We’re supposed to tread lightly when commenting on someone else’s cooking. And that’s especially true when we’re talking about a significant other.
But what if all logic points toward criticism?
A recent post on the “Am I the A**hole (AITA)” subReddit showed one form that can take.
The Original Poster (OP), known as fakemantis on the site, used the post’s title to pinpoint the meal at hand.
“AITA for not eating my boyfriend’s soup?”
OP began by setting the scene.
“My boyfriend made a beef stew/soup for dinner and I said I’d have some too. I get the bowls and table ready as he’s finishing up. He starts feeding his dog, who hasn’t been super into her food lately.”
“He tells me he’s going to mix some of the beefy soup into her wet food so that hopefully she’ll think it tastes better and I say okay.”
But then OP saw it.
“He uses the ladle from the pot to pour soup into the dog food and mixes around the soup+dog food with the ladle, then puts the ladle back in the big pot.”
“I didn’t realize what he had done until I looked over and it was too late. He basically mixed bits of dog food into the pot.”
OP was stunned.
“I was like ‘dude did you really just do that?’ and he didn’t think he did anything wrong.”
“I really did not want to eat the soup/dog food mixture, I thought it was kinda gross and so I just had a hot pocket instead.”
But OP’s hot pocket wasn’t well received by all.
“I didn’t think it was a big deal but now my boyfriend is upset with me for overreacting and not trying his soup.”
“It wasn’t like we were making it special for a date night or something, he was just hungry and I said I’d have a little bit too if he made food. We don’t live together. AITA?”
Anonymous strangers weighed in by declaring:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
- NAH – No A**holes Here
Most Redditors agreed with OP completely. They assured them they hadn’t been an a**hole.
Many responses were short, sweet, and to the point.
“NTA. He can eat his own Scooby Snack soup but I don’t blame you one bit for not being interested in Kibbles n Stew.” — TheRestForTheWicked
“NTA, bro, he mixed dog food into ya food, just.. no. Lmao” — BruhM00ment
“NTA – wow no, just no” — CassandraCole
Others offered slightly lengthier criticisms.
“NTA – When you cook for others, you need to be conscious about what your doing and how you handle the food. I doubt what he did is really harmful but yeah, it’s gross and unwarranted.” — bubbybyrd
“NTA. Oh my god, what????? No, of course you’re definitely not the asshole for not eating his soupy dog food concoction. This is just… what did I even read?” — cillianellis
“NTA. That’s so freaking disgusting. Where was raised to think that would even for second be ok??? Seriously call his mom, put her on speakerphone, and ask her what her opinion is… if she thinks that would be ok, go ahead and break up, lol…”
“…you don’t need those genes getting a chance at going further into the evolutionary line of humans 🤣 And as a former waitress, this seriously just made me throw up a little… that boy is nasty!” — kristiswright
“Ummmm NTA. My grandma would smack me if I tried to lick the spoon. She probably would have lost it if I did something like that.” — KaiWahine808
“Absolutely NTA. Dogs can handle bacteria that we cannot and dog food is generally not made with human consumption in mind.”
“Unless he makes his own dog food out of safe for human grade ingredients and serves it in a freshly washed bowl, the possibility of food poisoning or just general disgustingness is way too damn high.”
“They eat literally feces, roll in carcasses and lick their own a**holes. How does he even expect you to kiss him at this point?” — theSpruceMoose82
Some worried about the consequences of OP’s boyfriend’s cavalier approach to cooking.
“NTA – That’s some disgusting cross-contamination right there. Hope your bf has a long encounter with his toothbrush before you kiss him.” — -Alula
“NTA That is gross. I’m sure there wasn’t much in the way of transference, but gross.”
“I wouldn’t have been kissing him that night!” — Inevitable-Mastodon1
“NTA lol not one single person agreed with boyfriend. In fact I suggest you just throw away the whole boyfriend do you really wanna kiss dog food lips? If you keep him please worm him.” — watsgarnorn
“NTA: I’m not a germaphobe or anything but I’d break up with a person if they did that. If you’re comfortable with that, no telling what kinda of other questionable hygiene your practicing. Dog people can be very disgusting sometimes.” — adambrashear
A few shared some relevant stories of their own.
“Oh dear, NTA. Like… he should have fought about this. Putting it into the bowl with the ladle, no big deal, but mixing it (especially if it isn’t fully cleaned everytime after use)… nah. He should take his dog to a vet and there are SO. MANY. ingredients that could be potentially harmful to her, like garlic or onions.”
“(This does however remind me of a story my mum told me – when she was younger, there was a restaurant that sold the apparently best beef stew/gulash ever. Yeah, they were shut down because it was basically wet dog food. That stuff is normally high quality meat, so technically no harm done, but… yeeeeah…)” — Novel_Ad_7318
“NTA – my Gram used to share ice cream cones with her dog. She was content to do this. I found it horrifyingly fu**ing disgusting.”
“Both are fine (I guess…), but just because one person is fine something doesn’t mean most are and they don’t get to force it on others.”
“Gram didn’t try to force any of us grands to share ice cream with the dog. Your boyfriend doesn’t get to try to force you to eat dog food soup.” — Alert-Potato
Looks like OP’s boyfriend can expect to enjoy soup for one if he keeps his cooking habits as they are.