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Bride Cancels Wedding And Kicks Fiancé Out After Going Through His Bachelor Party Photos

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Bachelor and bachelorette parties receive mixed reactions and for good reasons.

While some people are going out to celebrate their upcoming wedding days, others use the opportunity to do everything they think they’ll be trapped out of doing once they’re married, cringed the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITAH) subReddit.

Redditor Foreign_Slice8964 was enjoying a quiet bachelorette party when countless posts appeared on social media of her future husband’s much wilder bachelor party.

But when his behavior became increasingly lewd and unfaithful, the Original Poster (OP) decided enough was enough.

She asked the sub:

“AITAH for breaking off my wedding because of my fiancé’s bachelor party?”

The OP’s future husband behaved questionably at his bachelor party.

“My fiancé and I have been together for two years.”

“It was our wedding eve and I was having my bachelorette party and he was having his bachelor party.”

“My bachelorette party was just a little thing with some of my girlfriends and family at my home with drinks that the family put together for me.”

“On the other hand, my fiancé’s bachelor party was at a bar with a huge party (which is perfectly fine with me).”

“Halfway into my party, my friend ran up to me with a video of my fiancé getting a lap dance from one of the girls there. Then she showed the next video (these were on Snapchat stories), and that video showed my fiancé licking a mixed drink off of a girl’s breast. Then there was another video of him making out with a girl and then another girl right after her.”

“I was upset and confronted my fiancé about it when he got home the day of our wedding.”

“He got all defensive and said, ‘It’s what guys do on their bachelor party nights. It’s the last night we have to be single, babe.'”

“He was hungover and I was furious because I understand, but you don’t just go making out with girls and licking drinks off their breasts.”

What the OP witnessed next was the final straw.

“I just decided to try to forget it and go on with the wedding, but when he was in the shower, his phone kept going off.”

“We have a rule where we don’t go through each other’s phones unless there’s a reason and we have to let the other person know if we are going through them.”

“I wasn’t going to touch it but it kept going off with people sending him photos on his phone from the night before, so I decided to look at the videos to see if I missed anything.”

“His phone was full of photos of my fiancé in bed with TWO girls with NO clothes.”

“I turned his phone off, went in the bathroom, and I told him the wedding was off and that I needed time to process what happened.”

“He asked why and I said, ‘Look at your phone and see.'”

“He then changed the whole subject and went insane over the searching phones rule.”

“I told him boyfriends don’t f**k other girls just because it’s their last night as not a husband.”

“He cussed me out and then begged for me to keep the wedding on.”

“I walked out and said no.”

The family lashed out at the OP for canceling the wedding.

“It’s been two days now, and his family is upset with me because I called off the wedding too close to the wedding and ruined their son’s day.”

“Everyone who was at my bachelorette party is on my side, saying it’s his fault and he needs to realize he’s in the wrong.”

“Should I talk to him about it and reschedule the wedding? I do love him, but I’m not sure if this was a red flag that can lead into the future with him.”


Fellow Redditors weighed in:

  • NTA: Not the A**hole
  • YTA: You’re the A**hole
  • ESH: Everybody Sucks Here
  • NAH: No A**holes Here

Some confirmed for the OP that this totally qualified as cheating.

“You know what I didn’t do at my bachelor party? Cheat on my wife. I wasn’t even around women; a bunch of my friends and I just got drunk at a bowling alley and it was a blast.”

“This type of behavior isn’t something that just happens once. He’s done it before and he’ll do it again.” – McbEatsAirplane

“NTA, he CHEATED on you under the excuse that ‘It’s just what guys do’ at their bachelor parties (which, it’s not if they have any respect for you) and is lovebombing you and gaslighting you into staying.”

“If you marry this man, he will 100% cheat on you again, and again it won’t be his fault but the fault of the situation (ex. You didn’t pay attention to him when he needed it, he had a stressful day at work, he was drunk, etc.).”

“He will continue to do this until you eventually leave him or make yourself settle for him. This will not be a happy and healthy relationship for you and will only benefit him in the end, so get out while you can.” – PenWeary

“I’ve had two bachelor parties. I never slept with or even kissed anyone else, although the first one did include a trip to a strip club, with full knowledge and permission from my fiancee and agreed upon things that were okay vs not okay to do there. I’ve also been to a bunch of other people’s bachelor parties and none of them have slept with anyone else either.”

