Can you ever get too old for things that make you happy?
Even if something is made with the intent of pleasing children, does that mean we can’t still enjoy a certain book, tv show or movie as an adult?
Should we as adults be obligated to spend time in museums and libraries, and stay away from amusement parks?
Redditor Puzzleheaded-Yak4112 certainly seemed to think so, and grew increasingly concerned when their sister continued to hold a special place in her heart for a company synonymous with children.
And with a milestone birthday fast approaching, the original poster OP even went so far as to tell their sister that she needed to “grow up.”
Wondering if what they said was out of line, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for telling my sister her Disney obsession is embarrassing and she needs to grow up?”
The OP shared how their sister had only one plan for her upcoming 50th birthday, a plan which only made the OP roll their eyes.
“One of my sisters is obsessed with all things Disney.”
“When we were kids, she couldn’t get enough of the movies but she never grew out of it.”
“Every year since she finished nursing school her annual vacation is Disney related.”
“Disneyland, Disney World, Disney cruises or Disney parks in other countries.”
“Except for the last 3 calendar years because of the coronavirus of course.”
“Her scrubs for work have Disney characters.”
“That would make some sense if she worked in a children’s hospital or with kids, but she’s only ever worked in nursing homes.”
“She has some Disney stuff but her house isn’t overtaken like some of the fanatics I’ve heard online.”
“I’ll give her that.”
“That would be a bridge too far.’
“I know she hopes to retire in Florida near Disney.”
“If she could afford it she would already live in California or Florida instead of Louisiana.’
‘She’s already booked a Disney trip for next year hoping the pandemic won’t cancel it.”
“She’s turning 50 next year and it’s weird for a single woman with no kids to be into Disney and go on those vacations alone.’
“I had hoped her having to skip her Disney trips would force her to grow up and maybe move on from the obsession but it hasn’t and instead she is going on her 25th Disney vacation as she says.”
“I told her that her obsession is weird and needs to stop and she needs to grow up.”
‘She’s almost 50 for crying out loud.”
“I’m not the only one in the family that feels this way but my sister doesn’t want to listen she just argues about it.”
“It’s weird and there a million things she could do on vacation that aren’t Disney themed.”
“AITA?”
“I just told it like it was.”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The OP did not find any support from the Reddit community, all of whom agreed that they were, indeed, the a**hole for the way they behaved towards their sister.
Everyone agreed that how the OP’s sister lived her life had no bearing on the OP, and they were being cynical and insensitive regarding her love of Disney.
‘INFO: Her vacation preferences harm you how, exactly?”-SummitJunkie7
“YTA.’
‘If there was a super a8*hole category you would be in it.”
“Nursing, and working in a nursing home is really hard and emotional work under normal circumstances.”
“Doing it through things like COVID-19, Hurricane Katrina and other disasters is even harder.”
‘Disney makes her happy and that’s fine.”
“It’s not your money or your time and you aren’t forced to go on those vacations.”
“It’s is none of your business what someone else enjoys if they aren’t hurting anyone.”
“And who cares if she wears Disney scrubs?”
“They probably brighten her, her colleagues and the home residents day.”
“You mention that she’s been employed the last 27 years so it’s obviously not a problem.”
“You are definitely TA here.”- Remarkable_Apple962
“Congratulations!”
“You’re all YTA.”
“Caring what a 50 year old does with their time and money IS weird.”- lunasey
“YTA.”
“You know what’s way weirder than your sister’s love of Disney?”
“You being so personally offended by your sister’s love of Disney that you’ve taken it upon yourself to spoil her harmless fun.”
“Do you not have any hobbies of your own?”- mm172
“YTA.”
“I went to Disney at 18 years old with my two stepbrothers who were 9 and 11.”
“Guess who had a f*cking blast?”
“That’s right.”
“Me.”
“Guess who whined the whole time?”
“You know it was my brothers.”
“It literally hurts no one for her to go.”
