One of the many side effects of becoming pregnant is the somewhat unexpected changes to your appetite.
While it’s commonly assumed that pregnant women simply want to eat more, and some will eat some surprising combinations of ingredients like pickles and ice cream, that isn’t necessarily always the case.
As many pregnant women find themselves unable to tolerate some of their favorite foods, while others find themselves craving something they never normally sought out.
Redditor Pregnancy_craving66 found herself only wanting to eat one specific food.
So after ordering one for herself, she was less than pleased to discover her sister-in-law (SIL) helped herself without asking first.
A move in which the original poster (OP) was not afraid to share her displeasure at.
Worried that she might have overreacted, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where she asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for screaming at my SIL for eating my pregnancy craving and then being pissed she didn’t replace it.”
The OP explained how she found herself at odds with her SIL over a pizza.
“I (35 F[emale]) and my husband (32 M[ale]) have been trying to have a kid for 5 years, and I recently found out I was pregnant.”
“So far I’m 25 weeks.”
“My cravings recently kicked in, and the only thing I want is literally Hawaiian pizza.”
“Today I was craving it all day, so I got one from papa johns and I also got some breadsticks.”
“I had 3 slices and then decided to take a nap.”
“I woke up at 7:50 and wanted to get another slice and some breadsticks.”
“When I did there was none left I was reasonably upset as I had been craving it.”
“I then asked my husband and SIL which one of them ate my pizza.”
“SIL admitted that she had eaten it and that she was hungry and pretty tired from work.”
“SIL goes to work from 7:00 am to 5:00 pm.”
“I screamed at SIL and told her to replace it immediately.”
“SIL refused and said that I am acting ridiculous.”
“I started crying and husband calmed me down and ordered me a pizza.”
“SIL thinks I’m an a**hole.”
“Sil has done this before where I have gotten food and have made it crystal clear that it’s for me and she still ate it this has gone on even before I got pregnant.”
“AITA?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation, by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community agreed that the OP was not the a**hole for yelling at her SIL and demanding she replaces the pizza and breadsticks she ate.
Everyone agreed that the OP’s SIL was way out of line for eating her pizza, whether or not she was pregnant, and it would have been only polite that she replace it.
“What makes people think they can just eat other people’s food?”
“NTA.”- lmmontes
“NTA, she ate the rest of your food without asking you?”
“That’s rude AF.”
“She ate over half a pizza that wasn’t hers, AND she didn’t even leave any?”
“And then refused to get you another?”
“Utterly ridiculous.”
“Even my boyfriend knows better.”- Capable_Boat255
“NTA.”
“Who eats the rest of someone’s food without asking, much less a pregnant person’s?”
“Probably didn’t need to yell, but hormones are real.”- Otherwise_Earth_4094
“If someone ate my pizza while I was asleep, I’d be pissed even if I am not pregnant.”
“And I’d be even more pissed if they didn’t agree to replace it.”
“Pregnancy cravings or not, eating people’s stuff is in general not cool.”
“Your reaction may have been more emotional than you intended, but you’re not wrong.”
“NTA.”- el_pedanto
“NTA.”
“It’s so weird that people here hate pregnant people.”
“The craving for some food while pregnant is like craving for water when you are thirsty.”
“And hormones do much too.”
“And you can’t eat a lot when you’re pregnant because your stomach is ’smaller’ because of the baby.”
“AND your SIL was living with you and your husband so she SHOULD HAVE KNOW BETTER.”
“She probably knows you like THAT pizza more than anything and STILL decided to eat it.”
“What an AH.”- Accurate-Knowledge30
“I’m not pregnant, and I’d yell at someone for not asking, eating my food and not replacing it.”
“NTA.”- Seezig
“NTA.”
“Your pizza, you bought it, your money, your food.”
“Doesn’t matter if it’s pizza, crab legs, or a hot pocket.”
“Do not eat other people’s food without asking.”
“Even worse if it’s a pregnant person’s food, as that person is going to be hungry a lot more and usually has both cravings and foods they can’t stomach anymore.”
“Was there ANY other food in the house she could eat, up to and including a sandwich?”
