Misunderstandings happen in life. But what happens when that misunderstanding is with the people you rely on for your health and well being?
A woman is dealing with a situation between her parents and her 15-year-old brother that has her concerned for his welfare.
So she turned to Reddit for some advice.
Redditor ThrowRakeso posted:
“My parents falsely accused my brother of being a creep and it’s really affecting him.”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“My brother is 15, my sister is 17, and I’m 23. This is really stupid and it shouldn’t have happened but it did.”
“Now I just want advice on how to make it better. Also this is the story my brother told me as I wasn’t there.”
“He was in his room playing on his phone minding his own business. He got up to take out the trash.”
“He came back to lay down in his bed. As he was laying down he noticed their dog walking out of his room.”
“He ignored it.”
“Later on his sister noticed clothes were missing. She went looking for it and found it in my brothers room.”
“The problem was that it was wet and slimy. She immediately told our parents and they thought the worst.”
“My dad, mom, and brother argued about it.”
“Rude things were said. Apparently mom said I knew you were weird but not this weird.”
“My dad said I raised a predator. In the end my parents asked me to pick him up and let him stay with me for a couple of days.”
“When I picked him up he didn’t say anything and just sat in silence.”
“He spent the entire time in the room he was staying in. He only came out for dinner. He skipped breakfast and lunch.”
“His eye’s were always red when he came out so I assume he was crying. I’ve never seen him cry. Most of the time when he’s upset he just has a stone face so what they said must have got to him.”
“Finally at the end of the week he’s parents called me and said they wanted to talk to him so they came over.”
“Before they came over I tried to talk to him but he ignored me.”
“When parents came they apologized to him. Over the week they noticed more of sister clothes in his room until one day my dad caught the dog with my sister clothes.”
“My brother just said okay and went home. I tried to ask my parents if he could stay longer but they said that wouldn’t be necessary.”
“Later on I got a call asking me what did he do over my house because he’s just been in his room all day at their house. Is there anything I can do to help him feel better?”
“Advice would be greatly unappreciated.”
Redditors were also concerned for her brother’s welfare.
“Your parents need to apologize to your brother PROFUSELY. Beyond that, I sadly have no other advice to offer. I can understand why he’s upset.” ~ taylorluvs
“Your parents broke your brother, and accused him of things they can’t walk back. I would get him a therapist asap.” ~ JRFisher85
“Knowing how the horrible things my mother said affected me, none of which came within miles of this verbal assault, that kid is definitely in a rough place right now.”
“Even if the parents sincerely apologize, which I doubt will happen, he knows what they think of him and what they think he’s capable of. That’s a long road back, and I wouldn’t blame him if he chose not to take it.” ~ arathorn867
“Family therapy for parents and brother, and individual for the brother. They completely broke his trust.” ~ Hey_Laaady
The OP returned with an update:
“Good news. He can stay with me until Sunday.”
“I had to lie a little to parents to get him to come. I told them he should get out the house because he spends most of his day sitting in one spot with online school.”
“They didn’t believe me a first but I said it would be a chance to get him out his room. They finally agreed.”
“He was about to go to sleep so I came just in time. I think the plan right now is to just spent time with him this week.”
“I’m broke so it’s gonna be mostly home stuff.”
Hopefully in time this family can heal the wounds created by their harsh words over a misunderstanding.