“You’re just being mean for no reason.”- chaosandpuppies
“My mom was a nursing home nurse.”
“And she loved it.”
“Not one week went by where she did not come home crying.”
“Sometimes because someone died.”
“Sometimes because someone was lonely with no fam to visit.”
“Sometimes for the children who are dying and are in a nursing home.”
“And she loved it.”
“She was an amazing woman and I am proud to be her kid.”
“And she loved Disney.”
“And fairy tales.”
“I wonder if her love of whimsy was part of why she could do what she did.”
“How she coped.”
“The last movie I saw with her before she died was a Disney movie.”
“All her grown daughters, (she only had girls, we didn’t exclude the grandsons!), with their late teens to adult kids piled up on a floor covered with mattresses because she was losing her cancer battle and couldn’t stand or even sit up well.”
“And my next tattoo will be Maleficent, for her.”
“Disney is her joy. Let her have it.”- Right-Mark5041
“YTA.”
“Your sister has a Disney addiction, so what?”
“She could’ve been addicted to drugs, or addicted to food or alcohol.”
“Be grateful.”
“You either have nothing to be happy about in your life or you just want her to stop spending money on her so you can get it when she dies.”- Murky_Captain_8192
“YTA.”
“Let people enjoy things, f*ck.”- ZucchiniPasta
“YTA.”
“She’s not hurting anyone.”
“Let her have her happiness.”
“Life is too short to miss out on what you love due to other people’s judgment.”
“Sincerely, a grown adult who has a Sailor Moon ROOM in her house.”- TinyRascalSaurus
“YTA.”
“I have a former coworker who loves Disney.”
“We live in FL and she would go every weekend.”
“There’s nothing wrong with it and you don’t really have a right to be embarrassed.”-morosestrudel
“YTA.”
“Everyone has their hobbies and collections.”-armedmommy
“YTA OP.”
“If what she does does not hurt or affect you, your family, others or herself, why would you care?”
“Could it be the a clue in your sentence ‘a single woman with no kids’ that causes you/your family fear that she could possibly spend all her money on all that is Disney and won’t leave you guys anything to inherit from her?”-Puzzleheaded-Desk399
“Show me on this doll where your sister’s vacations hurt you.”
“YTA.”- SimplySam4210
“YTA, other commenters have already correctly covered why, but also because your only comments are informing people how much money you make.”- cosmic_vogue
“YTA.”
“Why do you care so much?”
“She’s a grown ass woman and can enjoy whatever she wants.”
“Why are you so invested in her harmless interests?”
“You know what’s really embarrassing?”
“People who sh*t all over things other people enjoy because they are jealous.”
“Leave her alone, and focus on your own life.”- EngineeringOwn2299
“YTA.”
“I look forward to the day I can do a kid-free Disney trip.”
“Your sister has things that bring her joy and you want to gate-keep that and take it away from her.”
“You are totally the a**shole.”-Agitated_Pin2169
“YTA for sure.”
“I think this is less about Disney as her hobby and more about jealousy that she has money and no kids.”
“Mind your own.”- BeadsAndCats
“YTA.”
“My aunt collected Disney things, mainly Christmas ornaments.”
“My aunt suffered a stroke and slowly died with only half her memories in an assisted living facility.”
“You know who has them?”
“My siblings and I.”
“Her son didn’t want them for fear of breaking them.”
“Guess what?”
“Those are my absolute favorite Christmas ornaments.”
“They bring me joy every single year.”
“Her love of Disney is a cherished memory.”
“Your sister is out here living her best life, while you’re acting like a bitter, judgmental AH.”
“Her love of Disney isn’t hurting anyone.”
“And maybe one day her love of Disney will be all you have to remember her by.”- BabyAquarius
It’s sad to think that the OP would be so upset by something that clearly makes their sister happy.
Particularly on something which has literally no bearing whatsoever on the OP or anyone else.
Here’s hoping the OP’s sister has a very happy 50th birthday, in the most magical place on earth.