If there’s one constant in this world that always seems to be reliably dramatic, it would be the tense relationship between a married woman and her mother-in-law.
When you factor a new baby into the mix, the opportunities for that tension to escalate can grow exponentially.
But if a husband steps in to take sides rather than act as a peacekeeper, when do his actions cross a line?
Redditor and new dad ImportantBox4483 recently sparked some drama with his mom, so he turned to the subReddit “Am I the A**hole” to see if he was in the wrong.
“AITA for showing my wife an embarrassing video of my mom?”
The original poster (OP) started off by explaining his mom’s strained relationship with his wife.
“My mom can be kind of b*tchy to my wife. I don’t tolerate it, and we are working on boundaries, but right now it is a work in progress.”
After meeting his new son, the OP’s mom had a little mishap while helping out.
“I have a beautiful three-month-old son, who my mom met a month ago. My wife went out for some alone time when my mom came over.”
“My mom offered to change his diaper, and since I am a totally exhausted new parent I let her.”
“I was videoing him, just because everything he does is totally awe-inspiring and video-worthy right now, and my brilliant son, with great aim, pissed all over her, the face, the hair, it was glorious.”
At first the OP’s mom played it off like a champ.
But not for long.
“Ok so my mom reacted like a normal person. She has had kids. Sh*t happens.”
“I told her that I got it on video, and again she wasn’t upset or anything, and then she became very angry and demanded that I not show my wife.”
“I told her to lighten up, it will probably happen to both of us some day, and my mom insisted that I do not show my wife. Ok mom whatever.”
The OP immediately went back on his word, and it didn’t go over well with his mom.
“Well of course I showed my wife. Being a new mom is insanely hard and I knew it would make her laugh.”
“My mom asked me, so I was honest and she will not speak to me. It has been four weeks and she will not respond.”
“I know she is alive because of social media. My wife agrees with me that she is being a drama queen but now I feel kind of bad.”
Redditors then gave their opinions on the situation by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many called out the OP for only exacerbating the tension between his wife and his mom.
“You can compartmentalize your relationship with your wife and your relationship with your mother. But you’re the one mixing the two and exacerbating the acrimony between the two.”