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Guy Goes Off On Overweight Sister Who Keeps Making ‘Snide’ Comments About His Weight Loss

Man sitting at a dining table and shouting

Weight is a sensitive issue.

Whether one is overweight, underweight or all things in between; there are ways to do discuss this.

The problem can be that people have different approaches to how they want to chat about the issue.

Case in point…

Redditor Prestigious-Taco wanted to discuss his experience and get some feedback. So naturally, he came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.

He asked:

“AITA for blowing up at my stepsister at her comments about my lost weight?”

The Original Poster (OP) explained:

“My stepsister (20 F[emale]) and I (24 M[ale]) have never gotten along.”

“Her mom and my dad got married when we were six and ten so we’ve known each other for a long time.”

“In my stepmom’s eyes, she could do no wrong and anything bad that happened was pinned on me.”

“My dad is a complete pushover so he would always fall over to whatever my stepmom would say.”

“When I was about 15, I started gaining weight.”

“My G[irl]F[riend] broke up with me (woohoo high school romance).”

“I started failing some of my classes, and I quit baseball.”

“I started to stress-eat and ballooned up from 125 pounds to 162.”

“I guess at that point she decided she was ‘cooler’ than I was and started mocking me and making fun of me, calling me names like ‘fata**’ and ‘chubster.'”

“I would constantly go to my stepmom about it and she would tell me she’s just teasing, she’s so much younger, why are you getting upset?”

“I got pissed off to the point where I just started avoiding her and locking myself upstairs in my room with a bag of chips.”

“At 22 I hit 270 pounds and I knew I had gone too far.”

“I was way past my weight limit and bordering on obese.”

“So as a New Year’s resolution, I decided to start losing weight.”

“I cut out all junk food and started hitting the gym.”

“Around this time my stepsister started to overeat too, I don’t really know why but she gained over 30 pounds.”

“She still was constantly belittling me about my weight (which admittedly, was way over hers).”

“By the end of this year, I lost 120 lbs. It felt amazing.”

“My stepsister now weighed more than me.”

“Over Christmas dinner, all the aunts and uncles and cousins were complimenting me on my weight loss, telling me how I looked so much better.”

“My stepsister just sat there smoldering.”

“Every time someone said something she’d add, ‘He’s still pretty big, Well he didn’t get rid of that face roundness, Maybe lose a little more around that gut.'”

“It was infuriating and I was getting angrier.”

“Now here’s where I might be TA.”

“Finally, at her last little snide, ‘Look, you know you’ll just put it all back on. Why do you even bother?'”

“I flipped out. I yelled, ‘Why can’t you just be happy for me, instead of getting on me for every little thing?'”

“She said back to me, ‘Defensive much?'”

“‘Oh, I’m sorry. Did I hurt your 200-pound feelings?'”

“I asked her.”

“I probably should have stopped there but I kept going.”

“‘Calling me a fata**. Look at your plate! You’ve eaten half the table, fatty!'”

“She started crying and left the table.”

“My stepmom screamed at me, saying just because I was insecure I can’t take it out on everyone.”

“I said, ‘Oh, so now you’re talking. Not in the past ten years of constant ‘fatty’ and ‘lardass’ and ‘porker!'”

“‘But you’re way older!’ she whined.”

“I left the table too and went home.”

“I woke up today to a thousand messages from my stepmom, my dad, and my stepsister.”

“They were saying I wasn’t welcome to their house until I apologized.”

“I’m not going to.”

“So AITA?”

Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:

  • NTA – Not The A**hole
  • YTA – You’re The A**hole
  • NAH – No A**holes Here
  • ESH – Everyone Sucks Here

Many Redditors declared OP was NOT the A**hole.

“Technically I have to give the judgment of ESH, but good for you for standing up for yourself.”

“I think you said what needed to be said.”  ~ rcathar20

“Yup, ESH here.”

“But OP is a justified AH, very justified. OP – ignore stepmom and stepsister.”

“Your dad really sucks if he has never stuck up for you and is now sticking up for step-sister.”

“Don’t have enough info to say whether it might be worth keeping a relationship with dad or better to cut him out completely.”

“I wish you all the best and also CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss!”

“That is so fantastic!”

