Being part of a couple doesn’t always mean that you’ll share the same romantic interests.
Indeed, sometimes you might love someone in spite of the fact that they don’t share your love of certain foods, films or music, and vice versa.
For most couples, this isn’t a persistent issue, for others, however, it might remain a lingering point of contention.
A recent Redditor constantly frustrated their boyfriend for refusing to eat cheese.
In spite of the fact that they were allergic.
But the original poster (OP)’s allergy still wasn’t enough to sway their boyfriend, who attempted to force them to eat cheese without their realizing it.
Something the OP didn’t appreciate one bit.
Wondering if they handled the situation appropriately, the OP took to the subReddit “Am I The A**hole” (AITA), where they asked fellow Redditors:
“AITA for ‘forcing’ my boyfriend to do the dishes?”
The OP shared how they caught their partner sneaking cheese into their food, and felt there was only one fitting punishment.
“I’m lactose intolerant.”
“Every time I make tacos, my boyfriend always makes jokes about how I’m ‘disrespecting Mexican culture’ by not having cheese in my tacos.”
“I’ve told him multiple times I’m not going to give myself the shits just to make him feel better about my friggin’ tacos.”
“He’s not even Mexican, he’s White.”
“This came to a head last night when we were having tacos again.”
“I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I came back, I noticed my taco looked tampered with. I go to inspect, and lo and behold, there’s fucking cheese buried underneath the other ingredients.”
“I told my boyfriend he was a raging douchecanoe and went to bed, leaving him to do the cleanup.”
“I still haven’t spoken to him all morning, and he’s complaining about how I ‘forced’ him to do the dishes, because normally I do them. AITA here?”
Fellow Redditors weighed in on where they believed the OP fell in this particular situation by. declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
The Reddit community. agreed that the OP was in no way the a**hole for making her boyfriend do the dishes after he snuck cheese into her tacos.
Everyone agreed that her boyfriend was being thoughtless and malicious, not to mention dangerous, with many wondering why the OP was staying in the relationship.
“You make dinner.”
“And clean.”
“And he’s an ass about your medical condition?”
“What redeeming qualities does this boy have?”
“NTA.”- detronlove
“NTA.”
“Your boyfriend is an asshole and an idiot to boot.”
“Not all tacos in Mexico are eaten with cheese, arguably the majority do not have cheese.” FunOnAita
“I’m trying to imagine what keeps you with a guy who can’t respect a very basic thing about you that you couldn’t change even if you wanted to.”
“There’s so much more wrong here than his sulking about the dishes, for which you are most certainly NTA.”- WinsomeAnlussom
“NTA.”
“Dump his a** for trying to poison you.”- allmycorckpots
“NTA.”
“He tampered with your food.”
:Also, real tacos don’t have cheese, the idiot ‘disrespecting Mexican culture’ is him smh.”- eliiZmel
“NTA.”
“But is this really the relationship you want to be in?”
“Do Mexicans use cheese in taco?”
“I thought that was a western addition?”
“He tried to make you ill.”
“He should be glad you aren’t forcing him to clean the toilet after you accidentally ate cheese.”-Cautious_Potential35
“NTA.”
“Your boyfriend tried to give you food that makes you sick.”
“He‘s an a**hole.”- tiacalypso
“NTA sounds like you need to dump him?”
“Also, does he even know what authentic Mexican tacos are?”
“Pretty sure cheese isn’t in them.”- MadeInHB
“NTA.”
“Dump him, find a man who doesn’t have the maturity level of a preteen, and does his own damn dishes.”- 010997jk
“NTA.”
“Wtf?”
“Traditional tacos don’t even have cheese on them.”
:So one: your bf is a dumb ass, two: even if they did, who tf cares and three, what is wrong with your bf?”
“Why would you be with someone who thinks it’s okay for you to be digestive distress all night?”
“I’m now questioning your sanity for being with someone who acts like a 4yo.”- travellingdink
“NTA.”
“He is a grown man, he should actually wash the dishes just like you.”
“Also, when he is doing shit like that, he shouldn’t wonder that you get upset.”- Princess__of__cute
“NTA.”
“Not even vaguely.”
“He hid something you are allergic to in your fricken food.”
“That is not someone you can be safe with, or will put your health first, or respects you at all.”-Music_withRocks_In
“NTA.”
“Your boyfriend tried to poison you.”
