Woman Called Out By Friend For Continuing Difficult Ropes Course After They Tapped Out

It's always nice to go on an outing with a friend.

Unless that outing doesn't turn out as fun as we hoped it might be.

Most people tend to put their heads together, and figure out an alternative solution that pleases both of them.

Others might have differing opinions, often resulting in some unwanted tension.

Reddito viserya127 recently went on an outing with a friend.

While the original poster (OP), had fun on the chosen outing, their friend enjoyed it far less, even going so far as to call it quits halfway through.

When the OP decided to finish what they had started, their friend was anything but understanding.

Concerned she might have been insensitive to her friend, the OP took to the subReddit "Am I The A**hole Here?" (AITAH).

Unlike the similar 'Am I The A**Hole' (AITA) subReddit, AITAH allows Redditors to ask for advice on issues that are not permitted on AITA, such as asking for advice or posting about ending relationships. Voting acronyms aren't required, and no final judgment is declared.

The OP asked fellow Redditors:

"AITAH I refused to quit when my friend did?"

The OP explained why their friend was now giving her the cold shoulder following an outing:

"This summer, my friend (28 non-binary) and I (29 F[emale]) did a zip line obstacle course."

"We had both gone zip lining before, and we had done obstacle courses like this before, but this time, for the first time, we did an extreme course, the biggest and hardest in our country."

"For the first half of the course, all was going well."

"We each had obstacles we struggled with, but we always waited for each other and helped each other when needed."

"Until about halfway through, when my friend decided to call it quits."

"They said they had pushed themselves as far as they could go, so I sat with them (just hanging in my harness) while we waited for someone to repel them down to the ground."

"Once they were safe on the ground, I told them I'd meet them at the end of the course, then we could do the regular zip lines if they were still up for it."

"About 30 mins later, I finished the course and my friend said they still wanted to do the regular zip lines, so we did."

"Everything seemed fine then, but once we got in the car to go home, their tone shifted."

"They told me it was selfish to continue the course while they just waited for me to finish, and I should've called it quits when they did."

"I apologized but also explained that I wasn't going to quit something I had paid for (I also paid for their zip line fees), and that finishing that course was important to me."

"Every summer I try do you at least one thing that scares me or seems too difficult."

"It's an important part of my self-esteem building, and my friend knows this."

'The course was also 3+ hours away, not something I wanted to drive twice for."

"Since then, my friend has been avoiding me and bad-mouthing me to mutual friends."

"AITA for finishing the obstacle course instead of calling it quits when my friend did?"

Fellow Redditors weighed in, with some using the voting acronyms:

• NTA - Not The A**hole
• YTA - You're The A**hole
• NAH - No A**holes Here
• ESH - Everyone Sucks Here

The Reddit community was in agreement that the OP did nothing wrong by finishing the ropes course.

Everyone agreed that the OP had every right to finish the course that she paid to complete, with many wondering if the behavior of her friend may have been owing to jealousy or embarrassment:

"NTA."

"Friend made the decision to quit and should not have expected that you would follow blindly."

"Everyone has their own level of endurance."- skittles9005

"NTA."

"Your friend is embarrassed they couldn't finish and are taking the jealousy they feel over it out on you."

"Very immature friend."- LL2JZ

"You're NTA, your friend is suffering from FOMO and is taking it out on you because the regret of giving up is more uncomfortable than the feeling of blaming you."

"Funnily enough, I was you 2 years ago, right down to the ziplining course 3 hours away from home, and me paying for both mine and my friend's fees."

'My friend quit halfway through, too, but I carried on."

'The difference is that my friend stayed below and cheered me on and, when I got to a part that I genuinely thought would be impossible for me, she gave me a pep talk and pushed me through and literally screamed in enthusiasm when I made it."

"She apologized to me afterward for giving up on something that I paid for, and I told her, don't be silly, you gave it your all, the point is the experience, and we did loads of other things together that day, and it was worth it."

'That is how it should have gone down for you and your friend, and I'm sorry it didn't."- coppeliuseyes

"NTA."

"It seems like your friend is embarrassed that you can do something that they can't do."- datbreezetho

"NTA."

"Get better friends."- dbl-dd

"NTA."

"Your friend is weak, dishonorable, and selfish."

"Their inability to finish was not inherently dishonorable, but their handling of your ability to finish was."

"You deserve better."- 408jay

"NTA Your friend accuses you of being selfish while they were the one acting selfishly."- howlingmonkey93

"NTA."

"And the fact that they are bad-mouthing you is insane."

"Call them out on it."

"You did nothing wrong."

"You shouldn’t have to stop because they did."

"A good person would wait patiently for you to finish, and hell dare I say even be happy for you!"

"Your friend’s reaction is really weird."

"Sorry OP."- GaymerLounge

"NTA."

"Your friend should have been encouraging you to go on and been happy you completed it."

"They must be embarrassed they couldn’t finish but that’s not your fault."- Key_Sprinkles_5410

"You might have outgrown this friend."

"It happens a lot in your twenties."

"You realize that people you had fun with aren’t really your people and don’t love you the way you deserve."

"NTA."- PlaidChairStyle

"NTA."

"She should have been happy that you were able to complete it."

"Congratulations!"- ThisGirlIsFine

"NTA."

"It’s 'selfish' for you to finish the course but it’s not selfish that she expects you to quit because she did?"

"Twisted logic."

"As others have said, not your friend and she will pull you down and keep on doing so."

"Don’t let that happen—you’ve got grit and endurance."

"Go live your best life."- clfl123

"NTA."

"Good job finishing and paying for loser friends to quit too."- melenajade

"NTA."

"Your 'friend' needs to grow up."

"I'm shocked that they are acting this way at 28."- DeliciousButthole8

"You will always be the a**hole to...these types of people...but, in reality, you're NTA."

"Your'e friend is whiney baby that bit off more than they could chew."- Ok_Molasses1111

"NTA."

"His decision to quit does not mean you needed to."- RJack151

"NTA."

"If I'm paying for something I'm going to do everything I paid for!"

"Just because your friend quits doesn't make you have to!"

"Maybe if they paid for me I would've left when they were done, but if I'm paying, I'm getting my money's worth!"- Sweaty-Highlight6614

"NTA."

"A real friend would have cheered you on."

"It was selfish of them to expect you to quit too."- cassowary32

"NTA."

"Your 'friend' needs to get right with the universe on their opinion of what you should have done."

"They wasted your money by quitting."

"So I think they need to pay you back and not go with you anymore."- Ok-Writing8943

"NTA at all."

"Your friend is ridiculous."

"You were there to finish a zip line course, and by god you finished it."

"Since your friend already sports the NB label, maybe they should also try and explore the NWB identity, ie, Non Whiny B**ch."- Noirceuil_182

The OP later returned with an update, thanking everyone who took the time to comment, and agreeing that her friend's emotions may have gotten the better of them:

"I think the comments about being embarrassed and jealous are spot on."

"For context, I've always been effortlessly skinny (thank you high metabolism), but I am definitely not what you would consider 'fit'."

"I can barely do a push-up lol."

"My friend, however, has always struggled with their weight, but also boasts about how fit and strong they are because they did kickboxing growing up."

"I wholeheartedly believe they're more fit in a physical strength way; I just have more endurance."

It couldn't have been easy for the OP's friend to see her finish the course after they gave up.

Even so, being angry at the OP for wanting to get her money's worth is pretty childish indeed.

Especially considering the OP paid for their zipline fees.

One also has to wonder how good a friend someone who badmouths their friends to others actually is...