Even though weddings vary in many ways from one happy couple to the next, the big idea behind the milestone event remains.
It’s a celebration focused on two people’s unity and love for each other.
At least it’s meant to be, anyway.
A woman on Reddit was furious after her sister hijacked her wedding reception to announce her pregnancy, so she turned to the “Am I The A**hole Here” (AITAH) subReddit to seek feedback from fellow Redditors.
Redditor Outrageous_Gap_7690 asked:
“AITAH for refusing to let my sister (F27) announce her pregnancy at my wedding after what she did?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Context:”
“I (F[emale]/30) got married last weekend, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life, but drama unfolded, and now my family is split in half.”
“I need to know if I’m the a-hole or if my reaction was justified.”
“Backstory:”
“My younger sister (F[emale]/27), let’s call her ‘Lucy,’ has always been the golden child of the family.”
“She’s smart, beautiful, and has always been the center of attention, whether it’s her birthdays, graduations, or other significant life events.”
“I’ve always felt like I was living in her shadow, but I’ve never said anything because, well… she’s my sister, and I love her.”
“Lucy got pregnant a couple of months ago, and while I’m genuinely happy for her, I was also relieved that my wedding day could finally be about *me* for once.”
“No one overshadowing me. No unexpected news.”
“Just me, my partner, and our big day.”
“The Incident:”
“A week before the wedding, Lucy called me, and during what I thought was a casual sisterly chat, she drops this bombshell: ‘Wouldn’t it be amazing if I announced my pregnancy during your reception? It would be such a surprise!'”
“She went on to explain that all of our family would be there, and she thought it would be ‘such a special moment’ for everyone..”
“I was stunned. I told her politely but firmly that I didn’t think it was a good idea.”
“I had spent months planning this day, and I wanted it to be about my husband and me, not a pregnancy announcement.”
“Lucy said I was overreacting and being selfish.”
“She said it wasn’t a big deal, and that ‘everyone would be so happy.'”
“I reiterated my stance—NO announcement at my wedding.”
“I thought that was the end of it.”
“The Day of the Wedding:”
“Fast forward to the reception. Everything was going beautifully.”
“I was having the time of my life until I noticed Lucy looking a bit… smug?”
“That’s when she tapped her glass for attention.”
“My stomach dropped.”
“In front of all our guests, she stood up and announced her pregnancy anyway.”
“The room erupted in cheers and congratulations.”
“I was frozen in shock. It felt like a dream.”
“People immediately swarmed her with hugs and questions, and suddenly, my wedding was no longer about *me*—it was about Lucy and her baby.”
“I was furious.”
“My husband could see it, my bridesmaids could see it, and honestly, anyone paying attention could see I was upset.”
“But I didn’t want to cause a scene, so I left the reception early, crying in the bridal suite.”
“My husband tried to console me, but I was heartbroken.”
“Aftermath:”
“Now, here’s where things get worse.”
“The next day, Lucy texted me saying I was ‘being a drama queen’ and that ‘everyone was happy for her.'”
“My parents are taking her side, saying I should have ‘just let her have her moment’ and that I’m being ‘immature’ for being upset.”
“But a few of my cousins and friends have reached out to tell me that they thought what Lucy did was selfish and wrong.”
“The family is now divided.”
“Some say I’m overreacting, while others say Lucy was out of line.”
“So, AITAH for getting upset that my sister hijacked my wedding to announce her pregnancy?”
“Everything in a nutshell:”
“My sister asked to announce her pregnancy at my wedding, I said no, but she did it anyway.”
“Now, I’m being called selfish and immature for being upset about it.”
“AITAH?”
Redditors weighed in on the situation and overwhelmingly declared OP was not the a**hole (NTA) and agreed OP should not talk to her sister for some time.
“NTA”
“Go, no contact with her or anyone on her side.”
“She needs to learn her actions have consequences.”
“Silence is your best response to all of them.”
“F**k people taking over YOUR PAID PARTY for their selfish bullsh*t.” – Pretty865-Artwork
“You should have assigned a couple of bridesmaids or groomsmen to keep an eye on her and escort her out.”