“Just putting that out there.”- Madam_Cholet
“NTA.”
“Oh that’s just the beginning.”
“Theres a lot of other things you’ll be doing yourself until you apologize, and I believe you are sincere.”
“And I’m not going to let you pretend I didn’t say the sincere part, so I’m putting extra emphasis by saying this.”
“And you should consider this a generous decision, because I should be leaving your ass for trying to poison me.”- amitathrows
“NTA.”
“Never okay to f*ck with someone else’s food.”
“Especially not okay when that ‘f*cking’ with results in them ingesting something they medically cannot have.”
“They are all kinds of categories your BF falls under here, disrespectful, stupid, childish.”
“Dump his a**.”-TogarSucks
“Omg dump him.”
“This is not a joke.”
“Dump him if he thought that was funny at best or if he was being vindictive for whatever horrible reason.”- sushmith31
“NTA. throw the food-tampering bf OUT.”
“He’s willing to make you SICK just so he feels..better, superior, vindicated.”- scratch-meowt
“NTA.”
“But you are a doormat.”
“First, he is as responsible for the dishes as you are, because you know, that‘s how adulting works.”
“Second, he has zero respect for you and your body.”
“Dump him.”- mydoghiskid
“NTA.”
“Your boyfriend doesn’t sound like a nice person.”- radioactive_koala
“He jokingly messed with your food allergy and put you at risk for serious pain.”
“How old is he?”
“NTA.”- mangababe
“So.”
“You make the tacos and then clean after so my question is: what exactly is he doing?”
“Other than try to poison you of course.”
“NTA.”- RikMoscoso
“NTA.”
“Also Douchecanoe is hilarious I will be stealing that thank you.”- patdaddy0420
“Mexican here.”
“Putting cheese in tacos is totally a western thing.”
“Lol.”
“NTA.”- digitalpickles
“NTA.”
“No, his tampering effects your body, you choose what you put into your body.”
“Doing the dishes every once in awhile won’t kill him.”- MaybeaBabydoll
“Your boyfriend is a huge a**hole.”
“Tampering with someone’s food and putting something in it that you KNOW will make them sick is unacceptable.”
“Tbh for me that would be a breakup worthy offense, he should be damn glad all you did was make him do the dishes.”
“NTA by a long shot.”- badb-crow
“He must be one of those ‘you don’t have an allergy, you just don’t like it’ people.”
“He is not the food police.”
“NTA OP.”
“He should be grateful his only punishment was the dishes.”- amoamareamaviamatus
“Let me get this straight- you cook the food, do the dishes resulting from said food and your boyfriend doesn’t even allow you to eat it in peace?”
“He tampers with your food and is okay basically mildly poisoning you?”
“NTA but holy sh*t does he suck.”- Medium_Person
“First of all, your boyfriend is so wrong lmao.”
“Traditional tacos don’t have cheese on them.”
“But also, you’re NTA.”
“You don’t fuck with people’s food to begin with but even more so when it’s a food allergy or intolerance.”
“That’s literally like the cardinal unspoken rule that nobody should need to be reminded of ever.”
“You don’t tamper with somebody’s food or drink ever.”
“He should help you out more to begin with OP.”- bruhhrrito
“NTA.”
“Your boyfriend is the A for playing with your food.”- Elfmen
“NTA and this post should be about your ex boyfriend.”- mlfern90
“NTA.”
“The proper comparison would be if you made him chocolate ex lax cookies.”
“He should be grateful that the dishes are all you wanted.”- txdatapro
“NTA.”
“Leave him this is controlling.”- throwra5363
“NTA and why are you with this person?”
“That’s abuse plain and simple.”
“Time to move on.”- MsBaseball34
“NTA.”
“Leave him before he kills you for a joke.”- AmbivalentAsshole
“Why are you with someone who is so inconsiderate.”
“He did something incredibly cruel for absolutely no reason.”
“Then he has the gall to complain to you about the dishes?”
NTA obviously.”- Race-Carr
We’ve all experienced our parents sneaking certain foods into our dinner, to make us realize we might actually like something we thought we hated.
The OP didn’t simply dislike cheese, however, but was allergic to it.
Making the actions of their boyfriend fairly dangerous.
One can only hope that the OP’s boyfriend realizes that she should, indeed, have felt lucky that his only consequence was doing dishes.
As these might be the last tacos the two of them ever shared.