“It is a tough journey and I really hope none of this derails you from keeping yourself healthy and happy.”  ~ voodoolady88

“OP doesn’t suck here.”

“From an outsiders perspective I don’t look at this and see in any way OP was the a**hole, you don’t have to let yourself be abused for years and years to avoid being an a**hole.”

“The only person in the wrong is the stepsister, stepmother, and dad.”

“They’re all a**holes.”

“OP is the only one not an as**hole and there’s no way you can justify him not standing up to his emotional abusers. NTA 100%.”  ~ REDDIT

“NTA, and ask your idiotic family members why it’s perfectly fine for your stepsister to be rude and abusive to you.”

“But when the tables are turned and she’s on the receiving end of the abuse, suddenly you’re the bad guy?”

“Also tell your AH stepmother that four years is not a huge age difference.”

“And that she should know, as an adult and someone who’s significantly older than you, that there’s no appropriate age to allow bullying and rudeness to take place.”  ~ cassandracurse

“I think you’re justified and I don’t think you have to apologize.”

“Well maybe if your step sister also apologized.”

“But what you said and did was a**hole behavior.”

“I say that because you could have got your point across in a more civil, calm way.”

“’You have been making fun of my weight for years.'”

“‘Now that I’ve finally lost weight you continue to belittle me.'”

“‘Why are you so mean to me?'”

“‘I’ve never commented on your weight gain despite your rude comments to me.'”

“‘I would never put you through what you continue to put me through.'”

“That would convey the same message (I noticed you got fat too) but wouldn’t be a**holish I think.”

“It would be a fair and mature response.”

“Does she deserve that level of respect? Probably not.”

“But this sub is not, ‘Was I in the right?'”  ~ WunWegWunDarWun_

“Damn. NTA OP.”

“She’s basically mentally abused you for years and the one time you chose to fight back you got the shit end of the stick yet again from them.”

“At this point in your life you’re old enough to make decisions who is OK in your life and who is NOT ok in your life.”

“Sometimes it’s much easier to not have some ‘family’ members in your life even though it seems it would be a difficult thing to do.”

“You don’t have to be around them if you don’t want to, and no you don’t have to communicate with that evil B step sister or the step mother.”

“Time to move forward and make your own life and make your own family of friends and people that respect you.”  ~ chulzle

“NTA. That ‘much younger’ defense is out the window at this point.”

“If you’re 15 and they said ‘she’s younger’ then they say the same thing when she herself is 20 years old.. na, f**k that.”

“She’s grown enough to have to deal with repercussions of her actions.”

“If I were you I wouldn’t give in a single bit.”

“This is actually good for her, to learn that you can’t just say and do any disrespectful shit with zero consequences.”

“If she goes into the world with that mindset, she’s gonna get hurt bad.”

“Luckily she’s learning this at home instead of out in the public eye and all that happened was she got yelled at.”

“If she tried this level of disrespect for others in a night club, she might spend the night in a hospital or worse.”  ~ REDDIT

“NTA- I went back and forth between ESH and NTA but honestly she sounds like a miserable brat.

“She clearly is not used to anyone firing back at her.”

“Could you have handled better, yeah but I get why in the heat of the moment you snapped so yeah, NTA.”

“Congrats the lifestyle change!! Good job!”  ~ Hayley_hayys

“Exactly. NTA.”

“And thanks for showing common sense.”

“People giving OP the everyone sucks here label is wrong.”

“Everyone sucks here is for when the actions are almost the same.”

“Years of mental abuse and no one standing up for OP does not come close to OP clapping back at his sister finally and for calling out his step mom’s hypocrisy.”

“OP. If this is real then keep doing you man.”

“Keep living a good life and f**k the haters.”

“A life well lived is the best kind of revenge.”  ~ prinzklaus

OP gave an update…

“Thank you so much everyone for your comments and the awards.”

“I’ve never felt better about myself than now.”

“And yes, I understand that 270 lbs was not ‘bordering’ on obese.”

“I’m 6’0 so I was pretty damn obese.”

“I called myself bordering for a few years after getting fat, it made me feel better than classifying myself as morbidly obese.” 

Well OP, Reddit is with you.

No one deserves to be belittled.

If you want, some family therapy maybe in order.

Otherwise, good luck.