“And told her beforehand that they had the assignment.”
“Block your sister and go nc/lc. Don’t go to her baby shower and give her no attention.”
“Be polite in front of your parents, but avoid family gatherings as much as possible.”
“Take your folks out to Sunday brunch to “make up” for missing xyz event if you want to stay in touch with them or invite them over for dinner occasionally.”
“Once you get used to living without toxic people, you actually start to prefer it. 😉” – she_who_knits
“NTA. Send her the bill for her announcement party.”
“Explain to your parents you told her know, she did it anyway, she should pay.”
“Save your messages and video and offer to go immediately to small claims court if she doesn’t pay.”
“I would even figure out how far into the reception this was done and charge her that percentage of the costs.”
“And BLAST her on social media.”
“Good phrases are #goldenchild #entitled and #maincharacter let everyone know she can’t stand for anything to be about you at all, even your own wedding.”
“Let her face the consequences or pony up the money.” – Bibliophile_w_coffee
“Let her have her moment makes me wonder what your life was growing up how many moments where stolen from you so she could have her moment”
“Nta”
“Send her and your parents half the reception bill since it was her moment.”
“You see people who have no issue with her doing what she did now you know and see what you mean to them.”
“Steal their moments and bet it would be a different story”
“Congratulations on your marriage tho” – Bitter_Animator2514
“NTA… you specifically asked her not to.”
“But you need to teach her that actions have consequences.” – FloMoJoeBlow
“NTA I would go NC with everyone who sided with Lucy.”
“I would text your Mom and Lucy, say ‘Lucy was always the center of attention. I have never once complained.'”
“‘I just wanted my wedding day to be about me. Instead of thinking I should let her “just have her moment”, how about realizing it was my wedding and my ONE moment.'”
“‘You all couldn’t even give me that.'”
“‘In the future, if you’re ever wondering why I have gone NC with you.. just know, it’s because of this.'”
“‘You lost me because you couldn’t support me and let me have my moment.'” – Bonnm42
“NTA the one rule on a wedding day is you do what the bride asks.”
“You asked her not to steal your moment, she did it anyway.” – Big_Zucchini_9800
“NTA. Send her and your parents a bill for her baby reveal because that is what she turned it into and then temporarily block contact.”
“Your sister knew it would hurt and upstage you, and she did it anyway.”
“She wanted to hurt you, and she knew your parents would kiss her ass like always.”
“Tell everyone in your family that you had expressly asked that she not do that, and she went against your wishes.”
“It’s not selfish to have wanted ONE day to celebrate you and your new husband.”
“SHE is the selfish one and will always be the selfish one.”
“At HER baby shower, announce your pregnancy or something” – Rowana133
“NTA. Your wedding is your special day, not your sister’s pregnancy announcement extravaganza.”
“Save that for your next family gathering.” – GothicChica
“NTA”
“Go low/no contact with that b*tch and your parents.”
“You deserve better people around you.” – Trailsya
“NTA”
“Anyone who uses another person’s day to make it about themselves is an absolute piece of sh*t”
“Every. Single. Time.” – OctoWings13
“NTA. Agree with others, send her part of the bill.”
“She directly went against your wishes and made your wedding day about her, she’s a selfish b*tch.”
“If she doesn’t pay you anything, I would at least go LC and tell your parents why, or go NC tbh, doesn’t sounds like she’s much of a sister anyway.”
“And if your parents support her doing this, then f**k them too.”
“Hindsight is 20:20 but should have had MC cut off the microphone if she went for it.” – iknowsomethings2
“NTA. Your sister is used to being the center of attention, so she can’t see why what she did was wrong.”
“You have all the right to be upset and also go LC with her and your parents.”
“I be honest , I wouldn’t invite her or your parents for anything special because will never be about you.” – CakePhool
The OP definitely needs to consider how to move forward in her relationship with her sister, but her fellow Redditors agree she’s not in the wrong.