Parents have different ways of calming their kids when they experience vulnerable moments.
But one parent was harshly criticized by his sister who was more concerned about what others might think.
Redditor oddsituation111 is a 24-year-old single father who has a deeply affectionate son.
When he was confronted by his sister about something she thought was inappropriate, he visited the “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) subReddit and asked:
“AITA for telling my sister to stop being perv and keep thoughts to herself?”
The Original Poster (OP) wrote:
“I got a 4 year old son Jackson, my ex girlfriend hasn’t been around since he was over 2 so it’s only me n him.”
“He super affectionate with everyone, he gives me like a million hugs and kisses everyday lol.”
“Sometimes at night he comes to my room because he’s scared or just misses me and I let him sleep with me. He doesn’t do it a lot usually when he has a bad dream.”
“But we just moved to another apartment this month and he’s still scared of sleeping alone in his new room even with his night light on. Most nights he comes to my room to sleep.”
“My sister came over on Friday so kids could have a movie night. It got late so they slept on the couch.”
“I put Jackson in his room then went to bed. He woke me up in the night to ask if he could sleep in my bed so I lifted the covers and let him sleep there.”
“In morning my sister came to my room ask if I wanted to order breakfast for the kids. Then she saw Jackson sleeping with me.”
“She didn’t say nothing but when I was in the kitchen she told me that was really ‘inappropriate.’”
“I ask what was and she said that Jackson was sleeping with me in my bed. And I ‘need to be careful’ because people will get the wrong idea.”
“Then with me always hugging him and letting him give me kisses on the cheek. Seriously wtf. I asked her what’s wrong with it and to her it didn’t seem right that I’m his dad, not his mom so it’s weird.”
“Like even her husband doesn’t do that with their son. She also pointed out our dad wasn’t like that either with me (kinda why I’m tryna be different with my son).”
“To me it just sounded crazy. It just bothered me a lot that her mind would even go there over my son literally just sleeping in my room because he’s 4 years old and scared of the dark.”
“I called her out an said stop bein a f’king pervert just because her husband acts different with their kids and mind her business nxt time.”
“She got quiet after and we didn’t talk. Later she did text me some sh*t that she’s sorry for looking out for us and expressing what she felt was not appropriate or something like that.”
“Idk why she went to my mom about it because now she thinks I shouldn’t call my sister stuff like that when she just felt it’s weird I’m affectionate with my son like that, then the letting him sleep with me.”
“My sister feels I should apologize for snapping and calling her that but I don’t see why I’d need to. AITA?”
Strangers on the internet were asked to declare one of the following:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Redditors saw no problem with the OP for comforting his kid by letting him sleep with him.
“NTA, unquestionably. You are the only parent in your son’s life, and your sister expects you to deprive him of affection because… you’re a man? Ridiculous. She can kick rocks.” – hafufrog
“Exactly! also, even if the boy did have a mom, there is nothing wrong with father-son affection. in fact it is good and healthy.”