A lot of songs focus on love and commitment or the lack thereof.
But before any vows are uttered, should a woman stand by her man or say bye-bye-bye at the first sign of adversity?
A woman who opted for the former while her mother and sister campaigned fof the latter led to a family confrontation. A confrontation that the man in question found highly amusing.
After being criticized for his mirth, the man turned to the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit for feedback.
Crafty_Score4837 asked:
“AITA for laughing when my future mother-in-law (MIL) and (SIL) got chewed out by my fiancée?”
The original poster (OP) explained:
“I (27, male) am getting married to my fiancée (26, female) later this year. She’s an incredible woman and I’m the luckiest man alive to have her in my life.”
“Unfortunately, she comes attached to a very entitled and self-absorbed family. I genuinely don’t know how my fiancée ended up as amazing as she is with these people around.”
“The main players in this conflict are my future MIL (53, female) and SIL (24, female).”
“When my fiancée and I announced our engagement last year, SIL had a complete breakdown, throwing a full-on tantrum that she deserved to get married first and my fiancée should be forced to wait.”
“I was so confused by this reaction, but my fiancée just looked bored, which confused me even more. Apparently, her sister does this a lot when she feels she deserves something more than my fiancée.”
“MIL took SIL’s side, saying that dating wasn’t as easy for her. My fiancée always tells them off for being annoying and ridiculous, and they hate it, which is kind of funny to me.”
“So here’s where I need some help.”
“Three weeks ago, I got into a nasty car crash, and my left leg is broken in multiple places. The doctors say I’ll likely have a permanent limp even after I heal because of how bad the injury is, and I might even need a cane.”
“My fiancée is an absolute angel and has been by my side every step of the way. I’m going to need a couple different surgeries and some serious physical therapy before I can properly walk again, and she’s been pushing my wheelchair since I got home.”
“MIL and SIL stopped by yesterday, and that’s where the trouble is. SIL asked my fiancée when she would be leaving me.”
“Flat out while I was in the room.”
“MIL also chimed in, saying a wheelchair or cane would look horrible in wedding pictures, so it would be best for her to cancel and leave. I was horrified.”
“But I didn’t even get to open my mouth before my fiancée went absolutely ballistic at her mom and sister. She told them that they were delusional if they believed she was that shallow.”
“She kicked them out almost immediately saying she was done and over their BS. They both looked like they sucked on extra sour lemons.”
“I couldn’t help laughing at their expressions. This was apparently what did it for them, and they both huffed off, still insisting they were just looking out for my fiancée.”
“I laughed for a solid couple of minutes before calming down. My fiancée just looked so exhausted, so we had some cheer-up snuggles.”
“I’ve been getting messages from SIL all day saying that me laughing at them wanting my fiancée to not have to spend the rest of her life looking after me was completely uncalled for, and I’m an a**hole.”
“She makes it sound like I’m completely paralyzed and I’ll need 24/7 care until I die.”
“I don’t think I did anything wrong, but what do you guys think? Should I have kept my laughter to myself?”
“AITA?”
The OP summed up their situation.
“Am I the a**hole for laughing when my fiancée chewed out her mom and sister?”
Redditors weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Redditors decided the OP was not the a**hole (NTA).
“The only thing you’ve done wrong is not blocking these malignant morons’ numbers. NTA.”
“You could ask your fiancée how you can support her in her decision-making about her family, and maybe get her some flowers to say thank you for standing up for your relationship and generally being an awesome human.” ~ thfemaleofthespecies
“Should you have kept your laughter to yourself?”
“Well, they didn’t keep their stupidity, arrogance, and lack of empathy to themselves, so I guess you’re even.”
“NTA. Not by a long shot. Good luck with your recovery.” ~ Lex-tailonis
“They are acting ridiculously, therefore they deserve to be ridiculed. I’d be laughing at them every time they tried to pull this sh*t—provided my partner was OK with it.”
“It’s a better response than getting angry—it shows that you’re not fazed by their idiocy. NTA for laughing at self-absorbed idiots.” ~ Equivalent_Mode5378
“NTA, and I think you know it. People who say you’re mean or an a**hole for responding to their bad behavior are just narcissists.”
“Maybe the reason why the younger sister has a hard time dating is how she treats other people. You and your fiancée may not have said the ‘for better or worse, in sickness and in health’ vows yet, but you’re living them already.”
“I’d go very low contact (LC) or no contact (NC) with her family and focus on making your own together. Not just because you don’t deserve that drama, but it seems like she is upset over her family and their behavior.” ~ justanother1014
“NTA. But your fiancée needs to learn that just because she’s learned to cope with them, doesn’t mean she HAS to keep on coping.”
“The mental weight of their existence in her life isn’t worth it. Hopefully, she puts hard boundaries in place or goes LC/NC if those things are beneficial to her.” ~ Rohini_rambles
“To be clear, even if you’d been permanently paralyzed and needed 24/7 care, what they said would still be way out of line.”
“But I’m very glad that your injury wasn’t quite as bad, though it’s still horrible of course. Wishing you a speedy recovery.”
“And absolutely NTA. They’re very cruel people and I’d be blocking their numbers in a heartbeat.”
“I’d be booking my significant other a spa day for them to have a day of relaxation if I were you.” ~ canyonemoon
“You know how when you’re arguing with someone, and they run out of material to substantiate their points, they’ll start picking apart your tone? This is that.”
“I’m not saying they realized they’re in the wrong for what they said, but they did realize that the current situation makes them look bad. So they fixated on an invented offense that lets them cry victim. NTA.” ~ aledethanlast
“NTA. Did they totally forget that whole idea of in sickness and in health?”
“I can just see them suggesting to you that you leave your fiancée for the sister if your fiancée had gotten in the accident because she couldn’t be a real wife now.” ~ Forward-Wear7913
“I think it’s hysterical the younger daughter was having a hissy fit that the older sister was getting married first. When 200 years ago, the Elder had to get married before the younger could come out into society.”
“Too bad she didn’t tell her ‘well, you know I have to get married first because then you’re allowed to get out into society and be married, that’s how it works in aristocratic families and royalty’.”
“NTA. I would have laughed my butt off too.” ~
“NTA. Block. Delete. Remove from the guest list.” ~ Relative-Plastic5248
The OP provided an update.
“Hey y’all. This thing got a lot more attention than I thought it would, considering how dumb the whole situation is.”
“But I’m actually glad it did because I’ve been reading the comments with my fiancée, and we’re both seeing how f*cked up her mom and sister’s behavior actually is.”
“She said she hadn’t even thought about going no contact since she was just so used to their BS, but now we’re really talking about pulling the trigger.”
“MIL and SIL have also officially been uninvited from the wedding, which they did not take well, especially MIL. SIL is blocked on my phone now, but she and MIL still message my fiancée.”
“It’s a little hard for her to block them completely just yet, but we’ll keep working on it.”
“And for those of you who’ve asked where the father-in-law (FIL) was during all this, I don’t actually know. He divorced MIL a long time ago and doesn’t have contact with her or his daughters anymore.”
“My fiancée says she doesn’t care or miss him because he was just as bad as MIL and SIL.”
“Lastly for those asking, yes, I absolutely did spoil my fiancée later after they left. I already mentioned snuggles, but we also got her favorite take out and binged this new show she’s been wanting to check out.”
“It was actually really good. We can’t do much bedroom-wise right now, but I promise if I could, I would have.”
“I’m not sure if I’ll update again. Maybe if something significant happens. But until then, I have a surgery to prep for in the next two weeks.”
With all due respect to the OP’s future in-laws, sometimes the trash takes itself out.