“If so she’s totally TA and needed to either have a replacement supper for you when you got up or find something else to eat.” – Reddit
“Oh heck yes NTA.”
“You are letting her live with you, as a favor, and she’s been going after your food before?”
“And just ate over half an entire pizza AND the breadsticks?”
“Girl, she did that to be an AH.”
“Who the heck besides a pregnant woman eats FIVE PIECES OF PIZZA?!? “
“And breadsticks!”
“Someone who’s an entitled AH, that’s who.”
“She could have eaten anything else or waited until you woke up to ask, but nope.”
“She, again, ate your food.”
“Now that you’ve screamed at her maybe, just maybe, she’ll realize you are serious about not stealing your food anymore.”
“I hope you didn’t have the 90-minute wait we have on pizza delivery 🙁 There are 3 places that deliver here.”
“One is from a roach-motel Pizza Hut, the Papa Johns we got sick off twice in a row.”
“And the other is crazy busy and 20+ minutes away.”
‘Here’s hoping you got a replacement dinner quickly and that SIL quits abusing your hospitality by stealing your food.”- maroongrad
“Even ignoring the fact that you’re pregnant.”
“Who the hell eats other people’s food without asking and then has the audacity to say they’re not replacing?”
“NTA.”- b2125
“NTA.”
“The pregnancy is completely irrelevant.”
“She ate your food, she should replace it.”- chillyfeets
“Even if you weren’t pregnant I’d say NTA.”
“Papa John’s is bomb, and you should ask before taking someone else’s food.”
“Also who the f*ck eats over half a pizza they didn’t buy and refuse to buy another?”
“Didn’t even give you money for the nearly entire pizza she ate?”
“What an a**hole.”- Bbcheeky
“NTA.”
“There are 10 slices in a Papa John Pizza.”
“You ate 3.”
“Who eats 7 slices and the rest of the breadsticks?”
“Seriously.”
“The men I know couldn’t do that.”
“Then ok if she ate it she should have apologized and ordered you another.”
“It’s a dang pizza.”- MaryAnne0601
“NTA it sounds like you’ve had this issue with her even before you were pregnant.”
“It’s not a pregnancy reaction.”
“It’s a legitimate reaction to having something stolen from you, and then it being brushed aside as if they did nothing wrong.”
“If you hadn’t mentioned being pregnant, no one would think you’re TA, but lately there’s been a ton of ridiculous pregnant women on here.”- alaskan_sushi_hunter
‘NTA, don’t eat other people’s food for one.”
“NTA for pregnancy hormone yelling.”- ShadowCVL
“NTA.”
“I assume the pizza had 8 slices, leaving 5.”
“That leads me to understand SIL ate more than half the pizza & ALL the breadsticks.”
“Even if the spouse said SIL could eat some pizza, she ate most of the food in total.”
“SIL was inconsiderate and then doubled down by not replacing the food she pigged out on, knowing full well it wasn’t hers to finish off.”- Reddit
“NTA.”
“I can’t stand such blatant inconsideration.”
“People just want to be respected, why is that so hard for some people to understand.”- feloniusmyoldfriend
“NTA who just eats someone else’s food.”- runningaway67907
“In college once, a friend of my roommates cooked and ate a frozen pizza of mine without asking.”
“He said he’d replace it.”
“After months of him not doing anything, and three days before the end of the school year, I went to his room and stole his PlayStation 2.”
“After about an hour or so, he had my f*cking pizza.”
“This has nothing to do with your story, I was just reminded.”
“NTA.”- yearofawesome
“NTA.”
“Why is your SIL eating your leftover food?”
“I could see having two to four slices but to eat all of it was a complete AH move on her part.”
“Most of us respect someone else’s leftovers if it wasn’t specifically bought to be shared with the household, at least for the first three days.”
“I’d be telling her to go home and eat her own food, and having a conversation about boundaries and not stealing someone else’s private take out.”- Elindriel
Indeed, eating someone else’s food without asking them is impolite, to say the least.
Eating a pregnant woman’s food, however, is another story entirely.
One can only assume the OP’s SIL has no children herself. Otherwise one can only assume she would never have dared or would have at the very least replaced the pizza.