Pets are a part of the family.
Some pets, such as dogs are also a lot like little children.
So they have to be cared for and looked after responsibly.
Or tragedy can happen under heavy circumstances.
Case in point…
Redditor mydogismygod0 wanted to discuss his experience and get some feedback. So naturally, he came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
He asked:
“AITA for cancelling my wedding because fiancee almost got my dog killed?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“Me (28 M[ale]) and fiancée (27 F[emale]) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months.”
“I also have a 7-year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.”
“On Saturday, my fiancée had a bachelorette party at home.”
“I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there.”
“However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.”
“5 AM on Sunday I get a frantic call that something’s wrong with the dog.”
“She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic.”
“When I got there, she looked like she hadn’t stopped crying for hours and she couldn’t even speak.”
“Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well.”
“I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor.”
“But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles.”
“The girls apparently thought it would be cool to leave everything out on short coffee tables, leave the dog to wander around instead of putting him in our bedroom.”
“And then get wasted and not notice he was going to town with the booze and edibles.”
“When we got home, I told my fiancée to pack and get out of my house and my life.”
“I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I’ll tell mine.”
“She was shocked, but she took her things and left.”
“2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother’s wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years.”
“They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me.”
“The logical thing for me to do was look for comfort in my friends and family. Nope.”
“They all f**king agree.”
“My mom said: ‘Well, it was a mistake, she didn’t do it on purpose, besides – the dog didn’t die!'”
“Lucky me, eh? My dog didn’t f**king die!”
“My sister was appalled that I canceled the wedding ‘over that?!'”
“And even my best man said I might have overreacted.”
“Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it’s mostly worked fine.”
“But I am so disgusted at my fiancée that I can’t even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her.”
“She isn’t f**king 17, she is 27!”
“By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done.”
“She likes to text while driving.”
“She always leaves stuff on the electric stove, like kitchen towels, the cutting board etc.”
“Even though she has turned on the wrong burner and burnt whatever was on it several times in the past, and similar DANGEROUS things.”
“It’s not something I hold against her in the sense that I would ever mention in a fight.”
“But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried that she might end up killing herself or someone else.”
“For example, my dog.”
“I’m 99% sure I will stand by my decision.”
“But literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think.”
“But am I really an a**hole?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared ESH, so there seems to be more than one AH.
“She clearly doesn’t mean that much to you, so yeah, leave over this.”
“I have a cat whom I adore beyond reason and if my current boyfriend accidentally hurt him, I’d be pissed and upset but your dog isn’t dead.”
“If he’s more important than your woman, that relationship is doomed.”
“I’ve been in a relationship where I would have chosen my cat over them.”
‘That is not a good relationship.” ~ sanfordclark
“It sounds like OP is also concerned about a series of careless and dangerous carelessness.”
“Would you say the same if it was a child?” ~ Blackstar1401
“Yeah, but if it was a child everyone would realize that OP shares liability as well.”
“Locking a dog in a room all night isn’t usually going to work out well on a good day especially not when there are a ton of people partying outside the door.”
“Mix in it’s really hard to take care of a dog while drinking and partying and this was a clear recipe for disaster.”
“ESH OP showed poor judgment as well.” ~ Scion41790
“NTA. She is 27.”
“Old enough to care for the health and safety of others.”
“But as you pointed out, it’s not about the dog (the breakup), this incident was the final warning sign you refused to ignore.”
“The reality is she isn’t going to be able to responsibly walk through life without someone like you who agrees to watch all of the details and be willing to ignore the occasional safety slip-ups.”
“Is she A[ttention]-D[eficit]/H[yperactivity] D[isorder].”
“Possibly, but that requires a medical diagnosis and treatment.”
“You leaving her is a chance for your life to be lived without needing to be ever watchful over her next mishap.”
“Good for you for protecting your future safety and that of your children.”
“Tell anyone that is fretting, you’ve made the best decision for you, and would appreciate respecting your decision.” ~ PerkyLurkey
“YTA. People make mistakes, and over the course of a lifetime of marriage there are going to be a lot worse than letting the dog out of your room during a party.”
“If your immediate response is to turn to blame and anger, and to take things to the most extreme possible response – ending the engagement – you’re not ready for marriage.”
“Or did you think the part of the vows about loving each other for better or for worse meant ‘until she screws up?'” ~ grizwald87
“Eh, I’m going to say it’s not that hard to watch a dog partying at all or to keep even an annoying dog put away.”
“I have two huge, annoying, friendly dogs that love my friends, food, and booze.”
“When we get too trashed to babysit them we let them go potty and then lock them up with some new toys and enjoy the night.”
“Even then, we’ve had dogs out while wasted and never had one get into anything worse than a bowl of popcorn because we’ve all had dogs before, know they get into sh*t and watch them.”
“I could understand if she let the dog eat a single edible accidentally or he drank some small amount of alcohol before people noticed, but the dog got pretty damn wasted.”
“Everyone had to be completely ignoring him or more likely encouraging it, and if it’s the latter then that’s f**ked up.”
“I’ve never been so drunk or high I fed chocolate edibles to ANY animal.”
“NTA. It was an incredibly stupid move and I don’t think I would be able to date someone that irresponsible either.”
“I agree there’s probably more to it or she doesn’t mean that much to him, but it’s incredibly important to me that my animals are safe and I would leave someone over something this irresponsible too.”
“It also would be a lot easier to leave, in my opinion, if all her friends and relatives immediately insulted you.”
“Besides if she’s this negligent partying there could be a lot worse that ends up happening.”
“I’ve been able to leave my wife and her friends alone to party without the world burning.”
“I can’t imagine the stress of basically having a toddler that can make legal decisions alone with alcohol. I wouldn’t want to marry into that either.” ~ Broski225
“ESH – and reading through your replies to most people it seems you’ve got a lot of issues with your partner’s behavior, and you were possibly looking for a good enough reason in your head to end it.”
“I hazard a guess that if everything you’ve listed has been getting to you over time, the marriage would not have lasted long after that.” ~ _Diskreet_
“ESH. She sucks for being careless and irresponsible, texting and driving, leaving things on the burner, etc.”
“But you know she is a super careless person, continued to date her, and left your dog with her.”
“Leaving a dog with a careless person is just as irresponsible.”
“Though, not having this trust and compatibility just clarifies you two shouldn’t be together.” ~ cdjuw28bs
OP came back with a few things to say…
“Posting here kind of triggered me, to conclude this isn’t about the dog at all.”
“She is negligent and irresponsible and I don’t want to stick around and possibly see our child die in a car accident someday because she was texting or she forgot to put his seat belt on.”
“I’d rather be an a**hole now than spend years of my life worrying every time our child is left alone with her.”
“If she’d accidentally killed a person while texting and driving, I would also leave her.”
“I guess I realized I don’t want to spend my life with someone who has such blatant disregard for human (or animal) life.”
If nothing else, you’re doing what you think is best for you.
That’s all you can do.
Good luck and here’s hoping for a full recovery for your precious pooch.