Humans tend to have a problem sharing food.
It can be an especially awkward situation when people are asked to share their favorite foods.
That’s why it’s good to get all food ownership out front and clear right away.
Case in point…
Redditor little__mouse__ wanted to discuss her experience and get some feedback. So naturally, she came to visit the “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) subReddit.
She asked:
“AITA for eating ice cream directly out of the tub?”
The Original Poster (OP) explained:
“I’m currently staying with my in-laws.”
“Before we came to visit, my mother-in-law asked me what pregnancy cravings I was having because she wanted to make sure they had them for me.”
“I mostly crave chocolate fudge brownie ice cream and they bought a lot of it for me.”
“I was eating it directly out of the tub since it never lasts more than two days max and nobody else was eating it as far as I was aware.”
“My mother-in-law’s goddaughter has been here for a few days now too and she saw me eating the ice cream from the tub and told me I was being gross.”
“Because somebody else could’ve wanted some and I should use a bowl instead of just eating it directly from the tub.”
“I told her I was going to eat it all anyway and she accused me of being greedy.”
“I started crying because we kept arguing over it and she was making me feel awful.”
“My husband saw me crying and was furious with her.”
“My mother-in-law has been trying to smooth things over between everybody but my husband is still angry at her.”
“And she’s still angry at me because she thinks I cried on purpose to make him angry at her.”
“AITA?”
Redditors shared their thoughts on this matter and weighed some options to the question AITA:
- NTA – Not The A**hole
- YTA – You’re The A**hole
- NAH – No A**holes Here
- ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
Many Redditors declared OP WAS the A**hole.
“YTA. I will be in the minority here.”
“I find it really confusing and insulting that pregnant women aren’t expected to act like adults.”
“Like I think we should be readily forgiven for not being considerate when we are growing a whole human in their body.”
“But I don’t think that we get a pass for acting like considerate adults.”
“You are putting your germs in a tub of ice cream.”
“It’s not that hard to use a bowl and spoon.”
“Eat as much as you want, but give someone the option to have some if they want.”
“You can’t help the tears because your hormones are haywire.”
“But you can just move on from this and use a bowl.”
“It doesn’t have to be a big deal.” ~ janeradar
“I agree entirely with this.”
“Sure they may have bought it with her in mind but she’s not the only one there.”
“If I was in the goddaughter’s shoes I sure as hell would have liked some.”
“But I’m definitely not going to eat it after somebody put their spit all in it.”
“Unless it was explicitly stated that it was for OP and OP only, I consider her the AH.” ~ birbbs
“Thing is, if OP was at her own house, I would totally back her.”
“But she is eating someone else’s food.”
“Being disgusting about it.”
“Have some respect for your hosts.” ~ Practical-Big7550
“The problem is that in a household with multiple family members and guests, anyone could come along and eat that ice cream not knowing that someone else has been eating it right out of the container.”
“I wouldn’t do this in my home even because I think it’s super gross to eat out of a container and then put it back in the fridge to grow that bacteria.”
“Because the freezer doesn’t necessarily kill bacteria and viruses.” ~ cloudsitter
“YTA. Other people might want it.”
“You are pregnant and can share ice cream.”
“In your own home, you do you..when a guest with other guests, assume that everything is shared.”
“Also, she clearly wanted some.”
“I don’t find what you are doing gross by the way.”
“And don’t judge you for eating it all.”
“But next time, before finishing it off, check that no one else wants some.” ~ mammaistired
“Understandable, but YTA.”
“Unless it’s labeled for you or otherwise segregated from the other foods, a guest or even other people in the house have no way of knowing you’re eating out of the tub.”
“And let’s be honest – it’s gross and a bit rude to spoon it from a huge tub directly into your mouth.”
“Not fatal and not worth crying over, but since you’re a guest in someone’s home, probably best to just use common basic manners.” ~ milee30
“YTA. You are contaminating a communal container.”
“Use a fricking bowl!”
“You don’t know if anyone else wants to have some of the ice cream.”
“Being pregnant is not an excuse for being a jerk.” ~ Vivid-Wasabi5180
“YTA, you could’ve eaten ice cream from a bowl but you were too lazy to do that.”
