazy.” — Crazyhowthatworks304
“That’s a very strong reaction for someone who is 100% innocent. Think about it OP. My spicy senses are telling me he plans on stealing your stuff soon and is just upset that you can catch thieves.”
“He’s making up bs excuses for you removing your camera. NTA. I would figure out a way to imply to him that his strong reaction seems sus to you.” — RoseTyler38
So while we can’t be 100% how it all shook out, it would be a pretty safe bet to say that OP’s camera isn’t going anywhere.