“Cheating on their soon-to-be wives isn’t something ‘guys do,’ it’s something the stereotypical toxic bro character does in movies. There’s a reason for that. If he thinks it’s okay to cheat on you the night before your wedding it is definitely not going to be the last time he cheats on you.” – Chaos-1313

“NTA. ‘…It’s the last night we have to be single…’ so, according to him, you guys haven’t been in a relationship this entire time?”

“Hopefully, you can get some refunds on short notice. It really sucks this happened, but it’s best you find out now.” – LTColeShinySides

“LOL (laughing out loud)… Should you go through with the wedding? Do you… want to sign up for a lifetime of being disrespected and cheated on?”

“Sure, go ahead with the wedding. A guy who would cheat on you before the wedding isn’t going to stop because you have a party. It wasn’t his ‘last night’ to be with someone else. His last night to be with someone else was when he committed to you, the wedding is irrelevant.” – ResurrectionScary

Others agreed and urged the OP to move on… and to get tested. 

“Get tested for STDs. A guy like this did not just cheat on you on his bachelor party night.” – MaryAnne0601

“NTA. Why the heck would anyone marry someone who just cheated on them multiple times in one night? It’s not a last night to be single, that’s absurd. He was never single.”

“I think you’ve dodged a gigantic bullet here and I’d also go get an STD check.” – Outside-Ad-1677

“Him getting a lapdance and going to a strip club ALONE would be enough for me to call off the wedding. Much less him being sexually involved with other people.”

“He CHEATED on you. Even before you saw him with two naked girls, it was cheating. I’m glad you decided to take out the trash by kicking him out of your life. Please get tested!”

“Also, the ‘it’s my last night being single’ mindset is toxic and disgusting as f**k, to be honest. If you’re about to get married, there is nothing single about you.” – livingstone97

“At first, I was like, oh whatever, he licked drinks (I’d be p**sed but could work through it), but then it just got progressively worse and his response was insane as he was gaslighting you for breaking the phone rules when he literally cheated on you…”

“I don’t understand why guys say ‘it’s my last night being single’ when b***h, you weren’t single ever since you started dating me, so men who do that before marriage are VERY LIKELY to do it during marriage. You just dodged a bullet there.”

“His family and friends have no reason to be upset with you if they know the truth. If they don’t, I think it’s fair to tell everyone and anyone to shame him because cheaters don’t deserve to get away with it.”

“Def tell him to pack up as your planning to do and kick his a** out, you deserve so much better girl and I know you’re going to get that one day soon! Get tested, so there aren’t any surprises to ruin your new, happy life.” – Capital_Team_3352

“Just one data point: I, as a guy, had a bachelor ‘party,’ and it was absolutely nothing like that… no infidelity or anything even remotely close to it.”

“Holy S**t about him in bed with two other women! I would ay he’s the a**hole based on your story.”

“I would not allow him to have the high road with his family if they are giving you s**t. Tell them what you found on the phone.” – Chulbiski

“NTA. It’s not his last night of being single if he’s been in a two-year relationship and is ENGAGED. He is the epitome of NOT SINGLE.”

“HE CHEATED. I would get an STD test. You’ve no idea how far he went.”

“Love to see that you’re canceling the wedding and kicking him out.” – 1ofdwights70cousins

After receiving feedback, the OP stood up for herself. 

“I’ve thought about it and read the comments, and I’m going to have a talk with him to move his things out of the house. I am the one who bought the house and pays the bills on it.”

“I don’t want him in my life and the comments made me realize it was a huge mistake to even think of putting the wedding back on.”

“Thank you for your advice.”

The subReddit was disgusted on the OP’s behalf for how her ex-boyfriend had treated her and how little he valued their relationship.

It was clear that he thought very little of faithfulness in their relationship, and it was best for the OP to walk away and start fresh before she had to file divorce paperwork.

Written by McKenzie Lynn Tozan

McKenzie Lynn Tozan has been a part of the George Takei family since 2019 when she wrote some of her favorite early pieces: Sesame Street introducing its first character who lived in foster care and Bruce Willis delivering a not-so-Die-Hard opening pitch at a Phillies game. She's gone on to write nearly 3,000 viral and trending stories for George Takei, Comic Sands, Percolately, and ÜberFacts. With an unstoppable love for the written word, she's also an avid reader, poet, and indie novelist.