“It did make you look like another entitled pregnant woman who thinks that the world should adjust to her because of pregnancy.” ~ chichilex
“YTA. It is greedy.”
Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you alone get the right to call dibs on it, and especially not the whole freaking tub.”
“Being pregnant does not exclude you from having common manners and the ability to share.” ~ A-R-U
“YTA as you were made aware that others felt you should use a bowl and didn’t just… use a bowl.”
“I mean I’m the same as you and would generally just eat from the tub.”
“Also we’re not really that fussed about double dipping in general.”
“But if someone expressed they were unhappy then I’d just comply.”
“Really what was the deal with you refusing to use a bowl?!” ~ CaveJohnson82
“YTA, I find it hard to believe that you’re the only one eating a whole tub in 2 days.”
“If you’re living with others, always use a dish unless you’re finishing it off or you bought it yourself and put your name on it.” ~ DataHumble9711
Some on Reddit did have a few differing thoughts…
“It was purchased for her?”
“And she mentioned there was more than one tub.”
“If the goddaughter wanted some all she needed to do was ask for some and OP presumably would use a bowl for the next tub.”
“If something is mine I eat it however I want, if someone buys something FOR ME, I eat it however I want.”
“If it’s for the household without question I plate it.”
“When I buy something and offer to share I plate it. In our household that’s how it is for everyone.”
“If it explicitly belongs to the individual.”
“It really has nothing to do with her being pregnant. NTA.”
“It’s not what you say it’s how you say it, goddaughter could have said the same thing while being significantly less rude.” ~ Gloomy_Mycologist_37
“Even barring these factors, it’s the scale of the response that really shocks me.”
“Like yeah sure, it’s not cool to eat straight out of the tub if it’s communal food, but unless this is part of a larger pattern of misbehavior you just let that sh*t go.”
“Haranguing someone to the point of them being upset and crying over such a small matter is just grossly unnecessary.”
“NTA OP, but I guess yeah low-key ESH for eating straight outta the tub.”
“90% NTA, 10% ESH is my feels.” ~ mrcatboy
“Ok because I thought it was just me… they bought it for her so it’s hers.”
“If the goddaughter wanted some she should’ve just asked for some out of the unopened ones.”
“I’m sure op wouldn’t have minded sharing.”
“There’s no need in having a full-blown argument over it especially when you see someone is upset, pregnant or not. NTA.” ~ chelledees
“The problem is if she hadn’t seen the OP eating directly from the container the goddaughter might have taken ice cream from a container that had been contaminated by OP’s saliva and germs without knowing and eaten it.”
“That is pretty gross.”
“It wouldn’t be expected that someone was eating directly from the carton, and generally one doesn’t open a new carton until the open carton is finished.”
“She was probably upset because she imagined how close she was to ingesting ice cream mixed with OP’s spit, had she unknowingly served herself a bowl of ice cream.”
“Had OP made any attempt to let others know that I’d they wanted ice cream they should open a new container because she was eating directly out of the container?” ~ Junipermuse
“The problem is the goddaughter called her greedy after she said she was planning to finish all that one tube.”
“If she finished it, there’s no way anybody else will eat her spit.”
“She shaming a pregnant woman for eating too much.” ~ fa_pa
“NTA. I don’t really understand the AH comments in this case.”
“The ice cream was bought for you.”
“To be eaten… by you.”
“There were also multiple bought so if anyone wanted some they just had to claim it for general consumption and grab a bowl.”
“Crying as a result of stress is normal, especially when pregnant.”
“In this case, you and granddaughter are both guests and you happen to be a guest that got something particularly bought for them.”
“She had no right to say anything about it.”
“Eat your ice cream it was literally bought for you.” ~ Divagate113
“NTA. It’s ice cream specifically for you, a person carrying another human in your body.”
“You are allowed to eat your ice cream however you want.”
“And her getting pissed that you were crying is extra a-hole behavior.”
“She doesn’t get to dictate how others emote.” ~ fakezzzfake
Well OP, Reddit is a little all over the place.
Try to not let it get to you.
Enjoy the ice cream.