Everyone has their own idea of how to be comfortable in their own homes, whether it’s what activities they partake in or how they dress.
But while we can accept that everyone’s tastes are different, that doesn’t mean we’re going to be relationship-compatible with everyone.
One guy recently discovered this on the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit.
Redditor Nakeddogg struggled with how his girlfriend chose to live inside of her home.
But when she became angry, the Original Poster (OP) wondered if he should have brought it up at all.
He asked the sub:
“AITA for being uncomfortable with my girlfriend being naked around her dog?”
The OP’s girlfriend loved being naked.
“My (33 [Male]) girlfriend (30) hates clothes.”
“To the point where she has actively researched nudists colonies and if it wasn’t for having to occasionally go into the office, she would have moved there long before she met me.”
“So, she’s always naked around the house. Which, for me? It’s h**la nice. She’s got a rockin’ bod.”
The OP struggled with his girlfriend’s relationship with her dog.
“The issue is her two-year-old dog. The dog is a super cute and fluffy Great Pyrenees, very well-trained, 10/10 a good girl.”
“My girlfriend was there when her friend brought the heavily pregnant mom home from the pound, was there at the birth, and fell in love immediately.”
“She sees that dog as the closest thing she’ll ever have to a kid due to medical issues.”
“However, my girlfriend is just always naked at home. Playing with the dog? Naked. Cuddling on the couch? Naked.”
“She keeps a slip dress by the door for walks, but otherwise, naked.”
“And it’s weird, right?”
The OP finally felt the need to bring it up.
“I tried to be subtle, but finally the other day I sat down with her and pointed out that yes, she’s trained the dog to not sniff human butts, but it’s still like something out of an illegal adult movie for her to be naked with an animal all the time.”
“Wow, she got p**sed, and asked me to leave.”
“I tried to talk sense into her, but she wasn’t listening to it.”
“I finally left her house, and once I got back to my apartment, I tried texting one of her friends, but she blew up at me, saying I was an a**.”
“My girlfriend is now radio silence.”
“Am I the a**hole here?”
The OP later clarified a few points.
“To answer questions, no, I’m not a troll, and I’m not jealous of a literal female dog.”
“I know my girlfriend isn’t doing anything, but it’s still weird.”
“I do see being naked as sexual, since the only times I’m fully naked are when I’m showering or, well, having sex.”
“I respect that my girlfriend doesn’t feel the same way, but I’ll get up to use the bathroom or something and come back to the dog in my spot on the couch, asleep with her head on my girlfriend’s naked thigh.”
“That’s just so weird? How is it not?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in:
- NTA: Not the A**hole
- YTA: You’re the A**hole
- ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
- NAH: No A**holes Here
Some said the OP was definitely the one with the problem, not the girlfriend or the dog.
“You made a very strange comment implying some sort of bestial or inappropriate relationship with a dog. Just… sit with that for a bit.”
“You doubled down instead of apologizing. She didn’t need it explained to her. She’s not dumb. She disagrees with your opinion.”
“She kicked you out. You, instead of accepting she didn’t want to talk to you, messaged a friend to try to get access to her. Creepy, dude. That’s creepy.”
“Yes, YTA.” – US_Justice_Apartment
“WTF (what the f**k), OP?”
“So if nudity is sexual, and she’s always nude, does he even treat her like a normal person while she’s undressed? Is he eyeballing her nakedness constantly, unable to concentrate while she’s talking to him?”
“In a nudist colony, they treat people the same whether or not they’re dressed. I’m willing to bet the girlfriend here has been assuming that her boyfriend respects her nudity without ogling and sexualizing her, and he just proved the opposite in the weirdest way.” – put_a_bird_on_it
“The ‘I tried to talk sense into her,’ OP, sounds like what you MEANT to say was: ‘I tried to make you wear clothes in the comfort of your own home because I have fragile feelings about your dog seeing you naked.'”
“The target for common sense getting into someone should actually be you.”
“The only reason I could possibly see for dissuading someone from nudity in their own home is in cases of emergency that require immediate evacuation- but sounds like she’s got that covered with keeping something close to the door.” – gettingLIT_erary
“So if the dog puts its head on her bare thigh while she’s wearing shorts or a bikini, it’s okay but bare thigh contact while she is naked is weird? Totally YTA.” – tikanique
“Did anybody else notice the ‘I get back and the dog’s in my spot, in contact with part of her always naked body’ line?”
“The dude sexualizes her so much, he’s anthropomorphizing her dog as a competitor. Holy moly.” – Walouisi
Others questioned what the OP didn’t see in his girlfriend.
“I can’t get over how much this dude lucked out: a girlfriend with an incredible dog who likes to be naked all the time.”
“And he ruins it by projecting some bestiality paranoia all over her and then goes to her friend about it?!”
“Hope she moves to that nudist colony and lives her best life.” – Flower-of-Telperion
“So this good-looking woman with a fun dog who also likes being nude all the time is now single? I call dibs!” – mad87645
“That’s what gets me. She loves to be naked, has an amazing dog, and he’s trying to sexualize the relationship. Like, seriously dude? YTA, OP.” – MaleficientVision626
Some even said the OP was likely single now.
“Something tells me he doesn’t have a girlfriend anymore.” – thisgirliusedtoknow
“If someone tried to imply that about me and my dogs, they’d be dodging heavy objects while they flee to their car.” – RubyRedSunset
“OP is so blatantly out of touch. Ex GF is realizing that he’s been sexualizing her this whole time instead of existing.”
“I expect to see an update where OP is super salty: ‘Well, you can be happy now because she broke up with me. Still don’t think I was wrong but whatever.'” – modernwunder
Based on the feedback from the subReddit, the OP seriously blew this one out of proportion and likely lost his relationship. Too bad he didn’t reach out to the subReddit first, asking if he would be TA if he brought this up.